The ones who chase us.

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When I first got into the Community, I truly thought that I was creating all of this amazing attraction through the use of our tactics and routines and gambits and whatever. But, today I think totally differerntly. I think what the Community really does is just allow you to be social without coming off as awkward. It really teaches you to be comfortable with yourself and in your ability to interact with men and women.

I think picking up a girl is really as simple as approach, be fun, be interesting, be confident, but don't come on to her. Just be. If a girl likes you, they'll let you know...albeit it in a sutble manner. The important things are to understand when they're giving you the signs and then taking over the interaction from there.

If you find yourself chasing a girl it's because she's really not all that into you and probably never gave you any signs to begin with, or very lukewarm signs. But, being persistent does work, it definitely works. A girl, being chased, very likely will simply break down and say 'yes' one day just because they're tired of saying 'no.'

So, the reason why relationships are better with a girl that showed some aggressiveness towards you is because they actually WANT you around. The girls that you chase after don't really want you around, they simply tolerate your presence.

Pick up is a total numbers game and, in spirit, is incredibly simple. Approach and talk to as many women as possible, be confident and engaging during the interaction, have some value to offer her (other than your beautiful schlong), recognize the indicators of interest (wait for the green light), and then take the lead.

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Having a girl chase and choose you is nice. Rarely though does this actually happen.

A girl who wants to chase but won't might throw you a bone though. She will initiate contact via text or call. During this she will NOT ask you out though. She is basically making her presence known in the hopes that you will do the leg work.

I have met too many girls that are just old fashioned about going out. When I say old fashioned I mean they will not chase nor will they initiate the asking out. So it is still up to the guy to take the lead.

If you are not constantly trying to close you will more than likely be spending a ton of time by yourself instead of with a girl. It sucks but it is just the way it is.

Besides I always wanted to be the one doing the CHOOSing. If I wasn't choosing it meant that the girl was choosing me which often meant I was settling for second or third or fourth best instead of taking top prize.

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[QUOTE=UncleHOwie;35864][FONT=Calibri][SIZE=3]Sometimes I wonder if pursuing these girls is really worth it? I don't have many nights anymore when I go out sarging all over town. I am perfectly content going to Cowboys Red River and dancing with 7 different hotties and not asking for the digits. I figure if they want me, they'll let me know because the ones worth having in my past always did. I just don't have the energy and have realized in the long run yeah I can generate attraction to get things going, might even get lucky, but a lot of it turns to time wasted.[/SIZE][/FONT][/QUOTE]
[FONT=Calibri][SIZE=3]This is one of those full-circle situations where you internalize enough of the game and it goes back to being natural. You just be your bad-ass self and the women all choose you, then you have quality choice. Awesome![/SIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Calibri][SIZE=3][quote]I want the kind of girl who is totally into me, lets me be the crazy fucker that I am, and doesn't cramp my style. It helps the relationship flow much easier when you have this. Seems like the girls who pursued me were always the ones that appreciated the good and were accepting of most of the bad because the loved me for who I was. [/quote][/SIZE][/FONT]
I fuckin' love this part. I totally relate to this.

Great post.