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Eye Contact

Postby Guest » Tue May 12, 2009 8:33 pm

If you are talking to a girl about 3 inches away from your face and looking at her eyes and she looks at yours; and then she keeps darting her eyes down to your lips as you talk and then back up and then back down...is that considered a legit IOI? even if it comes from a girl that just considers you a friend?
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Postby Guest » Tue May 12, 2009 9:22 pm

It depends on the rest of the situation. Maybe you just had bad breath. Was she smirking/smiling? Was she touching you (arm or something?) Were there any other IOIs you noticed? You need more than one to go in for the kill.
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Postby Guest » Tue May 12, 2009 10:26 pm

He mentioned two IOIs IMO. If her face is 3 inches from yours, that is probably an IOI also. With the exception of dancing, only people in intimacy share that kind of distance. I do not know anyone I have ever talked to with that small of distance between our faces, besides my ex girl friend.
But I am no expert. Thats just my opinion. Smirks probably knows more on this situation than I do lol.
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Postby Guest » Tue May 12, 2009 10:37 pm

He mentioned its a female friend. The female friends I'm really close to will be all up in my space like that all the time. That's why it's gonna depend on other happenings.
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Postby Guest » Tue May 12, 2009 11:32 pm

i agree with smirks, its hard to say in this situation because you say that she is a "friend"

but typically, if a girl does that, its a sign that she wants to kiss; same as if youre talking and she applies lip gloss, licks her lips, etc...its subconcious...
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Postby Guest » Wed May 13, 2009 2:51 am

Think you would need a little more than that to answer your question.

Maybe you had something in your teeth?

Most girls make and keep amazing eye contact. For some reason I am always amazed every time. I guess girls are trained better than guys. I can't recall a girl ever doing what you are saying. Of course I am horrible at maintaining eye contact and usually look at the lips so there is a chance I just never see it happening.

Like Smirks said was she doing anything else? Touching your arm? Even with this if she is your friend I would expect her to touch your arm in friendly conversation.

If this is a good friend I would want to make certain she was into you before you make any move.

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Postby Guest » Wed May 13, 2009 9:10 am

She wanted a kiss. maybe not from you, maybe from you, but at that point she was thinking of you that way.
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Postby Guest » Wed May 13, 2009 11:09 am

hmmm maybe thats why she decided to look like Tomb Raider yesterday...yea we were just at the library tryin to study and when id turn to her to say something shed somtimes look down at my lips...but I hope smirk is WRONG about maybe my breathe wasnt up to par and she noticed and reacted lol...im seeing her today for the same thing...lets see if it happens again...im also going on a "date" (god i hate that word)...with this girl at the House of Blues...Live is performing...any tips/advice? its a online girl by the way so we never seen each other but she texts me all the time but ive played it cool/cockyfunny thus far
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Postby Guest » Wed May 13, 2009 11:55 am

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Postby Guest » Wed May 13, 2009 11:56 am

[quote1242232659=Gunner22]im also going on a "date" (god i hate that word)...with this girl at the House of Blues...Live is performing...any tips/advice? its a online girl by the way so we never seen each other but she texts me all the time but ive played it cool/cockyfunny thus far[/quote1242232659]


1) Be prepared for her to look worse than her worst picture.

2) I once read a study that 2/3s of women ADMIT to having sex with a man that they met off the net on the first date...in my experience, this is absolutely true...I can think of only 1 girl, that I wanted to fuck, that I did not fuck or get head from on the first date out of the numerous chicks I've pulled off the net.

3) This fits in with point 2. Keep in mind that you're are IN. So, don't worry about fucking around with attraction. Also, she's already pretty comfortable with you, enough so to go on a 'date' like this. I would say you're right on the cusp of seduction. As such, look to kino her as soon as possible. I almost always start the kino almost instantaneously. Look for a chance early on to break the touch barrier.

4) Understand that you only need to validate that you're a cool guy, you don't have to prove it to her. You just have to show her. This should take a lot of pressure off of you to try to impress.

5) The next time you have a 'date' from the net, don't commit to a long night like this. I've found that a drink works better than a traditional 'date.' It makes things more casual and allows you the option to get out early. Also, it's easier to escalate a drink than it is a 'date.' Start with a drink, then maybe you LEAVE and grab a bite somewhere else, then you LEAVE again and hit a different bar, then you LEAVE again to one of your places. Each time you get her to leave with you, when she didn't plan on doing so before the date started, it ups her comfort with you. It also makes her feel like you're a fun, adventurous guy. And, leaving one venue and going to another gives her validation too. I wrote about this before [link=http://www.dallaslair.org/p/forum/forum_viewtopic.php?21575]link[/link]
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