Newbie Mission

[Tribulus1000]

I was looking for a Dallas PUA newbie mission since I wanna kinda revisit the newbie mission for myself.
I could have sworn we had one. I guess we don't have one.

Would anyone like to suggest one or some ideas?

What do you think would be the best training program?

[parametric_dc]

Surround yourself with people who are better than you and are willing to teach you things.

[quipster]

Yeah I just posted this for someone else. We should come up with a couple of different missions and a quick kick start for newbies.

Have fun
Do 1000 approaches. (any and everywhere)
Practice eye contact on everyone and without being nervous
Say hello/hi to everyone, after a while
start asking questions: How is your day, Do you know where XYZ is, etc.
Even talk to guys when you are out. To them Talk about sports/work/weather etc.


Dont read too much material, just enough to get you started. If you can afford it, take a boot camp. This will warp speed your progress immensely.

passive value does help:
Get your hair styled (not necessary but shows you are in know)
body language
Work out
Cloths, this depends on your own style/age/personality

[Twitchy]

I fundamentally disagree with the "do 1000 approaches" that is common in the community.

To put it in another perspective, if I was just learning golf and went out and did 1000 swings, the form I was using to swing would start to become habit. However, I may not have the best form so making that form a habit would not be a good thing.

I think a much better newbie mission is to "game" 30 days in a row. The type of game can be anything - approach during day, online, work the phone, work your social circle, go to events, go to bars, etc.

The catch is that you have to type a field report each day and post it. This way you are not only self analyzing your actions so that you can write about them, but you will also be receiving constant feeback and therefore will be able to improve.

[quipster]

Agreed: 30 day challenge or alike is probably better.

The thing with the 1000 approaches or however many you want to do is, that it is meant to get AA much lower and you talking. The saying hello/hey to everyone is including in that.

[TopDog]

I fundamentally disagree with the "do 1000 approaches" that is common in the community.

To put it in another perspective, if I was just learning golf and went out and did 1000 swings, the form I was using to swing would start to become habit. However, I may not have the best form so making that form a habit would not be a good thing.

Correct. This reminds me of what my HS baseball coach would say(i'm sure it's from somewhere else though)

Practice does NOT make perfect. PERFECT practice makes perfect.

ie. to Twitchy's point.

[TopDog]

Practice eye contact on everyone and without being nervous
Say hello/hi to everyone, after a while
start asking questions: How is your day, Do you know where XYZ is, etc.
Even talk to guys when you are out. To them Talk about sports/work/weather etc.

THIS is the kind of stuff i wish more newbies would focus on instead of trying to find the magic panty dropper opinion opener. Just parts of the community that make you an all around better, more confident, more social person, whether it's in dating or your work life.

This type of work will aid you at work, at business/networking functions, and at the bar. These are the fundementals or the foundation to build on.

[grimm1111]

I think in the beginning it's about learning the theory, getting experience, and getting over AA.

I think journals are essential too, to get feedback on your progress and to make sure you keep moving forward.

After that, I really think it's the student's responsibility to learn. Everything is out there for the taking.


I'd say -
-Read "the mystery method" or "magic bullets"
-Get on the boards, find yourself a couple wings close to your own level
-Go out 4 nights a week, and do as many approaches as possible.
-Get a copy of Brad P's AA busting mission and complete it, if needed
-Post honest field reports, and ask lots of dumb questions.

[grimm1111]

Oh, and after that, I'd say

-continually identify your own sticking points either yourself or with your wings/ community board comments, and set small goals for yourself each time you go out to overcome that sticking point.

That's my MO.

[Vector]

Vector's basics for success in life:
1. Show up
2. Pay attention

In the context of pickup, especially for newbies, this translates into getting out of the house and an honest evaluation of what works for you and what doesn't.

One of the things that makes pickup challenging is that apparent signals (getting a phone number) can be misleading as to what is actually going on (no intention of seeing you again), so for newbies I think a lot of the observation should be focused on understanding and distinguishing true signals from fake ones.