how to start?

[Jester]

what's up, y'all? i don't like to consider myself an afc, but that's what i might be. i want to get into the game. i'm in my early 30's, my ex broke things off with me a year ago, and i'm now just feel like i want start things going. how do i get to pua status?

[zine]

you already are a pua.
1. Don't give a shit what anyone else thinks about you

2. Have fun

3. Contact me and I can get you some basic methods and fundamentals, those are really all you need. You don't really need to be clouding your mind with a bunch of forums and shit. You will waste time that you could actually be applying yourself.

4. It's about the journey not the destination.

5. This shit is all about love, loving yourself, loving others. I know I sound like a priest, but truly what are you here for?

[Technology]

Being a pickup artist from the beginning takes time bro, it does not happen overnight! I would start off by studying mystery method, and do the "newbie mission" work on approaching (please come up with some original material)
so many people nowadays are using canned material which is pretty much dead, cause i feel too many girls have been opened with it.. I am sure there are many posts like this! work on your image you want to set yourself apart from every other guy! work on posture,body language, and speaking freely.
there are books of suggested reading material on here, also meet ups which i have not yet attended but I hear they are worth going too and also encourage your development! and be open minded to suggestions and guides
they are on here for reasons! It took time to learn to walk and talk it also takes time to learn about game!

[Finesse]

Honestly, it depends on what your goal is. What do you want to accomplish by reading up on all of this?

[Jester]

i think that part of the lure of the community of pua's is that it's about self-improvement. originally, i stumbled upon 'the game' by neil strauss, and i was amazed. i looked back at times when i would found out that i was attractive to women whom i never thought would find me attractive, and it was awesome to see how it broke it down like strauss had written.

i don't know if my intent is to 'pick up' women. i just want to start having fun in life. i want others to enjoy my presence. someday, i want to get married, and i don't want to feel like i settled for second best in a woman, much less in life.

i look at how other guys (AFCs) used to see themselves as somehow inadequate. i think that's why i think i'm an AFC. sometimes, i don't feel like i deserve a great life. but, man, what else could i really want than a great life?

so i hope this answers your questions, and i'm thankful for the words. i am a pick-up artist. i think that, and it gives me confidence, but then there's this part of me that shrinks with it. am i ready to be that pick-up artist?

so in more detail, i want to the girls to want me and the guys to be like me. in my inner life, i want to be what's on the outside a reflection of the inside. i want to be confident, i want to get the girl.

it's funny that, zine, you said you sound like a priest. it's about love. i want to love myself, i want other to love me, and i want to bring love to other people.

so give me some ideas, people. what to do first?

[Rhody]

What to do first depends on where you are in pickup. If you have severe approach anxiety, I would say go to the mall and walk around. Make eye contact with every woman you pass and hold it. Keep count of how many women smile and how many say hi. Also keep count of how many look away, but look down. Those are all women who might be interested in you, and there are more than you think.

Next, I would say just chat up everybody you meet. Practice making inoccuous commetns to strangers. Then practice breaking the first thread of conversation and starting a second one.

Another thing to do is find some activity where you either have to meet new people or where you can be a leader of people. For example, I play basketball at the gym. Another thing I did was start a football group where we get together and watch games. I'm the leader of the group and everybody meets each other through me.

Also, go to our meetings and meet some wings. Go out and try approaches. Make it a game or scientific study and have fun with it. Be goofy or analytical, it doesn't matter. Just do it and have fun.

[phoenix_rising]

Read Mystery Method by Mystery, you can find it at Barnes and Noble for 20 dollars, and after reading it, decide if this is a road worth traveling for you. Because once you start, you have to follow through. there is no half way. Your either a pickup artist or an AFC. There is a town called pickupville and a river, on the other side of the river is AFC city. Anywhere in between the two, your gonna drown.

-phoenix