EX GF.. she psyches me out. Can I use PUA technique?

[bigdprince]

Ok.. need some help. Give me PUA play here. I'm curious to know if PUA works on former gfs. It's not my motivation.. but, I'm not going to be turning it off if you know what I mean.

Talking with my ex every now and again.. and she's moved off. She is smart, alpha chick, has the best BS. I can't give much background other than we were back on again and overnight it was gone.

Anyways... my GOAL is to leave a door open.. and 2 don't screw up shit with her BFF who is hot and I could like alot. In the meantime... I'm learning PUA, improving life and hopefully won't care.

I sent her the following myspace after she called me apologizing for not calling on my birthday:

Hey... keep your spirits up with your grandpa. I'll pray on it for sure.

BTW... I admit, I was an ass. But, you don't have to be... accept my friend request! And no comments about my picture.. I know what you think.

HER RESPONSE:

Calling me an ass isn't going to get you accepted as my friend, neither is that picture.


BIGD

[John Apollo]

What you wrote just proves to her that she got to you for treating you like shit. Brush it off and act like you don't care and stop bugging her to accept you as a friend on myspace...if she still has any feelings then once she feels you have pulled away from her, she'll start to try and bring you back to her, thus, opening and hopefully keeping your door open depending on what you do afterwards.

Just be patient. ex's know you too well so if you show them different behavior than what they are used to, then they will start to question themselves as to what you are doing.

[Twitchy]

Every girl I know who is on myspace or any of the dating sites like match.com HATES when guys show off their muscles or have their shirts off. They say it is try hard.

I would try going for a picture that shows you doing something fun, with friends or with a hot girl.

[bigdprince]

Every girl I know who is on myspace or any of the dating sites like match.com HATES when guys show off their muscles or have their shirts off. They say it is try hard.

I would try going for a picture that shows you doing something fun, with friends or with a hot girl.

So.. you think it's more about the picture? Man.. wait till she finds out that I'm dating her good friend. Time to dive into being a PUA. Really hard looking for something you already found. I've read some of your blogs... so, I think you can identify with that belief some.

bigD

[Twitchy]

It is tough to tell about exes...there is a lot of dynamics there. The fact that she hooks up with you now and then could mean a lot of things. She could miss you. She could be lonely and you are a known element in her life. She could just be horny. She could be testing to see if she still has feelings for you.

It is a lot more complex than a girl you have never dated before.

Regarding your picture, you should obviously be proud of your body. However, showing it like that is similar to a rich guy bragging about his money. Girls don't like that. Girls like it that you are successful, but they want to discover it on their own, not have it thrown in their face. I would put up a more modest picture that shows other attributes of you (sports, adventure, dog, hot girl) than just your physique.

If you really want to get the attention of your ex again, give her some space. A girl can't chase you if you are so close to her she can't take a step your way.

Think back to how you acted when you first won her over. And then act that way again x10. Show you are doing great, not needy and that other women are attracted to you. Nothing is sexier to a woman than a successful, confident man that has women chasing him.

I would be willing to bet, however, that once you start dating other girls, you won't be as into your ex as you are now. Something about having 10 women under you gets you over 1.

[bigdprince]

Good advice bro.. I'm looking forward to bumping into you out or at a meetup. Whole goal is to work on me.

bigD

[Welsh_Dragon]

hey bigd welcome along. treat this community with the 80/20 rule. 20% of the guys here are getting laid a lot. 80% not much.

Talking with my ex every now and again.. and she's moved off. She is smart, alpha chick, has the best BS. I can't give much background other than we were back on again and overnight it was gone.

Try to break your mind out this frame you currently have with this bird. She is clearly in control and you are compliant, even here on this board. In spite of this you do still hold value or she would be long gone and not still a FB. This is good news for becoming a good PUA because even without the skillset you can still demonstrate high value.

Imagine this scenario. You get really good at this malarkey and you have 2-3 HB8+ on pussy dial and ready to go any night you want. These are cool chicks too that you have fun with. When you go out you have the skillset to pick up more HB if you want or maybe get some threesomes going. Maybe you practice some SNL or toilet pulls. Whatever floats your boat. Now your ex holds less value to you. Would you commit to an exclusive LTR with her? Or just keep her in rotation - maybe even high rotation. This is what she is doing to you now. Your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to turn those tables.

[Twitchy]

Once you start refering to the girls you are dating as your #1, your #2, etc., you know you have made it. And trust me, by then, your ex won't be so important in your life.

Before you get too far into the community though, you should set your goals. It will affect how you sarge.

For instance, Sinn and Capt Jack push themselves to constantly develop themselves and their pick up skills. Because of that, they go mainly for SNLs and have a "one and done" philosophy. They rarely sleep with a girl more than once or twice.

In contrast, I want to have a serious relationship and eventually get married and have kids. To that end, I want to get to know the girls I meet better so I normally am running anywhere from 3 to 9 simultaneous relationships. I rotate them out as soon as I realize they are not long term material.

I don't push myself as much as Sinn and CJ do in the field because I am not hungry as I usually got laid that day already. Also, it raises my bar as if I already have a hot girl I know I can have sex with that knows what I like, I am not going to settle.

So, my approach and routines are not as strong as other good PUAs, however my relationship skills are top notch.

Set your goals and decide how you want to learn and grow.