by MagicBalls » Fri Aug 03, 2007 2:23 pm
LTP's. Long Term Projections. Overrated. Unless you're just being playful and creative, and she knows it, kinda like a mutual fantasy/daydream. If you're being 100% serious, it's not such a good thing. Why?
Maybe a girl just wants to have sex. Maybe she's a major slut. Your survival value is important in the context of attraction; however, that doesn't mean you need to give her indication that you want to spend the rest of your days with her. See, that's a not-so-subtle but important difference. If you do something so that she pigeonholes you in the "I may need this guy for future survival" category, she might just hold off on the sex so that you won't think she's a slut, even though she really is, as all women are.
So if you have a good job, you can focus on that fact that you got your stuff together and have some status, WHEN she asks about it. It could lead to a funny story about work. The social value of this is more important than the monetary one. But if you start qualifying yourself about how much you make or the things you have or your next expected promotion, then that's a no-no. You don't want her to think of you like you're her ticket to eternal comfort.
Somehow we've been led to believe by certain elements of society that before taking a woman to bed and knowing her (i.e. fucking her goddamn brains out), she needs to believe that we love her, don't plan to user her, will take care of her, blah blah blah. AH... AH... AH....BULLSHIT! (Bless me).
All that matters is that she can rationalize it later. And there are other ways of doing that beside her saying, "but he promised to love me forever."
Fact is, a one night stand can turn into an LTR; on the other hand, if she buried you like a dog buries a bone, you're fucked, and not in the literal sense. So even if you do want someone forever and ever, the quicker you take her to bed and the more often you take her to bed, the better your chances are of you bonding with her. So forget about "dating", "courting", "romancing", and all that poppycock.