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[TheAwakened]

I'm remembering how you told me that you're often a dick to girls because you don't really care about most of them. It seems that not caring may be both your blessing and your curse. On the one hand, it allows you to approach every female in sight because you don't give a shit what she thinks. On the other hand though, it's making it very difficult for you to build rapport because that essentially requires that you care about the other person. What you need to do is figure out the qualities a woman can possess that would lead you to care about her, and screen for them from the beginning of every interaction.

[NobodyUKnow]

If you *think* you suck, then you suck. If you *believe* you rock, then you do.

More than most things, your state of mind has a huge impact on success with women. I think you know this. Everyone has bad days, bad weeks, even bad years. Not everyone thinks it's because of some fatal flaw they have, and that's important.

I've met thousands of people, and I have never met anyone who I could say was fatally flawed, although I won't go so far as to say they don't exist. IMO they exist because they believe they are. I will claim they are truly rare. I don't believe you are one of them.

[MagicBalls]

At least you're not doing as bad as this guy:

http://www.albinoblacksheep.com/flash/bunny

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[H_Raja]

Try a different style. What kind of shape are you in? Head over to the gym if its not good. New wardrobe.

[NobodyUKnow]

If you *think* you suck, then you suck. If you *believe* you rock, then you do.

More than most things, your state of mind has a huge impact on success with women. I think you know this. Everyone has bad days, bad weeks, even bad years. Not everyone thinks it's because of some fatal flaw they have, and that's important.

Things exist in an objective reality. I can't become rich by *believing* I'm rich. If I think I'm an olympic track star, I'm still not going to win the 100 m dash.

A lot of guys and even some people in the community dilude themselves into thinking they're good when they are not. There are guys that go into sets and weird the girls out, but they think they have good game. The solution to sucking is not to dilude oneself into think he's good, it is to develop the skills needed to achive the goals one wants.
Westfall

I'm not speaking about objective realities like being rich or good looking... I'm speaking of subjective areas... these are the things that attitude has a huge impact on. I am not suggesting that by believing you're a pimp PUA that you will be if you've never practiced... I'm suggesting that believing you're shit when you HAVE practiced will have an impact.

Of course it doesn't do miracles, but attitude DOES have an impact. Don't delude yourself, either positively or negatively. Just be as truthful as you can about your skillz, and then make decisions from that.

[MagicBalls]

I know how to resolve this matter:

If you think you suck, then by way of self-fullfilling prophecy, you will suck.

If you think you suck but honestly believe that you have the potential to be as good as anybody, then you'll find creative solutions to improve.

If you think you suck and also think are hopeless, you will sabotage your own progress and blind yourself to behaviors that are keeping you in that hole.

If you think you rock, then you could rock, but you could also suck, in which chase you might want to take some objective observers along and have them see the areas where you are deficient and can improve. This is good even if you do rock, because then you can rock HARDER.