by Elation » Sat Jul 28, 2007 7:53 pm
wow
um, ok.. flowers
first off it should be cleared up that flowers in and of themselves ARE NOT of any real value. It's what they represent
Just like any gift you give a woman, it's about the meaning behind it.
Flowers do however carry a special weight because they traditionally signify romance and beauty.
So then when is it ok to give flowers? Well, it depends on why you're sending them. If you're giving flowers as a trick to make the girl like you more thinking that somehow she'll think your sweet or kind or romantic, chances are she'll see through it as approval seeking, creepy and week. She'll enjoy the ego trip that another dumb guy is swooning over her, but it will be more annoying than anything.
Flowers can be sent with two successful meanings though. First one is if you send them to a girl that you know is thinking about you all the time and you want to let her know you're thinking about her almost as much as she is you. It makes her feel special that you appreciate her so much that you would take the time out to send her a completely random gesture of affection. It's also one of the biggest possible potential boyfriend signals on this planet. Key in this situation is that it has to be random and the relationship has to be slightly in your favor so that the flowers only balance it out.
The second situation it can be a good idea to send flowers to a girl is to apologize. It says to her that you care enough about the relationship to take the thought and effort out of your day to let her know that you realize you made a mistake. Now some girls will still throw those flowers away, because they want to make sure they can hear from you that you're not just spending money to buy them back but that you actually admit that you were wrong and out of line. The only times you can really mess up and have flowers actually work to win her back is if you pushed her away because your ego was so big that you didn't leave any room for her. She feels that you don't respect or appreciate her enough and that you don't give her enough love and affection.
But guys, sending flowers IS NOT about getting laid. It's about letting the girl know how important the relationship is to you.
I will say this though; I did know a romantic once. He was a seducer, slept with hundreds of women. He played the whole romantic angle because literally no other guy on this planet does this. Only way it worked though was because he was automatically always higher value than the girl to begin with. They were already attracted and digging on him. Go read the art of seduction for more insight about how to seduce your victims
-Strapper