Girls subtle IOI's

[Maver1ck]

Guys,

I noticed the following from girls a lot.

#1. touching you, as if by accident.
#2. bumping into you, as if by accident.
#3. touching your ass, as if by accident, while passing
#4. preening their hair
#5. laughing and showing their teeth
#6. Talking too loud to get your attention, if you aren't paying any whatso ever.
#7. giving you proximity! standing near you.
#8. Taking a picture of you, as if taking a picture of something behind you (I know many of us guys do this. But it happened to me this week, where a chick took a pic of me)
#9. checking you out
#10. Asking you to take a picture of them.

Now, a guy with low confidence is so in his head that he wouldn't notice these. You are always thinking, what is my line? how am I going to approach her? what should I do? is she interested in me?

Also, remember that women are subtle, they don't shout out of the rooftops 'I want to fuck you....!' So you have to tune in to what they are communicating with their body language. this means that you are confident enough in yourself, that you don't worry so much about what you say or do and comfortable in approaching or being in the club you are at. So you are not in your head all the time!

If the venue is new, go there at 9pm - when there are not so many people. shoot the shit with the bouncer, the bartender etc., and the few women and guys that are there. builds your own comfort and gets you in the talkative mood.

To get yourself in state, listen to your favorite music. if you have friends, call them and shoot the shit with them. pump yourself up! put yourself in state.

Another thing I noticed is, get some openers ready. get at least 3-5 topics you can talk. rehearse it if you will. try them on your friends. get used to them. so you won't stumble when you approach a woman on what to say.

I read an article in men's health saying that you have to gauge the woman's normal behavior vs her behavior when she looks at you and gives body language.

Finally guys, Assume rapport and treat them like your best friend. you wouldn't be afraid to approach some good old buddy, you would be delighted and it is a pleasure to see her. you want to catch up with what is going on since you last met. so use this frame! when approaching.

Also, remember to use the frame of 'It is always on!' (David De Angelo). while the IOI's above are great, when you have a strong frame and even if the girl is not attracted to you initially, when you approach and do the things to spark attraction, she will become attracted.

So IOI seeking is kind of a way to mask your insecurity. so don't look at her for IOI's. just approach and have fun with it.

[Finesse]

Guys,
Finally guys, Assume rapport and treat them like your best friend. you wouldn't be afraid to approach some good old buddy, you would be delighted and it is a pleasure to see her. you want to catch up with what is going on since you last met. so use this frame! when approaching.

I agree with everything except this. I don't assume rapport. I push/pull them away until I build attraction, and have her qualify herself. Then switch to rapport mode. I do think that you have to be pleasurable, and social though.... Nobody wants to talk to a dick, Dick. haha (Name that quote.)

[JohnnyBravo]

.... Nobody wants to talk to a dick, Dick. haha (Name that quote.)

My guess: George W. Bush talking to Dick Cheney after Cheney shot attorney Harry Whitting while quail hunting. Haha.


Now for my serious answer: Breathless Mahoney (Madonna) to Dick Tracy (Warren Beatty) in the 1990 film Dick Tracy.

[Finesse]

Fun with Dick and Jane, and there is one other movie but I cant think of it.