A dispositional question is the kind of thing you only ask if you're predisposed to questioning justabouteverything. It's Galileo asking "is it *really* flat?" Game, itself, started with just such a question: can you-pick-him guy get good with women?
Here's another: is willpower important to getting good at game? Most guys take it as a given that to get good at this stuff, they have to go through a pain period. Do they?
Really and truly, I'd like to have a dialogue here, but just to speed the plow, I'm going to try to get the early back-and-forth squared away.
Side 1. Willpower matters because guys that don't muscle through internal resistance to, say, approaching a set, don't tend to thrive.
Side 2. Willpower is forcing yourself to do something. That works for making money or grades, but not for relationships. If you habituate a willpower brain regarding women, it'll fuck you up later.
Side 1. No it won't. You have to break in a new habit of doing something strange: approaching women is a good thing, and if you aren't used to it, you gotta have a willpower phase. You can drop it later, once you're acclimated to the new way of being a social and seductive man.
Side 2. But if you want to be that kind of man enough to use willpower, you're already thinking that way. The exercise of will isn't about being social or seductive, it's about something else: fear of rejection, lack of congruity, feeling insecure, etc. Willpower doesn't lead you to get over that shit, it masks it. It's better to deal with those things head on rather than ignoring them and "plowing."
Side 1. So . . . Years of therapy? Game is about shortcutting the need to obsess on what's wrong with you. If you approach enough women, you won't have to deal with those things. After "plowing" through enough sets, whatever issues you have will sort themselves out.
Side 2. No they won't. You'll just feel like girls are idiots for not realizing you don't really have your shit together. Instead of "faking it til you make it," take your resistance to, okay, approaching, as a signal that you're messing up. There's a stress-free, organic way to talk to girls. If it feels like something's wrong, it is. You're in the wrong venue for you, or you're talking yourself into talking to women who you aren't really that into, or you don't have a way to accommodate your goal's ends (your apt isn't dressed for female company, for instance).
Side 1. That sounds ridiculous.
--that's part of where this dialogue goes, anyway. Now I'll say what I think.