Staying in contact with ex?

[Jaws]

Hey guys,

So I have been pondering this topic for a while and wondered what you guys thought of it. Is it ok for someone to keep in contact with their ex if they are in a new relationship?

[Jaws]

Alright so maybe to put it in another way.. I had a rough time with my (recently) ex-gf who was all buddy buddy with her ex and I decided to end it because of that... and some compatibility issues. But am I crazy or would you guys date a chick who's on regular speaking terms with her ex?

[Triumvirate]

Is this a real question or an opinion opener?

[crow]

Jaws--of course not! I mean . . . of course so! I mean . . .

Listen, every relationship is different. Every person is different. Every ex is different.

In your last relationship, your gf was refusing to honor your boundaries. Maybe in your next one, those boundaries will be different. That's fine. It's not oppressive or unusual to say "no talking to your ex," and it's not madness not to worry about it.

Not for nothing, based on this and your other posts, I don't like her. You seem like a thoughtful dude who got burned and is now insecure. I think this particular ex is a . . . yeah. Don't want to say all kinds of negative things, but I'm thinking them.

[Kool]

I personally don't see an issue with a current girlfriend being friends with their ex. I am friends with a few of my ex's but, I don't call them on a regular basis to chit chat.

If they speak often to each other I do find that a little suspicious. From my experience and my friends whenever we speak often to our recent ex its a sign that we want to get back together. Most of the time we get back together.

My questions to you is how often do they speak to each other?