MY sticking points

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1. social calibration
2. being social
3. Mixed sets.


1. Im not sure wether its a by product of sarging but I lost my social intelligence because I stopped being social and only hung out with very close friends and stopped talking to others who were part of my social circle.

2. If I don't find people interesting I feel no need to talk to them and feel like i'm wasting my time.

3. When I see a attractive girl that has a guy around, like in a 3 set. The dude gives me a bad look. I would prefer not getting into fights that I don't start with insecure dudes, hell I don't want to fight anyone or deal with the repercussions of a physical altercation.

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I would suggest going out for a while with no intention of pulling chicks, and just concentrate instead on meeting people, making friends maybe, and just having a good time. This would be the best way to exercise your social skills. At the very beginning it might be a good idea to come equipped with 6 or so conversation topics you can transition into if you get into an awkward lull in conversation. These topics don't have to be necessarily funny or DHV, but just interesting enough to engage people.

But like I said, don't focus on pulling chicks or getting numbers or any of that stuff. Measure your success of the evening on whether or not you had a fun time out. Hopefully with women out of the picture, you'll soon stop viewing other dudes as competition and feel less of an urge to punch people out.

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[QUOTE=Fuzz;40823]I would suggest going out for a while with no intention of pulling chicks, and just concentrate instead on meeting people, making friends maybe, and just having a good time. This would be the best way to exercise your social skills. At the very beginning it might be a good idea to come equipped with 6 or so conversation topics you can transition into if you get into an awkward lull in conversation. These topics don't have to be necessarily funny or DHV, but just interesting enough to engage people.

But like I said, don't focus on pulling chicks or getting numbers or any of that stuff. Measure your success of the evening on whether or not you had a fun time out. Hopefully with women out of the picture, you'll soon stop viewing other dudes as competition and feel less of an urge to punch people out.[/QUOTE]

Yeah, i know about the intention thing. Honestly I would be ok, if the dude threw a punch in my face I used to train for MMA. But not trying to number close means no pussy and thats no fun.:( But it would also help me to get into state for being fun like I used to be and make me a more happier person which hopefully will cause my witt to come back and I won't need routines anymore like I did not use and I could get girls infatuated fast because I was charming through being fun/witty and thats how I used to to get girls. Thank you, you really helped me out to realize why i'm having this problem. Now I can fix it.:)