inner game= clueless?

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anyways ive been told that I need to work on my inner game. i vaguely understand what inner game is, but i know this much so far: That i destroyed my limiting beliefs and have never felt AA in my life. i also rarely doubt myself.


i think the problem resulted from the fact that I just came out of debilitating depression which lead to be bed ridden for months. the same depression that stole my personality and game from me.


any explanation of what inner game is and how to fix this would be really helpful.

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Inner Game refers to issues that you have to deal with internally in order to be the best man you can be. Issues like AA, Limiting beliefs, confidence, even fashion. Anything that is keeping you from reaching your potential that you can directly influence inside of yourself.

If you just went through major depression then it is likely imho that you do have some beliefs about yourself that you could work on.

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Like I said in the other thread, you need to HONESTLY evaluate yourself. You have some beliefs about yourself that don't seem to be 100% true at the present time.

Trax gave a good explanation on what inner game really is. GJ Trax.

I never finished it, but this is a good book

[URL]http://www.amazon.com/Evolve-Your-Brain-Science-Changing/dp/075730480X/ref=cm_cr_pr_product_top[/URL]

and

[URL]http://www.amazon.com/Brain-That-Changes-Itself-Frontiers/dp/0143113100/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1299076122&sr=8-1[/URL]

was suggested to me by a friend.

[URL]http://www.amazon.com/How-Win-Friends-Influence-People/dp/1439167346/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1299076311&sr=8-1[/URL]

is supposed to be a 'life changing' book according to the same friend...but he admitted he heard that from someone...hasn't actually read it himself. It has great reviews, though.

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[QUOTE=Smirks;40538][URL]http://www.amazon.com/How-Win-Friends-Influence-People/dp/1439167346/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1299076311&sr=8-1[/URL]

is supposed to be a 'life changing' book according to the same friend...but he admitted he heard that from someone...hasn't actually read it himself. It has great reviews, though.[/QUOTE]

Win friends and influence people is on my bookshelf and I've read most of it.

It's good, but only in the context of framing for social advancement of any sort. Not really a inner game type book, IMO, it's kind of like an extension of routines, but how to game people in general, groups of people.

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For inner game try:
- reading a new earth and power of now by eckhart tolle
- read affirmations, download some affirmations on mp3 and play when you sleep and free time.
- get david ds 77 laws audiobook

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[QUOTE=Gunslinger;40562]For inner game try:
- reading a new earth and power of now by eckhart tolle
- read affirmations, download some affirmations on mp3 and play when you sleep and free time.
- get david ds 77 laws audiobook[/QUOTE]

i hate tolle, i ve read his stuff and its hard to understand and my iq is pretty high. i have david deanglos programs. if you read his DYD, he constantly contradicts himself. although he says being playful and tease the girl is the best way to go( what i did before i knew about PU). i don't follow him to a tee.


plus im not severaly depressed, just angry about life. I had a few messed up things happen to me. one such thing was falling in love with an Actual Psychopath, who ruined my life and thats why im back in Dallas.

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The best thing to pump up your Inner Game is achievement. Go achieve some things without concerning yourself with women. Get some shit accomplished and you'll find your Inner Game gets much, much better.

Books and affirmations mean shit if you don't have past life experiences that you can cling to and say to yourself "hey, I did xyz. I did that. I'm pretty bad ass man..."

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[QUOTE=Bull Run;40565]The best thing to pump up your Inner Game is achievement. Go achieve some things without concerning yourself with women. Get some shit accomplished and you'll find your Inner Game gets much, much better.

Books and affirmations mean shit if you don't have past life experiences that you can cling to and say to yourself "hey, I did xyz. I did that. I'm pretty bad ass man..."[/QUOTE]

i used to be a pretty solid dude. I honestly aggravate myself when i see where i ended up. not to say im a chode, i just have some regrets. Im just not sure what i need to work on. i killed a majority of my LBs, but my attitude is kind of crappy...so that might be a good place to start.

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[QUOTE=maenad;40568]my attitude is kind of crappy...so that might be a good place to start.[/QUOTE]


Hey man, I can identify with you pretty well. I'm 31 years old and for as long as I remember I struggled with depression. Growing up I always told myself that if I just had this or if I just had that then I'd be happy. If I just had money, I'd be happy. If I just had a good education, I'd be happy. If I just lost weight, I'd be happy. If I just had a girl-friend, I'd be happy.

Then, I went out and did all of those things. Shed 100+ pounds when I was 24, got an MBA, landed a great gig paying me way too much for what I do, developed a proprietary investment strategy that has helped me create a nice pot of gold.

You know what? I STILL wasn't happy.

So, I sought to tackle the woman issue. I did and found myself enjoying the love and affection from many different beautiful women over the last few years.

You know what? I STILL wasn't happy.

That is when I realized that happiness is not what you have, it's not an external thing granted to you by the world. No, it's a state of mind, it's an attitude. It's the freedom to do whatever it is that you want to do. The last six months or so there's been a huge shift in me. I've identified a handful of goals I want to achieve, not because I think they'll make me happy but because I want to achieve them. I think it'll be cool to do so.

You know what? Women have zero place in those goals. They are not a focus for me at all. Yet, I've got a sweet little 22 year old girl pining after me. A fuck buddy that I met in the grocery store that lives two blocks from me (she's about 15lbs overweight which is why I don't take her out, but she fucks like a champ and she's pretty tolerable to be around when my dick isn't inside one of her orifices). I just started seeing a half Russian, half Ukrainian that lives in Keller, which is perfect because it limits how often we can hang out.

I met all of these women while I was focused on doing OTHER SHIT. Women can sense when a man has more important things to do than to deal with some girl's bullshit. It's an attitude. It's freedom. And they want to take it from you. They want a taste of freedom. You become a vacation to them. A break from their boring lives.

All of this because you decided to focus on more important and worthy causes than a woman.

Imagine that...

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BR is absolutely correct in his analysis. It took me 34 years and a divorce to discover that happiness was an internal thing.

Looking back on my 34 years of life, every meaningful relationship I have ever had happened when I was focused on doing something else.