Rape fantasy

[Guest]

Has anyone ever had a chic tell you she fantasizes about being raped? I had this happen to me awhile back. I thought I could do it but found the idea slightly nauseating. I don't mind choking a chic if she's into that, but a whole rape ordeal sounds like a lawsuit waiting to happen.

Recently two of my friends both told me they had chics ask them to fullfill this same fantasy.

So I became curious and did an online search for more info. and I found an post in a generic yahoo search by Tyler Durden that was quite dated, but an excellent read. He recommended the book My Secret Garden by Nancy Friday which has a story about a chic that was raped and she basically talks about it and admits that it was intensly pleasurable.

I bought the book and had it sitting on my coffee table when a chic came by last night and she saw the book and was like "your reading a book about womens sexual fantasies?!" She had that, I want to fuck you right now look on her face after I explained to her that 30% of women have a fantasy of being raped by a stranger but are too ashamed to admit it.... Good times.. :o)

Then I was telling my ex gf about the book and she said "do you want me to leave my apt. door locked or unlocked tonight?!" (we hadn't seen each other in a few weeks since breaking up...)

I think theres something psycholigically usefull in this shit and I'm going to do some homework just for shits and grins...

[Guest]

The number is closer to 100% bro than to 30%. Personally, almost every girl I've ever discussed this with has admitted to a fantasy like this.

Shit, read any trashy romance novel, they almost all have a rape-like scenario in them.

And, yes, I've helped more than a few women fulfill this fantasy.

But, why? Do women want to be raped? The answer is only by an alpha male.

There are a lot of other similar dynamics. For example, women don't want to be objectified by all men BUT they want THEIR man, assuming he's alpha, to use her as an object of HIS desire. Women love players, they just don't want to be played. They want validation, but don't want a man that provides it all the time. The list goes on and on. Women are a study in contrasts.

This is why listening to what they say is almost never the right thing to do...

[Guest]

I don't think women want to be raped.

[Guest]

Ze rape fantasy is very common, ya.

I don't believe all women want all of their fantasies to come true in a literal way. For the record, I also don't think that's what BR was saying, I think he was making a point that the rape fantasy is probably the most common one, but... here would be my take.

A fantasy is like a cake. If a cake is made of milk, eggs, sugar, etc., what ingredients would you mix together to make a rape fantasy (wow I just creeped MYSELF out with that sentence... wicked cool).

1 part raw, untamed sexual aggression (100 percent of women want this)
1 part sex that is in no way their fault (100 percent of women want this)
1 part humiliation and violenc (some women want this, some don't)

Fantasies are safe way to indulge these base desires without any consequences. If you make the fantasy real, you might make the consequences real, and you should realize that she might not be prepared for that.

I could go on but... blah blah blah.

That's all I got. Dr Freud has left the building.

[Guest]

Well... Obviously we have a rapist in Lincoln Park.

He's climbin in your windows, snatchin yo people up. So hide yo wife, hide kids and hide yo husband too cause they rapin everybody down here.

I couldn't resist that one... Sorry guys.

This girl I'm having sex with now tells me the times she is the most turned on by me is when I take control of shit. In the bed or otherwise. It can be something as simple as ordering for her at a restaurant. Also she gets pretty bossy when we are having sex. Do this, do that, don't stop, etc. She is used to guys doing whatever she wants to please her. But several times(everytime actually) I have been as blunt as telling her to shut the fuck up, because I am going to fuck her however the the fuck I want to. Now she knows what she likes, but for some reason she is more turned on by me ignoring her bossy little attitude that most beta guys fall for and taking complete control of the sex we are having. She can not help that she wants that. I think that it is the element of of them losing power and control combined with you not abusing this power and control. In a weird way it shows you deserve it and makes them trust you even more. It has nothing to do with violence or shame. It has everything to do with the guy having his way with her.

[Guest]

[QUOTE=Carnal;38363]I don't think women want to be raped.[/QUOTE]

Limiting belief.

I would recommend that you give this some more thought.

[Guest]

I most def. will give this some more thought. Thanks for all the feedback!