Two Questions

[Guest]

Ok so I went to a Jewelry store today. James Avery specifically, because they have this awesome ring called the[URL="http://secure.jamesavery.com/jewelry/search/product/R-125A/Alpha-and-Omega-Ring/"] Alpha and Omega Ring[/URL].

I have been debating with myself whether to get it for my right hand ring finger or as a pinky ring. So I asked the women in the store. There were three women there. ( A Matron (60ish), A Monster (young and but ugly), and a HB6 (Girl next door). ) I try on the ring as a pinky ring and the matron likes it, but the monster and HB6 are definitely not digging it. They both say go with the ring finger ring. This brings me to my first question. What do you guys think is the sub-communication of someone who is wearing a pinky ring to todays women? I am really lost here as I do not know what it was sub-communicating to them, but whatever it was, it was definitely negative.

Now, my second question. I have started to notice a trend with store clerks, and I am wondering if you guys see this. I will use the above as an example as it happened to me at the Jewelry store and has happened at other retail locations.

The scenario is that I walk into the location and the first person to approach was the hb6. Now the matron interjected, and I shifted focus to answer her, and the HB immediately exits the interaction to go do something else. This has happened twice now and I can not piece it together. Is the Matron alpha in the female world and therefore the beta girls are going to back off and do something else? Is it that the HB feels some level of interest and backs off because it's a work interaction? I'm really not sure, and am really lost on this one, but it keeps happening.

Now don't get me wrong, I'm not going into retail stores to pick up, but I am trying to understand interactions in different environments and I have noticed a pattern here and want to understand it.

[Guest]

To your first question - Jewelry accentuates and highlights. For example, a girl might wear earrings to accentuate a facial feature, or flashy rings if she feels she has pretty hands, a catchy belt if she likes her waist and butt, etc.

A pinky ring to me is delicate. Your pinky is your weakest and most delicate finger, and wearing a ring on it shows that you want to accentuate that feature. Wearing a ring that emphasizes your pinky could be seen as highlighting your vulnerability and sensitivity.

Another thing - if you are overweight and have big fingers, trying out a ring is going to draw attention to that fact, and you'll be judged on how you handle that attention. Putting a smaller ring on your pinky finger summons the same effect as a combover on a guy with a receding hairline or a chubby girl in spandex. It suggests that you haven't accepted your physical gifts.

That's way more in-depth than we need to go, but probably why their gut reaction was "no" to the pinky ring. It is very subtle, not a big deal, and they only gave you that feedback because you engaged them for help.


To your second question - impossible to say. Do women have a "pecking order?" Yes and no. All groups of women, similarly to men, have leaders and followers but women are more cooperative in nature. The bottom line - if you would have shown interest to the HB6, the matron would have let it happen unless HB6 was taken.

BUT the very fact that you call her an HB6 suggests to me that there wasn't much there.

[Guest]

She was probably bored and really just didn't care what you were doing there.

Service jobs aren't types of jobs that people do because it's fun. They do them because that's all thats there.

[Guest]

1. I know some guys can pull off the pinky ring. These guys usually have multiple rings on their fingers though, usually both hands. My vote would be put the thing on your ring finger.

2. I believe those people are called Greeters. They welcome you to the store, say hello, and then the salespeople take over.

[Guest]

Rings are a function of the entire ensemble.

You can pull off a pinky ring finger if you have at least one other ring on another finger (on either hand, doesn't matter).

The most masculine ones are thumb and index finger rings. The reason is because they're big and bulky and project masculinity. The pinky ring projects fashion and softness. If you're rocking a thumb or index ring, then offsetting one of those with a pinky ring can, and does, work. Sometimes, constrasts are just as important as blending in.

I rock rings all the time. But, I don't ever wear just one ring. Unless, it's on my thumb or index finger. Then, it's perfectly fine. Also, if you're going to get a pinky ring, get one that is a simply band. No need to draw a ton of attention to a small ring.