WHaT Is The DeaL!

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IMy approach game and ability to close is nice. For some reason unknown I can't seem to get sexual/romantic. I've been talking to a coworker (HB10) she knows we have something. Conversely, the feeling is mutual. The chemistry we share is insane. Our bond exudes to the extent that everyone around us (including customers) notice it. I've picked up on several IOI's. For instance, whenever I make/made eye contact she a)smiles as her eyes glow or b)looks down/away quickly. I'd in essence just been building value. However, I’d never been able to tell her how I feel toward her because of work and the risk associated with it. Fortunately, I recently received a promotion which granted me the opportunity. So, I asked her to go to a Football game with me and she accepted, I never came out and said it was a date but we’re both intelligent and I felt like was apparent (it was just the two of us). However, on the day of the date one hour before the time we’d scheduled earlier that day she txts me that she can’t go because she received terrible news regarding her grandmother. She apologized for not being able to go last minute. This morning 8:00am she txts me that her grandmother had passed. I called her immediately she was taking it hard I had nothing to say but I sat on the phone and listened. I asked herif she was alone she said yes so I went over to be with her. I didn’t make any moves I felt it would be wrong to do given the circumstance. I still felt the chemistry a bit, she enjoyed my presence and was happy to see me. I’m just wondering if she is interested given the info in the book I just wrote, lol and if I should have made a move and told her I’d like to get know her better

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1. Walls of text are difficult to read.

2. I don't understand why you getting a promotion makes it alright to date. It is much more acceptable for coworkers to date if they're equals in the workplace.

3. Two people going to a football game is not a date. What makes it a date is how you behave, how you lead the interaction. Don't assume she thought it was a date just because it was one boy and one girl. Hot chicks end up in these situations all the time, and they're good at pretending to be oblivious to the interest of the other person.

4. Telling her you want to get to know her better is not making a move. If you're curious about what you "should have" done, you should have paced the interaction. It's ok to comfort someone when they need emotional support, but consider what that communicates to her. There are three people she will cry in front of: her family, her lover, and her girlfriends. Well, you're not her family. If you're not alerady her lover, then you're one of her girlfriends. However, you can pace that by saying something like, "now I'm here today for emotional support. You're not allowed to hit on me until the next time we see each other. I mean that. Today I'm your friend, so don't even try it. Tomorrow I'll go back to being a walking penis."

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I’d never been able to tell her how I feel toward her[/QUOTE]

You probably shouldn't tell her either. At least not until you've fucked her a few times. Even then it's probably not a great idea.

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Good write up dude!
This is going to be a rather long process for this particular rendezvous. And you will probably end up in a serious relationship or end up empty handed. After seduction, it will not end up one or the other as your bond with her is too deep to be casual fuck buddies.

Because of where your relationship is at you will have to offer her support thru this tough time. Thats what a good sympathetic friend will do. Your bond will be much tighter if you do.

Sounds like you are defo stuck in comfort with this HB10. Its sometimes a little awkward to break out of the comfort zone when you've gone too far into that end of the spectrum.

When I've been in your very same exact shoes, I usually have a more suave cassanova type approach. She may not understand cocky funny as a subcommunication but instead feel challenged by it simply because of the comfort she enjoys. So my advice is to avoid being cocky funny too much. You see, she doesn't want to lose that comfort because it's not worthe risking what she knows feels great for something that might not work at all (in her eyes).

Instead, if you arent already doing this, begin working on your kino with her at the appropriate times. Example: Something I always do is brush a chics hair off her forehead with my finger, face to face, while locking eyes. And then break rapport like you guys did not just have a moment. You know if the move was accepted or not and if it is then you can possibly move to touching erogenous zones or at least touching and/or holding her hand. But each time you kino/break rapport immediately.

You have to set a certain value for yourself in what you truly want and break rapport if necessary untill she rewards you with cooperation.