Sticking Point: Time Management

[Guest]

Sometimes we have to make big sacrifices to better ourselves as men, and I'm in the midst of that now. Right now, my top goal in life is my career, and getting to a point where I can finally start making some real money. Currently, I am under a freelance contract that expires in December, but the job itself will give me valuable experience for what comes ahead. It's only one step to getting to where I want to be, but it's a very important one that will pay-off in the long run.

As it is, I don't have time for much of anything else. My workload is rigorous, and I'm keeping odd sleeping hours and working a minimum of 7 days a week. As a result I don't have much time for women, and sadly, no time for close friends, or even family. Even though this is a very important sacrifice, the imbalance of priorities is wreaking havoc on my happiness, confidence, and inner game.

Currently, I have only one female contact, an FB, who I can only manage to see about once a week, if even that at all. She's not as high quality as I'd like, but it's easier than going out sarging, which I have no time for. I think finding someone new would help boost my self-esteem. I have my eye on four potential targets at work (none of which I work too closely with), but because I know them from work, I have to tread cautiously.

Either way, I feel like all the advances I've made in my game are slowly slipping away. Going out to bars and sarging seems totally impossible right now. I was wondering if anyone's ever been in similar a similar situation, and how did you handle it.

[Guest]

Yes I have been in similar situations. The way I handled it was simple. I had to stop thinking of game as a means to an end or way to acclomplish something and think of it as a mentality. Saying you don't have time is your way of giving an excuse. If game is your way to get the one girl you fixated on or to get a girl and you don't, can't or struck out then you start to feel like you have a lack of options because it didn't work in that instance or the way you wanted it to. If it is the mentality that you have, you open girls at the supermarket, the place you grab lunch, and yes at work. My ruts and down times have been well documented by me on here and on my own blog. I feel like the confidence thing is very easy to get caught up in because the ultimate pass/fail and measure of yourself and your game is based on someones approval. I don't use game anymore. I have game. See the difference.

[Guest]

Do you never go shopping?
Or go for a jog?
Or go to the bank?
Or do some of your work in a coffee shop?
Or grab a drink with your friends a couple times a month?

... they're all opportunities to meet a chick.