So I was at Cafe Express yesterday with Prodigy and Playercool, when it hit me. Actually it was Playercool who said it, did my thinking for me.
I am looking in all the wrong places. All the wrong places for what I am looking for.
What am I looking for? My next LTR, ultimately. Not really the bar fly type. You see, the girl Shantelle ended up having a kid. So I nexted her. And while she is only one girl of many posibilities, it got me thinking that I am looking for love in all the wrong places.
So what am I to conclude? I hereby promote day game to number one gaming priority. More day game for this cat.
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Social Dynamics
by Guest » Sat Sep 18, 2010 3:32 pm
General observations, from solo sarging in Chicago with a camera and watching hours of footage. Eye opening stuff.
On a personal note, I used to not be able to solo sarge - in fact at the beginning of this journal I couldn't do it. Well now I am sarging solo at the biggest bars in Chicago with no hangup. I feel that's a milestone that should be recorded here.
Now on to the general observations that I've learned....
[B]WHO IS AT THE BAR?[/B]
Everyone falls in to one of these groups...
[B]Lurker Guys[/B] - these are the guys who stand around the walls. They are typically older, sometimes there alone or in a group of guys, and stand around looking at girls and "people watching." They want to meet girls, and often approach. A few of them have game, most do not. Every one of them will size you up at the bar. **Notice - the girls at the bar notice how the "lurker" guys respond to you. If you are "alpha", you will get approach invitations from the girls.
[B]Friends[/B] - groups of friends (cliques) who are out with no intention of talking to people. These people are usually in mixed sets, sometimes bf/gf dynamics going on, 9/10 times there will be cockblocks etc, and they typically prefer to be seated at tables. These groups can be opened, but are more advanced, and respond well to traditional Mystery Method or other indirect game. Often found at college bars etc.
[B]Singles[/B] - girls who want to talk to guys. Typically groups of 2 to 4 girls, they make eye contact, proximity, etc. These girls respond the best to situational direct openers, and high amounts of confidence.
[B]Bachelorette Parties[/B] - A subset of the "friends" group, but with no dudes. Usually a train of girls, usually peacocked out pretty well.
[B]WHO IS THE EASIEST GIRL TO OPEN AND ATTRACT?[/B]
The one who looks the most bored talking to the guy/girl she's talking to, so she's throwing out "save me" eyes. You'll get these approx every 15 minutes from some girl at the bar if you keep your eyes open. **Groundbreaking Notice - this has NOTHING to do with how attractive she is. Sometimes it's the 10 that's the easiest to open, other times it's the 6. There is no correlation whatsoever. Just look for the one who's bored.
[B]WHO IS THE MOST DIFFICULT?[/B]
The one who is talking to a guy and totally in to what he's saying. Again, there is no correlation to attractiveness.
[B]WHAT SHOULD BE THE GOAL IN OPENING?[/B]
To be interesting and confident. Look for "save me" eyes from bored girls, and jump in. That is the easiest set to run if you are observant enough to notice.
[B]SO WHY DO SINGLE GIRLS GO TO BARS?[/B]
To have FUN. They want to have interesting conversation that stimulates them emotionally. They want to have their buying temperature pumped up.
[B]WHAT IS THE EASIEST WAY TO FLY SOLO[/B]
Girls DO NOT care one bit if you are out at a bar alone. If they are in the "friend" group above, they are in their own world and unfortunately don't notice you. If they are single, they want to be opened. Lurker guys will size you up, but if you have a confident air, people will respect you.
The easiest way to fly solo is to walk in to a bar, pick a spot near the middle, and look for the single girls (see above) who are either in a boring conversation with a dude, or with another girl. They'll be giving you eyes or proximity. Open situational direct, and start to qualify right away. If she shit tests you, pass the shit tests. Get her number. You then have social proof with the others at the bar, and you can open any single girl (defined above) at the bar.
On a personal note, I used to not be able to solo sarge - in fact at the beginning of this journal I couldn't do it. Well now I am sarging solo at the biggest bars in Chicago with no hangup. I feel that's a milestone that should be recorded here.
Now on to the general observations that I've learned....
[B]WHO IS AT THE BAR?[/B]
Everyone falls in to one of these groups...
[B]Lurker Guys[/B] - these are the guys who stand around the walls. They are typically older, sometimes there alone or in a group of guys, and stand around looking at girls and "people watching." They want to meet girls, and often approach. A few of them have game, most do not. Every one of them will size you up at the bar. **Notice - the girls at the bar notice how the "lurker" guys respond to you. If you are "alpha", you will get approach invitations from the girls.
[B]Friends[/B] - groups of friends (cliques) who are out with no intention of talking to people. These people are usually in mixed sets, sometimes bf/gf dynamics going on, 9/10 times there will be cockblocks etc, and they typically prefer to be seated at tables. These groups can be opened, but are more advanced, and respond well to traditional Mystery Method or other indirect game. Often found at college bars etc.
[B]Singles[/B] - girls who want to talk to guys. Typically groups of 2 to 4 girls, they make eye contact, proximity, etc. These girls respond the best to situational direct openers, and high amounts of confidence.
[B]Bachelorette Parties[/B] - A subset of the "friends" group, but with no dudes. Usually a train of girls, usually peacocked out pretty well.
[B]WHO IS THE EASIEST GIRL TO OPEN AND ATTRACT?[/B]
The one who looks the most bored talking to the guy/girl she's talking to, so she's throwing out "save me" eyes. You'll get these approx every 15 minutes from some girl at the bar if you keep your eyes open. **Groundbreaking Notice - this has NOTHING to do with how attractive she is. Sometimes it's the 10 that's the easiest to open, other times it's the 6. There is no correlation whatsoever. Just look for the one who's bored.
[B]WHO IS THE MOST DIFFICULT?[/B]
The one who is talking to a guy and totally in to what he's saying. Again, there is no correlation to attractiveness.
[B]WHAT SHOULD BE THE GOAL IN OPENING?[/B]
To be interesting and confident. Look for "save me" eyes from bored girls, and jump in. That is the easiest set to run if you are observant enough to notice.
[B]SO WHY DO SINGLE GIRLS GO TO BARS?[/B]
To have FUN. They want to have interesting conversation that stimulates them emotionally. They want to have their buying temperature pumped up.
[B]WHAT IS THE EASIEST WAY TO FLY SOLO[/B]
Girls DO NOT care one bit if you are out at a bar alone. If they are in the "friend" group above, they are in their own world and unfortunately don't notice you. If they are single, they want to be opened. Lurker guys will size you up, but if you have a confident air, people will respect you.
The easiest way to fly solo is to walk in to a bar, pick a spot near the middle, and look for the single girls (see above) who are either in a boring conversation with a dude, or with another girl. They'll be giving you eyes or proximity. Open situational direct, and start to qualify right away. If she shit tests you, pass the shit tests. Get her number. You then have social proof with the others at the bar, and you can open any single girl (defined above) at the bar.
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