breaking rapport?

[Guest]

does anyone know a few ways to break rapport which is a skill of a natural and it gets attraction started.

[Guest]

ok guys, i found some ways that might help: disagree, tease, disqualify, Physical: push her away, turn your back to her, look away during conversation, cancel plans youve made with her. these might work to generate more ways to break rapport.

[Guest]

I'm not sure exactly what you mean by "break rapport". Like what purpose are you going for here just generating attraction or what?

[Guest]

There's a couple different ways to break rapport. It just depends on what you are trying to accomplish.

Breaking rapport can be used as a frame thing. It sets up or establishes a new frame as well as generates attraction and other things. It sounds as if you are trying to generate attraction though, although my reads have been off lately.

Like Zine said, is there a specific thing you are breaking rapport for?

And damn Zine... 4:25am...... shit that's early. Especially on a Saturday.

[Guest]

yep i m trying to break rapport to generate attraction, but i lost my ability to tease because i lost my humour do to having to become more serious in life.

[Guest]

The easier rapport breaks come right after you tell an engrossing story. You break it with something comical.. kinda like that Ace Ventura skit that was posted recently.

There are other things that I guess you could call reverse rapport breaks. You go from funny good time to serious deep rapport material.

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I've found it extremely important to learn to have a playful attitude about most things in life. There definately are times to be serious, but it's not while you are trying to attract a girl. I have found that it's hard for me to become attracted to the girl if it's not playful. It's cool to have a focus and goals in your life, but never taking breaks and letting yourself have a little fun actually hinders ever obtaining your goals and never gives you a chance to just feel good about yourself. It is always one thing after another and will just end up stressing you out more than anything. I learned to have more of a playful attitude by listening to alot of comedy that I liked maybe you could try that.

One that's extremely powerful that you didn't mention is intrigue. Hold things back and make her guess what's going to happen next. Like just today I set up a date with a girl on tuesday. I told her I would think of where to go today and it went like this:

Me: hmmm, do you prefer long or short?.. In relation to time not other stuff I know you a perv lol :p (long or short date)

Her: long lol

Me: afternoon or evening? (picnic and rock climbing or dinner and drinks)

Her: both

Me: alright I have decided

Her: What are we doin?

Me: 2 things 1 is a picnic and the other you should wear something you can move around in.

Her: What's the other thing lol?

Me: guess you will just have to show up to the picnic to see then now won't you? :p

Her: telllll meee


She's been tryin to get me to tell her what we doin all day she tried to bribe me by saying that shed flash me right when we met up.. The lesson don't give all the details. Leave alot of things for her to wonder about while you are away. Curiosity may have have killed the cat, but leave a girl curious enough and her attraction for you will go through the roof. The great thing is that even if you think you lost your sense of humor you can be intriguing. Btw you shouldn't do it every single statement or she will feel like you just holding things back because you are scared or unsure, just a peppering of it will do.

[Guest]

I think the easiest rapport breaks are playful. You know the famous one, right?
"You and I would never get along. We're too similar. You wouldn't take any of my shit and I wouldn't take any of your shit. We would have to roll with nerf foam bats, just in case we have to throw down." (credit to Tyler Durden)

Telling a girl that you would never get along or that she's not your type is a rapport break. You've probably heard or seen a lot of them.
"You are so cool. It's too bad I'm gay."
"I really like that about you. It's too bad you're not my type."
"You are either the coolest girl I've ever met... or a total weirdo. I haven't decided."
"Oh my god. We are so broken up. I want my CDs back."
"You have beautiful black hair. It's a good thing I only date blond girls, because you would be so mine!"

A great one is to offer to find her a guy. Scan the bar and find the goofiest guy there (probably me). Tell her that guy is perfect for her.

You want a pseudo rapport break, not a real rapport break. (If you want a real rapport break, then kick her in the ass and tell her to fuck off.) You want to communicate that you want her to go away while subcommunicating that you want her to come closer.
"Stop that. Don't show me your belly button. You might make me like you too much."
"You have to go away right now. I'm a good boy, and we might just have too much fun."

And, like someone else said, you can disagree. So if she says you have a flat stomach, say, "well, enjoy it now because I'm going to eat a large pizza by myself later." If she says you're funny, tell her that you can be serious sometimes. (credit to Juggler)

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Don't think of it as breaking rapport. Rapport is good. If you happen to have things in common, or she is open and friendly, GO WITH IT! Just escalate things sexually. Breaking rapport on purpose is just over-gaming if she already is in to you.


Think of it this way - instead of breaking rapport on purpose, you want to NOT seek rapport or chase after rapport. That should be your focus.

Here is an example of very bad game that will get you blown out:

You "I like the Dallas Cowboys a lot, I am a season tickets holder. Do you like sports?"

Her "No, it's not really my thing."

You "Oh, actually I don't either really, I just got them as a present."


That's called seeking rapport - girls screen against this especially early in the interaction. Just don't do this. Stick to your guns.


Here is a much improved version that will generate attraction every time.

You "I like the Dallas Cowboys a lot, I am a season tickets holder. Do you like sports?"

Her "No, it's not really my thing."

You "How cute, you're such a little girly girl. I'm gonna call you Barbie."


Do you see how this is different?

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[QUOTE=grimm1111;37088]Don't think of it as breaking rapport. Rapport is good. If you happen to have things in common, or she is open and friendly, GO WITH IT! Just escalate things sexually. Breaking rapport on purpose is just over-gaming if she already is in to you.


Think of it this way - instead of breaking rapport on purpose, you want to NOT seek rapport or chase after rapport. That should be your focus.

Here is an example of very bad game that will get you blown out:

You "I like the Dallas Cowboys a lot, I am a season tickets holder. Do you like sports?"

Her "No, it's not really my thing."

You "Oh, actually I don't either really, I just got them as a present."


That's called seeking rapport - girls screen against this especially early in the interaction. Just don't do this. Stick to your guns.


Here is a much improved version that will generate attraction every time.

You "I like the Dallas Cowboys a lot, I am a season tickets holder. Do you like sports?"

Her "No, it's not really my thing."

You "How cute, you're such a little girly girl. I'm gonna call you Barbie."


Do you see how this is different?[/QUOTE]

This is good content here.

Maenad. If you find yourself getting stuck in comfort it could possibly benefit you to break rapport. Knowing when to break rapport is key. I break rapport at times early in a relationship to find out how invested she is. When are you trying to break rapport? When I first started out I broke rapport alot to find out the limits and the uses of it.

Often times during an opener I would build or break rapport by changing the position of my body language without actually using statements that break rapport... Kinda like body rocking.

Some guys don't need to break rapport, like the above quote, because of their personality style. They have a way of causing the girl to stay engaged based off of attraction and the chemistry of playful teasing. I recommend the example in the above quote...