I just got ljbf'ed!!

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2. She has the potential to be a stage 5 clinger. She made us matching bracelets (This is the first time I've seen her since the night we met). Nuff said.
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That's marriage material...;)

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Hey Bro!!

What's her background? 1st generation? What country?

I've been meaning to work on a thread about Latinas. I'm like the god of Latin women, haha... or shall we say I really like them. To the point that it's almost all I date.

I'm going to cross post a thread from ABC's and hope you find some value. I don't want to retype everything.. but, most of my friends the last 5 years are Central and South American.

Look for 2 posts from Johnny Malibu - Me.

[URL]http://www.abcsofattraction.com/community/newbie-board-beginners-hell-f49/latino-women-t4959.html[/URL]

PS.. I think you're way over thinking this one!! But, I already have a strong opinion and good advice. Like to weigh in on this one.. just want little more info.

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[QUOTE=bigdprince;37029]Hey Bro!!

What's her background? 1st generation? What country?

I've been meaning to work on a thread about Latinas. I'm like the god of Latin women, haha... or shall we say I really like them. To the point that it's almost all I date.

I'm going to cross post a thread from ABC's and hope you find some value. I don't want to retype everything.. but, most of my friends the last 5 years are Central and South American.

Look for 2 posts from Johnny Malibu - Me.

[URL]http://www.abcsofattraction.com/community/newbie-board-beginners-hell-f49/latino-women-t4959.html[/URL]

PS.. I think you're way over thinking this one!! But, I already have a strong opinion and good advice. Like to weigh in on this one.. just want little more info.[/QUOTE]

I don't know her all that well, but she was born in Mexico and moved to the states at a young age. Having said that, she goes to Mexico every year and is very in touch with her culture.

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I have just recently met a cute lil latin chick. When I first met her she was super sexy and passionate. At that point I was very impressed with her and was considering actually having a relationship with her. She had original insights and fun, deep, and flirty conversation with me. She then broke up with some other guy to go out with me (I did not tell her to do this) however now she's needy as hell. She wants me to call her every night and has a near endless barrage of compliments which were nice at first, but now they kind of gettin annoying.

I swear all that passion has become neediness. She is suddenly the girl version of afc. Do you think that I'm just misconstruing the situation since it could just be her culture or do you think the situation makes it where I probably wont see that cool flirty passionate girl I actually liked again? If she was like she was when I first met her I think I would really enjoy seeing what could happen between us. Any tips on getting back to that point, or is she just going to be all needy from now on?

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[QUOTE=zine;37036]I have just recently met a cute lil latin chick. When I first met her she was super sexy and passionate. At that point I was very impressed with her and was considering actually having a relationship with her. She had original insights and fun, deep, and flirty conversation with me. She then broke up with some other guy to go out with me (I did not tell her to do this) however now she's needy as hell. She wants me to call her every night and has a near endless barrage of compliments which were nice at first, but now they kind of gettin annoying.

I swear all that passion has become neediness. She is suddenly the girl version of afc. Do you think that I'm just misconstruing the situation since it could just be her culture or do you think the situation makes it where I probably wont see that cool flirty passionate girl I actually liked again? If she was like she was when I first met her I think I would really enjoy seeing what could happen between us. Any tips on getting back to that point, or is she just going to be all needy from now on?[/QUOTE]

This is very normal. They are supremely clingy. That won't change much in my experience. What seems to work with them is lowering your guard and just laying it on thick. Accepting the passion thing and using it to go where you want. For some reason you don't DLV yourself doing that at your point with Latinas. I've noticed a couple frames with Latinas.. the Attractive Carnival Queen ( that you liked ) and the Settle-down Clinger.

The neediness/clingy is the biggest battle I've had with Latina's especially when I lost interest. Because I found it hard to lay it on thick when I was mad or not sure. In fact, things would end up falling apart if I handled it like the typical American guy. But, I found out from the Latin guys that they just lie to maintain the state. It's amazing how much Latin guys get away with.

So, if you can get your head around laying it on thick and then following with I want us to always be honest with each other.. ( this is where you say what you liked about her and how you want her/you guys to be ). Just do it in a way that makes her feel special. Know you will have to keep the passion comment's at a level that American's and other cultures are not comfortable with. It's like the bottle's I make for my nephew... hide some broccoli right behind the pudding.

I think it's worth it tho... nothing like a happy Latina doing the Shakira on top of me yelling... ay papi.

**Prodigy.. sorry delay posting follow up in few.

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1. What can I do to make her see me as a potential sexual partner or bf?
2. Would you just keep her as a friend and move on because it would require too much effort?

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Ok.. since she is from Mexico and very in touch with her culture.

Here is my opinion:

I believe she really liked you. I've found that when dealing with Latina's that often have to throw reason out the window. At least how we see it as Americanized or PUA. Because of their culture they are very proud some they will admit to and some they will not.

-Heavy affiliation to Catholic thinking
-Ritualistic - 15 year old quincenerra ( need more proof - )
-Very anti slut or want to be perceived as good girl (based off culture values).. but, they like to play in secret
-Heavy into family ( they can spend more time in 1 week with family than you do in an entire year period ). Want to think you relate and that they would like you.
-Very passionate ( free feeling and free to show feelings - at least when there is attraction.. and this helps open them )
-Taught that white guys and Americans are cold lovers and don't get it
-Attracted to dominate men that know what they want. Have no qualms about feeling like a guy that doesn't get the above is a Marica.

So.. in a sense.. from reading your posts. I think you're over thinking this whole thing. I've found playing up the passion and laying down an amor de primevera thread works amazingly with them. I play the angle of I don't know why I'm supposed to know them, but I feel it from the core of my being. That I'm just supposed to. That we are going to be friends for a long time.

Calling you a friend isn't a big deal. In fact, they call the guys they hook up ( regularly ) their "special friend". Very common vocab in their world. Plus, she may be used to saying that because they try to hide their romantic affairs from the outside world. Especially since you are not latin. Latin guys have no qualms about being racist to a chiquitas face about being with a pale face or whomever else.

Again, they like to be prim and proper in public settings where they are socially conscious about it hurting them or their families image. ( Bearing that they are traditionally cultured ) So, I like to do the play hand hold and maybe a secret kiss where people can't see it. Play this game with them. Letting go when it gets too risky. They eat it up. It's a great way around that defense. So start getting in the moment and playing that game.

Text her.. te quiero mucho. It's safe, but risky. In spanish it means I like you, but it can also mean I love you. She will probably come back and want to know what you mean. Because that little phrase can mean SO MUCH MORE. When she does ask that's when you run PUA text game, but heavy direct and playful (just be sure to salt and pepper it with the romance passion and then transition into that full on). Ask what does she think it means? Laugh... and then say well you're a really special friend. It will keep coming up.. and when it dies down you bring it up and say well I want to tell you what it really means.

Then play the destiny thread....

You have a time gap to bridge... ( as I would have already used the above ), but I think if you amp up the passion... and just add some serious sounding truth you will get there. EX: A passion truth: I couldn't get you off my mind all day.. I kept thinking about that dress you were wearing and my heart was jumping. ( they say jumping in the latin world ). Then act like you feel like you were meant to know her and your going to know her forever. Even say that...

They eat it up.. it's one of the few cultures I've found where the women DLV you for being too "cold" and actually reward you for being uncomfortably mushy.

That's my 2 cents and spin on it. I know she likes you.. god, she made bracelets. Amp up the sexy man... these women get hit on by dirty old men in 3rd world countries when they are just baby girls. So I'm going to tell you to go direct.. or I'll coin it as Direct Passion.

Anyways, it's been awhile since I met you.. but, I know you have the passive value. So I think just add the direct passion and your golden.