I just got ljbf'ed!!

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I number closed a solid 7 maybe a 7.5 this past Saturday and have had a few conversations with her via text. In my text messages, I feel that i'm definitely showing interest and what my intentions are. I don't quite remember The entire conversation on Saturday, but I thought I made my intentions clear that I liked her. I've escalated properly (at least I assume so)..

For example, at one point I placed my hand on her lower back, to which my fingers were laying on the top part of her ass. she moves my hand up without saying anything or changing her body language. I admit, it was a little lower that what I usually do (for the record, I was pretty hammered).

I know she finds me attractive. I remember jokingly saying that I was gay and she was bummed out about it; she even mentioned that she liked me.

Most of our conversations have been focused on comfort, or gettting to know each other, etc. Interestingly enough, she has referred to me as her new friend twice.

From my experience, Im pretty sure I have just been ljbf'ed.

My question is:
1. What can I do to make her see me as a potential sexual partner or bf?
2. Would you just keep her as a friend and move on because it would require too much effort?

Your thoughts would be appreciated.

[Guest]

She moved your hand up, not off. She told you she likes you. Also, calling you her "friend" is normal if you haven't f-closed her yet. Even if you have f-closed her, what would you expect her to call you?

I think you're over-thinking it. Just keep escalating on her high points and you'll be good.

[Guest]

Prodigy, what girl was this?

[Guest]

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Interestingly enough, she has referred to me as her new friend twice.

From my experience, Im pretty sure I have just been ljbf'ed.

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Is this the only reason you think you are in the friends zone?

[Guest]

[QUOTE=Lion;36834]Prodigy, what girl was this?[/QUOTE]

one of the two Hispanic girls we met at the W, not the taller one, but her cousin, the shorter one.

[Guest]

[QUOTE=Just/Us;36835]Is this the only reason you think you are in the friends zone?[/QUOTE]

Yes. Given the context, I think you would agree. Here is a small excerpt of our text conversation.

HB7: I’m old. :/ 21. I’m turning 22on july 30. :D
Prodigy: Old? Lol, you’re a baby! ;p so what are the big plans for your 22nd?
HB7: No se. :/ Maybe go eat sushi. :D
Prodigy: I’m not a big fan of sushi, so you can just invite me to the afterparty lol
HB7: Im not having one. Sorry. Im excited I get to wear this cute dress I bought. :) yay!!!
Prodigy: So you’re not going out at all afterwards? Hmm, interesting...
HB7: No. I just want to go eat some sushi with my cousin and some close coworkers. Nothing big. Just me sushi and my dress. :D
Prodigy: Lol haha! You sound so excited about the dress...!
HB7: OF COURSE im excited!! :D it looks so cute on me. :)
Prodigy: Haha, if you say so. Remember to send me a pic and I’ll be the judge!
HB7: Ok. :P
Prodigy: I hope your feelings don’t get hurt easily because I’m brutally honest lol
HB7: I could care less what you say to me. You nobody. I’m honest too. :)
HB7: Hey Prodigy, I was joking...you are somebody. You’re my new friend right. HUG!!!
Prodigy: lols haha. Me a nobody? Psssh, you obviously don’t know me yet! I’m the biggest douchebag dallas has to offer
Prodigy: I’d rather you be honest than a liar...
HB7: sooo your douchebag cus you just want to be one. That’s cool well good luck with that. :P WELL I know that no matter who come into my life, I will never change who I am. Im a good person AND im proud of it.
HB7: Gosshh your so proud of it. How sad. :/ I bet you are a nice guy but your just to scared to show it. Why are you scared?? Who made you scared. Was it your x. be honest with me friend
HB7: oye Prodigy. I was at the lab and just notice my text were send at different times. :D I hope what I sad made sense. :)
Prodigy: blah blah blah

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the texts were copied over verbatim. As you can see, you called me her friend twice. I can understand that if she was introducing me to her friend and we haven't fucked and are not dating, she would call me friend. Here in this context, no was no purpose for doing so...therefore I get the vibe that she wants to just be friends....

[Guest]

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[Guest]

[QUOTE=Prodigy;36837]one of the two Hispanic girls we met at the W, not the taller one, but her cousin, the shorter one.[/QUOTE]

Remember that English is not their first language. 'Friend' in her mind could mean something else. She probably calls everybody 'friend' like we say 'dude'.

My advice - power through.

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[QUOTE=Prodigy;36838]Yes. Given the context, I think you would agree. Here is a small excerpt of our text conversation.

HB7: I’m old. :/ 21. I’m turning 22on july 30. :D
Prodigy: Old? Lol, you’re a baby! ;p so what are the big plans for your 22nd?
HB7: No se. :/ Maybe go eat sushi. :D
Prodigy: I’m not a big fan of sushi, so you can just invite me to the afterparty lol
HB7: Im not having one. Sorry. Im excited I get to wear this cute dress I bought. :) yay!!!
Prodigy: So you’re not going out at all afterwards? Hmm, interesting...
HB7: No. I just want to go eat some sushi with my cousin and some close coworkers. Nothing big. Just me sushi and my dress. :D
Prodigy: Lol haha! You sound so excited about the dress...!
HB7: OF COURSE im excited!! :D it looks so cute on me. :)
Prodigy: Haha, if you say so. Remember to send me a pic and I’ll be the judge!
HB7: Ok. :P
Prodigy: I hope your feelings don’t get hurt easily because I’m brutally honest lol
HB7: I could care less what you say to me. You nobody. I’m honest too. :)
HB7: Hey Prodigy, I was joking...you are somebody. You’re my new friend right. HUG!!!
Prodigy: lols haha. Me a nobody? Psssh, you obviously don’t know me yet! I’m the biggest douchebag dallas has to offer
Prodigy: I’d rather you be honest than a liar...
HB7: sooo your douchebag cus you just want to be one. That’s cool well good luck with that. :P WELL I know that no matter who come into my life, I will never change who I am. Im a good person AND im proud of it.
HB7: Gosshh your so proud of it. How sad. :/ I bet you are a nice guy but your just to scared to show it. Why are you scared?? Who made you scared. Was it your x. be honest with me friend
HB7: oye Prodigy. I was at the lab and just notice my text were send at different times. :D I hope what I sad made sense. :)
Prodigy: blah blah blah

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the texts were copied over verbatim. As you can see, you called me her friend twice. I can understand that if she was introducing me to her friend and we haven't fucked and are not dating, she would call me friend. Here in this context, no was no purpose for doing so...therefore I get the vibe that she wants to just be friends....[/QUOTE]


Sorry for the crappy advice before Prodigy, I've clearly got issues!

Anyways and aside from that, I don't think you're in the "friend" zone. She's obviously trying to make you think she's cute... that's her flirting with you.

Also the way she worded "whoever comes in to my life..."

Whenever I have heard a girl talk like that, it hasn't been about friendship.

I think you're worried about nothing. Just take her out again, and keep on pushing things forward.

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[QUOTE=grimm1111;36841]Sorry for the crappy advice before Prodigy, I've clearly got issues!

Anyways and aside from that, I don't think you're in the "friend" zone. She's obviously trying to make you think she's cute... that's her flirting with you.

Also the way she worded "whoever comes in to my life..."

Whenever I have heard a girl talk like that, it hasn't been about friendship.

I think you're worried about nothing. Just take her out again, and keep on pushing things forward.[/QUOTE]

No worries man.

I just found out my ex is getting married, and just ask playercool, I was pretty damn upset...

But back to the thread, maybe you guys are right and I'm takingthis too literally...