Been a while...

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Wow, it's been a while since I've posted much here, but how about a FR....or more like a story I think everyone might get a kick out of.

FYI: I'm going to sort of skip through the build-up parts because they're not that interesting and I want to get to the interesting part of the story...

Those that know me know I moved away to CA for a job in September.

In March, I found 2 roommates (randomly on craigslist) and moved in with them. We've become like brothers and hang out quite a bit...not to mention one of them is sort of a "dumb-but-aware natural" I guess...
(he's a natural, brags about it all the time, talks about how and why he is so good, but I think he totally misses the boat when he tries to explain his "technique")

So this morning we're out watching the Germany/Australia game at a bar and we meet this big group of germans. Theres a few pretty cute girls in the group, and we all begin chatting. Long story short, we wind up inviting a few of the girls to a street festival in another part of the city that we knew about.

While at the bar, I began hitting it off with one of the girls. So on the way to the street festival I made it pretty clear to everyone (specifically german roommate) that I would be working on this german girl. He (and everyone else) acknowledged and all was good.

So we meet up with the girls at the street festival, hang out for a bit, then decide to go get some beer and go hang out in the park. I'm doing pretty well with the girl, and shes fairly obviously into me, so I decided to just wait for a good time to isolate her and go for the kiss to solidify things.

We head to the park, play some frisbee and some shirts-skins soccer then we just chill on the grass. Me and german girl head off to buy some beer and I get the kiss on the way.

So we get back and all chill on the grass just chatting. Mind you, we're down to 4 guys, 2 girls....the other guys didn't seem to get the hint. So, while we're chatting in the grass, my girl mentions how she would kill for a massage. I'm pretty sure she was hinting at me to give her a massage, but before I can say anything roommate declares that "he's been 'trained' to give massages if she would like one". I sort of assumed she'd decline his offer..and she sort of gave him a weird face and said "ok i guess...".

Oh what the fuck...really?? I was steaming.

So he lays her on her stomach and proceeds to pull her shirt over her head and undo her bra (yes, in the park, in public, right in front of me and our other friends). Shes not nude...more like laying face down as if she where tanning on the beach with her strap undone. She clearly was a little uncomfortable with it, but no one was making a big deal so she just went with it.

So he starts giving her a back massage and I just don't even know what to say. I was so pissed I knew that anything I did say would only hurt any chances I had left so I just pretended like it didn't bother me. Finally, after a good 10 minutes, I couldn't take it anymore...so I started convincing everyone they where hungry (it was like 3pm) and that we should go get sushi.

So she clips her bra back together, puts her shirt back on, and we go to sushi.

I'll be honest, I really had no idea what had just happened. She wasn't really giving me the eye anymore like before..and now the whole group thinks there's something between her and my roommate (they only saw she and I flirting earlier, didn't see the kiss).

On the way to the sushi place, I give my roommate a verbal ass-kicking (to which he replied that 'he didnt even realize he was doing anything wrong'....yeaaa). Eventually he apologizes, but I'm obviously still pretty pissed.

So we get to the sushi place and I don't really even know what to do at that point. She still won't look me in the eye for more than a second, and I'm trying my hardest not to come off as some kind of jealous.

Somehow, I managed to re-spark things at the table (compliments of the sake, perhaps?) and things seemed to be good again.

Anyway, moral of the story: Count your blessings and hope you never have a "wingman" that takes your (clearly stated) target's shirt off in public right in front of you.

For those interested in closure on the story, I did wind up getting her number and setting up a solid day-2...but I can't really give credit to anything but just sticking it out and keeping my cool.

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Alphamo! How the hell have you been man? Good to hear from you. Dude, that same thing has happened to me many times, and to be honest I wasn't able to save the situation most times so props to you on that. Nothing like that has happened recently, but if it did, here's what I would do. I can undersrtand you didn't want to seem reactive and jealous. However. I have to say that the alpha move here is to take what you want. Say so loud and proud in front of everyone 'hey man, be a good roommate - can't you see I'm hitting on this girl?' And use the claw on her. She wanted to be swept off her feet and protected in this case.

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Let me just say hahahahahaha. Funny story.

Like Grimm mentioned I would have just said "Back off big guy. Come here young lady. We'll take turns." And then in private I would have kicked him in the nuts.

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Nice to hear from you AlphaMo.

I wonder if the girl said that out loud cause she secretly wanted someone else in the group to give her a massage. Very odd.

One thing about girls is some of them are super attention whores. They need and seek validation from every guy around them. They want to be chased and fought over from every guy in the group.

Your roommate is a douche though for offering. Unless for some reason he didn't think girl was your target, however it sounds like you said it loud and clear.

You should sit down with the big fella and have a convo with him. If he doesn't get it raise your game and play on his level. Blow him out of some sets or even steal his targets. He might catch a clue. Competition will make you way better.

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yup, shoulda gone direct...it even seems so obvious in retrospect.

In fact, this is the 3rd time in a few months that I've heard someone say something along the lines of "you should have [suggestion to go direct]".
Well fuck me.

You can bet your ass I'll be blowing out the roommate the next few times I have the opportunity.

Anyway, 50points to anyone else who can pull off the "douche masseuse" and not get their ass kicked.

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You're roomates a huge douche for trying to steal your girl especially since you made it clear.

I doubt he unkowingly games her. He's probably given massages to other women he tried to seduce.

Other than that, good to hear from you alphamo. Good to hear your game is still tight.

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I think two things happen in this situation:

1.) A guy who hits on a girl when she's already "with" another guy has balls, and women are attracted to that level of confidence

2.) A guy who is "with" a girl, and another guy games her right in front of him, if not handled just right, the girl loses attraction for the guy she's "with"

My theory on the subject. We all have to get better at dealing with this. It happens.