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Postby Guest » Fri Feb 13, 2009 10:32 pm

lol @ Lion! Now thats school spirit!
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What do you do?

Postby Guest » Wed Jul 08, 2009 9:32 am

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Postby Guest » Wed Jul 08, 2009 9:46 am

Correct. Just tell her. Soon as she starts up you interrupt her... What i've said in current LTR is "look, there is absolutely no bigger turn off for me then getting attitude. I just don't need it in my life." The attitude ended abruptly after that. :)

it's all kinda related to what alot of what we've been talking about lately. Setting boundaries in the relationships. What sometimes women don't understand is, that it's those boundaries that help keep a relationship healthy and balanced (and consequently us wanting to be in it) as opposed to sucking the life out of it.
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Postby Guest » Wed Jul 08, 2009 10:41 am

Completely agree with TopDog.

1 - tell her.
2 - set boundaries (i.e. she understands that you are actually willing to walk away if she repeatedly crosses them)
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Postby Guest » Wed Jul 08, 2009 1:57 pm

I'm not sure I have the same sort of relationship with my girl, but here is the reason. I told her when we were first going out that for a relationship to be healthy people need to have a chance to hang out with their buds sometimes. Now when I go hang out with them instead of her sure she's a little upset, but it's not some big bitch fight. I would just try to show your girl the importance of hanging out with your friends. When you much happier because of this she will understand how it's actually a good thing.
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Postby Guest » Wed Jul 08, 2009 4:37 pm

1. if youre married, then you are obligated to tell her. obviously youre not.
2. if you lied to her, literally told her you were with daddy, shame on you
3. if she just assumed, that you were and didnt ask herself you are under no obligation to correct her, respect be damned, she should respect you enough to not assume things, after all, you know what they say about assumptions...
4. she shouldnt expect to know where you are 100% of the time (see point 1) if she doesnt see it that way, do you really want to continue to see such a selfish person like that?
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Postby Guest » Wed Jul 08, 2009 11:14 pm

Most girls are going to act just as she did. And you know what for good reason. Did you lie? Well that is debatable. Did you hold back the truth? Yes.

In the future even if it is not with this girl you have to set the rules early. I remember this one time I made plans with this girl I was starting to see. She flaked on them the day of. This really pissed me off because the date involved some of my other friends. I let her have it. Guess what there were some ground rules set very early in the relationship. She never even considered flaking again.

Unfortunately it sounds like in this situation none were set hence you kinda sneaking around behind her back. You have been put into a position that you feel like you have no choice. I know it will be somewhat painful but I think you need to set those rules now. She is going to be extremely upset but I think for this relationship to continue in a healthy manner you have no choice.

It is either do it now or be miserable.

Goodluck

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Postby Guest » Thu Jul 09, 2009 12:12 am

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Most girls are going to act just as she did. And you know what for good reason. Did you lie? Well that is debatable. Did you hold back the truth? Yes.

In the future even if it is not with this girl you have to set the rules early. I remember this one time I made plans with this girl I was starting to see. She flaked on them the day of. This really pissed me off because the date involved some of my other friends. I let her have it. Guess what there were some ground rules set very early in the relationship. She never even considered flaking again.

Unfortunately it sounds like in this situation none were set hence you kinda sneaking around behind her back. You have been put into a position that you feel like you have no choice. I know it will be somewhat painful but I think you need to set those rules now. She is going to be extremely upset but I think for this relationship to continue in a healthy manner you have no choice.

It is either do it now or be miserable.

Goodluck


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What he said
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