Man, I feel like I need a coach or something.

[Guest]

I just turned 21 recently and I still have trouble approaching a girl I think is attractive. Even at a bar/club where she expects it. It's gotten to the point where I'm hesitant to even go out. I want to break the habit and stop being such a little girl. When I do approach, I'm not that successful, but that's not what bothers me. What bothers me is how I act when I actually approach. How nervous I am, how much I speed up my speech, how I fidget, etc. I feel myself slipping into this mindset that most of my guy friends is in and I hate it. I don't think it's right to use girls to inflate your ego, dwell on one of them with some bogus vague reason ("she gets me", "she's the one"), and some other crap that I'm noticing my friends start to believe.

I desire change, but I just don't know how to get on it. And I don't want girls to gloat to my friends or anything and I don't think this is the end-all solution to my problems, it's just an area of my life that I want to improve in and I'm willing to take advice.

So anyone feel like coaching and making someone's life a little better?

[Guest]

Instead of asking someone to devote personal one-on-one time for free, try coming out to the bi-monthly events. You're 21 now, so you can come to the venues with us. We will encourage, advise, and in some cases push you in to situations to over come your problem. It's different at the meetups because it's a larger social group, and easier to give advice, and then observe and hold your own conversations/sets while you're off doing what we tell you.

Come to the next one and I personally guarantee to help you overcome AA...I'm just not going to devote a large chunk of personal time for free : ) lol

[Guest]

Smirks, that sounds awesome. I would really appreciate it. I'm still in college, so I don't have much ching chang, but I think I'll buy you a beer. :)

I took a quick look at your MySpace so I'm going to hunt you down at the next meetup. Any idea when it is?

[Guest]

First and third friday of each month, so it should be this Friday. But, due to the fact that we didn't post it...let's make it the 26th.

[Guest]

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First and third friday of each month, so it should be this Friday. But, due to the fact that we didn't post it...let's make it the 26th.
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Speaking of which, someone is slacking...

[Guest]

Not me! Blame Vector!!! I'll handle next it next week though.

[Guest]

So true! Sorry guys!

[Guest]

we posted that we're having a weekly bc we didn't take the time to figure out y'all have a bi-weekly. sorry, we'll change it. anyway, if you want free coaching, send me an email :) happy to help