FR: Saturday, 5-16-09

[Guest]

warning, this might be a long read for some...

..last night was a rather unsuccesfull night for me in a sense that i did not close; but it was extermely successful because it hit home that i really needed to get over my sticking points to be great at this game...

to start off, it was just another saturday night. i felt good and looked good; i was pumped! i met Just/Us and Wildman at Social House in uptown and as soon as we walk in, Wildman sets a challenge for me; open a set within 15 mintues. I said game on, no big deal.

we head downstairs and its PACKED!! hb 8's and 9's everywhere! with even more 6's and 7's lounging around, i've never seen it this busy. right about now, my mind goes crazy. a part of me is thinking, "dude, this is going to be a great night. you're gonna pull some hot-ass bitches" while another part of me is genuinely intimidated...why? i dont really know.

..we grab drinks and post up on the couch...the time is ticking down. 10 mins have past and i have not opened. fuck, i feel the pressure...

to my right, i hear a girl say to her friend, "wow, you look great!" i look over and see this hb6 flexing her biceps, i couldnt help but laugh. so i look over, make eye contact and flex my GUNS! she sees me do this and steps closer to me and says:

HB6: sorry but i've got you beat! [and she smiles]
Prodigy: yea i know, i hit the gym everyday but your arms are still bigger than mine! its so sad! [obviously my arms are way bigger than hers, but im just roleplaying]
HB6: haha, well six more weeks and you'll be at my level..
Prodigy: yea, im gonna go the the gym right now!!

shes hooked, but im not really that interested so i turn back to Just/Us and Wildman to continue our conversation...after like a minute HB6 comes up, puts her hand on my chest and says in my ear, "oh btw, you do have great muscles," and smiles; i responded with a polite thanks. i couldve easily escalated further, but i wasnt really interested in her...it was a good warm up.

i look down at my watch and i made the 15 minute deadline. so far, so good.

within in the next 30 mins, i open two other sets (both hb7's), one hooked and one did not. i failed by not escalating further with the hooked hb7...why? i dont really know...

for the rest of the night, i dont open. there were PLENTY of oppurtunities to open. 2 sets, 3 sets, mixed sets. hb8's, hb9's, hb's everywhere. yet i do not open. we bounce to Quarter bar, same story. we bounce to The Loon, same story. we went back to Social House, same story.

im pissed at myself for having AA and having not close anything....im pissed!

i reflected on why i had such a bad night as i drove home. i have this AA not becuase im afraid of being blown out, but because if i do get blown out, what will the people around me think? but more importantly, what would the community think? logically i KNOW that no one cares, but it still affects me....having said that, it subcommunicates my lack of confidence. i would say taht i am extremely confident with most aspects of my life. im good looking, have good fashion sense, great job, educated, etc. where i lack confidence is with my game.

combined, those two sticking points are detrimental to my game and overcoming them is paramount to my success. if i do not open, nothing will ever happen and i can not get to where i want to be.

for me to excel i need to:

1. not give a fuck! who the fuck cares about what people think?! unfortunately, i do. this is not new to me and has been a work in progress for the past several weeks. this is a huge step for me in knowing that this is one of my BIGGEST sticking points that is just killing my game. i WILL continue to work on this and on Thursday when we go out, i am not going to give a fuck! im going to be an opening machine...

2. trust in my game. people around me have said that i'm good; i just need to believe in my gaming ability and run sets. of course i still have work, but for the most part im solid; i just need to BELIEVE.

on a positive note, i made friends with one of the waitresses at Social House. i met her the weekend before and interstingly enough, she remembered me; i guess i made an impression on her. having said that, i was able to warm open, time bridge and continue to game her. she's a hired gun, so it will be a little difficult to escalate, but now that she knows who i am, its time to escalate and set a sexual frame with her and see where it goes...

[Guest]

oh yea, forgot...

for any of you that have any advice on how to help with the sticking points ive listed above, please do share.

one thing ive done to get over caring about what people think is just doing some crazy shit and it has helped a bit...i just need more time...

:)

[Guest]

First off, I don't think you met your 15 minute open mark. You didn't open...you were opened. MISSION FAILED! lol

I can understand wanting only to deal with girls that you feel proud of and girls you think others will be impressed with...in the end those are the ones you're going to go further with...but NOW...NOW you need the practice.

That hb6 that opened you, you should have worked that a bit more than you did. You should have befriended her like my post talked about. Did you notice if any of her friends were hot? Did you think that people SAW her open you and that raised your value? You could have pivoted her like crazy.

Your trust issue goes back to inner game. You need to focus on some inner strength building. We've gone over this before, PM if you want a refresher.

[Guest]

good post prod. I got a fr coming up too once I get the time in to post it...probably monday I can do that. Anyway, I have been working on my inner issues lately too, and I think I am doing much better as of recently.

It was a fun night.

[Guest]

AA is a bitch man. It's cool you got opened tho.
On this 15 min challenge to open thing...did he mean open as in just going up and saying something, or something else?
Like could you have gone up and said "Hi"? I don't think a girl will blow you out if you just say hi. Even if you do get blown out, just think of it like this, everyone is in their own little "zone" in the club/bar: girls are talking to their friends, guys are checking out the girls, people are dancing, lots of people are wasted, etc. Noone is going to notice you unless you make yourself noticed. If you go talk to one girl and she blows you out than chances are the only people that know about you getting blown out are you and her, unless there were others in the set. Everyone is too busy thinking about what other people are thinking of them to notice you get blown out. And correct me if I am wrong on this someone but I think the hotter the girl the more self-concious she is going to be. She is going to be more worried about being "perfect" for her "audience"(which includes everyone in the club/bar, and that means YOU too!) than she is going to be worried about whether or not you succeed with the other girls in the bar/club. Everyone notices Hbs. Noone notices guys unless the guys make themselves noticed. Hope this helps with the AA! I hate AA!!!! lol


Where are you going Thursday?
I might have Thursday off :)

[Guest]

UL...im not sure whats going down on thursday but Wildman and I were kicking around the idea of hitting up Chaucer's...no finalized plans yet...

[Guest]

anti anxiety medication is a great way to overcome anxiety

[Guest]

You guys really need to start writing these FR's every week. I think you will find it very beneficial to your game.

You remind me so much of myself Prodigy. I care so much about what others think of me. I don't want to look like a dumbass by getting blown out of a set. What will everyone else think around me? Will I look like a huge douche? Will everyone point their fingers and make fun of me? Will they mock me? Will I lose a billion points of value in all the other girls around? These are all questions that could rush through my head at any given point in the night. Or hell they might fill my head the entire night.

I have always been like this. I can remember being super young and would always care what others around me thought. I am still like this. I want the hottest girl on my arm. I want everyone else to envy me. Yes my brain is warped.

All of that was necessary for what I am about to say.

NO ONE GIVES A SHIT!!!!!!!

And on top of that guess what. I went out I would say 150++ nights last year. I definitely went to the same venues over and over and over and over. Out of all those times do you know how many times I ran into the same person twice? Ohh about 12 times. And that was just one person out of what 200 people in a given night. So some quick math would be I saw 30,000 people(Probably on the low side) and ran into 12 of those people a second time.

Now when you start thinking of it like that does your brain allow you to realize you are never going to see any of these people again. Plus you add on the fact that you are in a bar, dim lights, people are drinking and possibly some drugs. Are any of these people going to remember? Add on a couple months and memories fade on their own.

Ok I wrote all of that because if you can get out of your head for the night you are going to find yourself being one of the most successful guys in Dallas. You have what it takes to bring down the house. I could seriously see you own a joint with ease.

I know it is hard to not give a fuck. I still to this day struggle with it on occasion. One thing that helped me was I told myself hey if I bring this house down I can just go to another venue. It will be like starting fresh. Another thing that helped me was knowing that a bar turns over during the night. So even if I mess up in the beginning their will be a whole new group of people later in the night.

I think what it really comes down to though is this. Just tell yourself that you are the most badass person in the world. You are the baddest motherfucker on the planet. In the end if you really sit down and look at all the possible sets in a bar unfortunately MOST are of low quality. I hate to say that but it is true. So if you get blown out who the fuck cares. They are low value anyways and you probably weren't going to have that girl be your girlfriend.

[Guest]

GREAT POST PC!! it definitely hits home..

[Guest]

PC's spot on.

Fact is that no one really gives that much of a shit about you when you're out.

And, you will absolutely run into the same people over and over and over again. It's only uncomfortable when it's someone you've fucked and never called again...