Y So Srys??

[Guest]

One thing I noticed about the Community is that everyone is so serious about everything. Especially about themself. I know you guys work hard on building your identity up, but humor should also be part of it, right? It's like I'd post something up that I find really funny, or I'd say something funny or witty (hey, it does happen sometimes) and it'll either get no response or negative response. Maybe I'm wrong and my sense of humor is just incompatible with most of you...I also tend to like yanking chains and busting chops but it's no fun when people get offended or take it seriously. I feel like I'm constantly walking on eggshells.

[Guest]

I know this is in response to what I said to you in chat last night, and Ill respond in a more formal fashion when I get home tonight...not doing this from my phone!

[Guest]

Didn't you post just a few weeks ago essentially the same thing...that you post threads and nobody replies to your threads, and it's like you are invisible?

now it's about no one commenting/replying about your jokes?

perhaps you are too sensitive to some of these things? not trying to bust your balls, just a sincere rhetorical question.

[Guest]

you've got it all wrong, bro. I'm not sensitive at all. in fact my lack of being sensitive might be the problem. I've never cared what anyone thought about me, but now I find myself needing to care. I can't be sociable and not care about anyone's opinion. I can't improve when you're doing whatever you want and not caring what effects it has on others. these posts are my attempt at getting feedback.

[Guest]

The game teaches you to not care about the outcome of interactions, but there seems to be a contradiction. you spend all of this time studying behavior and what attracts women but when you meet them, you're not supposed to care? but that's a different topic altogether.

[Guest]

The Game is actually supposed to teach you how to calibrate, not just lack in care. Be socially aware.

[Guest]

I have a very warped sense of humor. Plus I don't have speakers so if you put up a youtube video I don't watch it as I don't have sound.

Also I almost never even look at anything in Off Topic.

This last weekend I saw Lion and PP do some of the funniest shit in the world. I mean saying Hey Gurl over and over to every girl who walks by. Now that is funny. So I would actually say most don't take themselves that serious.

[Guest]

[quote1236719509=Muk]The game teaches you to not care about the outcome of interactions, but there seems to be a contradiction. you spend all of this time studying behavior and what attracts women but when you meet them, you're not supposed to care? but that's a different topic altogether.[/quote1236719509]


The word 'care' isn't correct man. It's not the we don't care how the interaction turns out, because we do. We all genuinely enjoy women and their company, otherwise we wouldn't go through the shit we've gone through for them.

Instead, 'care' means that you shouldn't let the outcome of an interaction impact you as a person. You shouldn't internalize the outcome, regardless of whether it's good or bad.

This is why I always say that the difference is indifference. If you're indifferent about what someone thinks of you, then you're not going to let their reaction to you change who you are, or who you are striving to be. Remember that, indifferent about what someone thinks, not indifferent about people in general. It's a fine line for sure, but an important distinction.

As for your other comments, I've hung out with you a few times and never really got the whole happy go lucky vibe from you, whereas I see Smirks, Vector, PP, and others and get the I'm here to have fun vibe from them. So, you see, we could just as easily ask you the exact same question...why so serious Muk?

[Guest]

I guess it's because of the online interactions with you. I don't feel like I can really let loose. I'm like that when I'm around people I'm really comfortable with and online, but in real life, I tend to be more chill until I get to know people better. I want to bring my "online persona" out more often, but I tend to be more assholish in it (I guess?) or maybe I need to tone it down some...if you catch me on the chat, you'll know what I mean...

[Guest]

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I guess it's because of the online interactions with you. I don't feel like I can really let loose. I'm like that when I'm around people I'm really comfortable with and online, but in real life, I tend to be more chill until I get to know people better. I want to bring my "online persona" out more often, but I tend to be more assholish in it (I guess?) or maybe I need to tone it down some...if you catch me on the chat, you'll know what I mean...
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I appreciate you are looking for feedback, i respect that a lot.

I'll be perfectly honest, some of your posts in the past were rather insightful (the returning phone thread, why is cheating bad, etc) and were rather impressionable. That's being perfectly blunt. I've never met you, all I have is my impression of you from some of those posts. But first impressions count, for good or bad, that's life.

Is accepted that it's completely fine that people are here and may be attempting to 'dial in' some aspects of their personality. If you actually know that some aspect can be "assholish", i would encourage you to actually [i]not[/i] just "tone it down"(which i read as "censor" yourself) but to try to correct it. At the end of the day, if you are an asshole, but tone it down just to not come across as an asshole, you are still an asshole. It may need some introspection on your part.

edit: after i reread this, 2 points to clarify. a) used the term asshole only since you used that, i'm not calling you an asshole. That was a generalized statement. (that could be read rather harshly which wasn't the intent) b) to wrap that message in the context of this thread, what I was getting at is that there may be some perceptions whether right or wrong that may influence responses. but just stuff to chew on.