How to get Physical with a girl

[Guest]

I was thinking about this the other day guys so I decide to start researching and thinking about my experiences. I found a list from askmen.com and modified it to be correct. I believe what follows is accurate to 99.9% of what most people do, to some extent, in this community that works. Remember just these steps and you'll be golden if you can get past opening.


Use sexual innuendos

Many men forget that talking about sex is often the first step to actually having it. Of course, if you're too direct, you run the risk of creeping her out. Instead, try using sexual innuendos. This is a way to imply a sexual meaning without being direct about it. Try telling her she's just a good girl without a bad bone in her body, and see if she starts to defend herself and tell you she's a bit of a “bad” girl. Or, if she tells you that you are good at something, tell her you're good at a lot of things (hint, hint). When she does something nice for you, say: “I realize you’re just trying to get me into bed, but thank you.” You'll be surprised how these sexual “hints” get her thinking of you in a very positive way. [b](do this throughout the interaction)[/b]

Use chivalry

Guys often make the mistake of going from zero physical contact with a woman to trying to jump her bones or expecting her to jump yours. The problem is that it usually doesn't work this way. Instead, start off slowly and be a gentleman. Touch the small of her back. It's the small things at the beginning that make her comfortable with your touch, and set the stage for things to escalate later.

Share a whisper

The ear is one of the most erogenous zones on the female body. Why not use it to your advantage? Instead of kissing her right off the bat, try telling her a secret. It doesn't matter what you say, just use a soothing voice, speak slowly, and have your lips gently brush against the skin of her earlobe. Breathe softly into her ear. This is a surefire way to send shivers down her spine!

Make her wait

Teasing is a very powerful way to build sexual tension and anticipation in a woman. Here's an awesome way to do it: Ask her if you can tell her a secret. Move in slowly toward her ear and whisper: “Good things come,” then lightly brush your lips over her skin as you move slowly from her ear across her cheek to her lips, but don’t kiss her. Continue moving slowly over to her other ear and whisper: “to those who wait.” Pause, then move away from her and start doing something else entirely. The message you’re sending her is, “I could (kiss you), but I won't.” Women love a man with this much control. Don’t be surprised if she forces herself on you soon after!

The game frame

Ever play spin the bottle as a kid? It's that game in which you put a bottle in a circle of people and spin it then kiss the person who it's pointing to. It's an easy way to make a move because the game makes it OK -- and this same dynamic works for adults. Say you're going bowling with a woman. Once things are going well and excitement is in the air, let her know that this particular bowling alley has a special rule that whenever you bowl a strike, your date must kiss you somewhere on your body. She’ll laugh at first, and then as soon you bowl a strike you'll be the one laughing as she kisses you on the neck, the stomach or wherever else!

Switch things up

Often a guy will freak out when a woman tells them to slow down or stop. However, the fact is some women are insecure with how they look under their clothes or she may just feel threatened by having your hands all over her so soon. To make her feel more comfortable, try switching things up. If a woman won't let you touch her body, no problem. While kissing her, simply take her hand and put it on your thigh. Don’t be surprised if she takes things to the next level from there. Or if all else fails, you tell them to slow down, or stop. Makes it a game again.

[Guest]

So much emphasis is put on meeting women. This is a nice write up of how to move things forward once you do get them alone.

I think a lot of newbies might be a little shy in actually asking these questions. Sure maybe you don't have much experience...YET.

I do some stuff similar to this.

You can just smell her neck/ear area. They love this.

The almost kiss is super powerful.

The truth is if things are going well you really just have to NOT screw up and you will eventually get laid. These tactics will no doubt speed things up a little.

Just remember it is YOUR job to escalate. Most girls are not going to do this for you. Plus they want a man who can take charge.

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One of the biggest things that I never did (and is SOP for me now) is confident eye contact during escalation.
If you can maintain CONFIDENT (not creepy) eye-contact with a little smile/smirk just before you kiss (or, better, just before you DONT kiss) you'll be doing yourself a huge favor.
Bedroom eyes are a must on a day 2 after you know she's attracted.

Also, when I actually am about to kiss a girl, I will often move in close like im going to kiss, tease for a second or two to pump BT, then grab the small of her back and pull her in belly to belly (not violently...but very assertively. Make it known that you're going to take exactly what you want).
After that I'll still tease for a few more seconds before going in. The ear thing Fin mentioned would be an awesome thing to do here.

Walls are a great follow-up to this (keeping belly to belly, just walk her backwards to the closest wall while u stay 2inches from her face, press her against, and go after it).
Don't go crazy and smash her head into the wall or anything....just be assertive.

Also, I used to see it said mentioned on here alot, but haven't really lately (or maybe I just haven't been keeping up):
If you're not 100% sure its about to go all the way just yet, always make it a point to be the first one to pull away from the kiss.
(This is not something I'd do if we're alone somewhere....)

I don't think pulling away first is a die-hard rule for every single time, but it's a good rule of thumb to stick to until you are able to read the situation better; And I do it often out of habit now.