How you answer "How many people have you slept with"

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Thanks,

I like this advice. Interestingly, after I posted this I ran into a post on Sinn's blog that addresses the issue. It is similar to the advice here.

[url]http://sinnsofattraction.blogspot.com/2009/01/tip-of-day-1-never-discuss-number.html[/url]

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In my experience, girls want to know you are experienced. not a whore. Being cocky funny about that, even when they know you are joking about xyz or a 100, is a turn off.

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you look her in the eye and tell her the "truth" say, only with 9-10 girls (of course it depends on how old you are too). but i think that most girls can accept the fact taht youve been with 9-10 girls...

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I think it might be good to ask a few female friends this question and seek there advice!

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I think it might be good to ask a few female friends this question and seek there advice!
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I dunno. You can ask 10 different girls and get 10 different answers, you know how the ladies can be ;)

More than that, I think that women, just like virtually everything else, will tell you one thing but want something totally different. So even if you do get one consistent answer it's probably still not the 'right' answer.

When you get down to it, this is a ridiculous question that only exists to create friction between the two of you. It serves the purpose of making her feel special, but in doing so it can easily make you look less special.

If your number is too low, she'll be shocked that there haven't been more and could easily begin to wonder why there weren't more.

If your number is too high, she'll be upset that you've been with as many as you have and could begin to wonder how much longer she'll be around.

Either way you could easily 'lose.' I think the best way to answer the question is with a tone of playfulness. Sub-communicate to her that it really isn't a big deal. If she presses the issue you can turn the tables and ask her why it matters. Talk about that dynamic more than the actually number.

Keep in mind though that there are a handful of questions and/or comments about you and your past that are great filters for you. If she doesn't respond well to these 'tests' in a favorable way (whatever favorable means to you), then you know she's probably not the one for you anyway.

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You don't ever tell her. How bored would she get if she knew everything about you. Or how shocked would she be if she thought you slept with 30 girls and it only turned out to be 3. Or in my case she thought I slept with 30 and it turned out to be 130.

Just give a fake joke answer and move on.

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You don't ever tell her. How bored would she get if she knew everything about you. Or how shocked would she be if she thought you slept with 30 girls and it only turned out to be 3. Or in my case she thought I slept with 30 and it turned out to be 130.

Just give a fake joke answer and move on.

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I agree with lion

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"I don't kiss and tell"

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I wish some of the girls did not kiss and tell either. (personal turn off)