open discussion: all my self doubt, anxiety, and deprecation embodied by approach anxiety

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If all else fails get prescribed xanax or hydrocodone (of course I wouldn't recommend aquiring them illegaly :) )

Does wonders for me... Aquity always wondered how I pulled off that "really smoothe and calm" effect ;D

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lol, I feel better now. Time to go pull the wool

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I'm no expert. This is literally my third post, so I may be smoking crack here.....

But regarding AA, for me, most of the anxiety comes from the worry that I will not be interesting enough when I open, or will not be able to maintain an engaging conversation. I would think that a good opener that has worked for you many times in the past would take care of that and eliminate most of the anxiety.

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AA never really goes away, it's just something that you learn to deal with internally. The key is to not show your hand. If you remain calm and collected, then your targets will have zero idea that you're at all nervous or anxious.

A good opener will eliminate some AA because it gets you out of your head and instead focusing on delievering the opener. The only problem is that once you've opened with a certain opener enough, you can deliever it very effectively and as such are back at the point where you're thinking about what you're doing.

The best way to run Game is to not think so much while you're doing it. Just sort of talk. With experience you'll get a good idea how to talk, what to say, and how to remain interesting.

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I can add in something here I've had limited but success with. It depends on how much your in your head..
When you feel yourself tense up or your in a non talkative mood or even angry. Try repeating to yourself a few times the "How can I" and add in what you want ... like

How can I be happy tonight. How can I be social and talkative. How can I find my dream girl tonight. How can I be the life of the party..How can I be confident. How can I open 5 sets ..etc

I know it sounds a little corny but a few minutes later I've found myself joking and talking to people. It's not a magic pill..and if your really in your head may not work..

The theory is your mind is good at solving problems and helping you get what you want. Your asking it to solve a problem instead of.. locking up and focusing on the suffering of the situation.

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two chicks in two days has gotten this bullshit out of my system. A rockabilly / psychobilly (my favorite female subculture) and a 29-year old laywer. lol

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funny how that works... :)

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when you go in just assume attraction, it works for me

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How is our mind so weak that the consumption of women tends to allow us to break free of these crazy ass thoughts???

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update:
I've been in houston since saturday. I SNL'd on saturday, made out in a bar on sunday, kiss/# last night and day 2-ing it today.

I stopped crying like a faggot, read through my mystery method notes, and put work in.
I'm trying to work this "ramblin man" thing.