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by Guest » Fri Nov 14, 2008 3:45 pm
Yeah clubs are generally much higher energy than bars, that's why I like'm :) You still gotta calibrate to the particular girl tho then bring her up to your level. Some girls are already at that high energy state and some need to be brough there ;) But yeah, the dance floor is a beautiful thing.
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by Guest » Fri Nov 14, 2008 3:54 pm
Women can't create state themselves without the environment or other external factors (e.g. drama, dancing, their friends, men). This is one of the most attractive parts about you. When you say "bring her up to your level" I assume this is what you mean. I stole the principal directly one of my original gurus, Tyler Durden. In addition a more "female" dominated social environment (club) will relax women's attitudes somewhat and they will be more open. Obviously thats better overall for most guys.
On the flip side, if you are good enough to get women into "state" at a bar then that is a more difficult skill - less guys can do it. Your competition is therefore lower at bars. This is why naturals generally go to clubs and use looks/whatever then energy, state, etc. just like we study. Its also why naturals at bars will usually friend you and wing you once they see what is up.
On the flip side, if you are good enough to get women into "state" at a bar then that is a more difficult skill - less guys can do it. Your competition is therefore lower at bars. This is why naturals generally go to clubs and use looks/whatever then energy, state, etc. just like we study. Its also why naturals at bars will usually friend you and wing you once they see what is up.
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by Guest » Fri Nov 14, 2008 4:17 pm
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So, to wrap up what happened tonight, I blew it with a hot girl from school and got no closes from the club tonight. Let's hope I get my shit straightened out sooner rather than later. Fuck, now I'm going to bed all depressed n shit.
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Dude that is so negative. You need to get past this limiting belief crap. Women can sense it. I know its hard but if you can do that you are moving forward better than 95% of guys. Keep at it man!
So, to wrap up what happened tonight, I blew it with a hot girl from school and got no closes from the club tonight. Let's hope I get my shit straightened out sooner rather than later. Fuck, now I'm going to bed all depressed n shit.
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Dude that is so negative. You need to get past this limiting belief crap. Women can sense it. I know its hard but if you can do that you are moving forward better than 95% of guys. Keep at it man!
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by Guest » Fri Nov 14, 2008 9:35 pm
just/us baby steps man...like solace said, you opened 6 sets..thats quite a bit..just try to learn from what you did wrong. youll eventually become a pua if you keep at it...
like you, im still learning and have a long ways to go, but i try to look at the positive of all my sarges. then pick them apart to see why my failures weren't successes..that way i can continue to learn and grow from my mistakes...
and forget that girl...you can find just as many hot and cool girls with the skills you are acquiring..and if she doesnt want to be with you, thats her loss, not yours. you're a man of value, one with many quality choices.
one of styles tips in his book is to list 10 things about yourself that makes you desirable to women. then say theses things to yourself until you believe them, its suppose to help withyour inner game...heres my little twist and challenge for you...think of 5 positive things you did on your sarge last night (what did you do right?)...then look in the mirror and repeat them to yourself until it is internalized. this will boost your self confidence and make you proud of the sarge and what went right...hopefully doing this will make you want to go out and sarge tonight....
like you, im still learning and have a long ways to go, but i try to look at the positive of all my sarges. then pick them apart to see why my failures weren't successes..that way i can continue to learn and grow from my mistakes...
and forget that girl...you can find just as many hot and cool girls with the skills you are acquiring..and if she doesnt want to be with you, thats her loss, not yours. you're a man of value, one with many quality choices.
one of styles tips in his book is to list 10 things about yourself that makes you desirable to women. then say theses things to yourself until you believe them, its suppose to help withyour inner game...heres my little twist and challenge for you...think of 5 positive things you did on your sarge last night (what did you do right?)...then look in the mirror and repeat them to yourself until it is internalized. this will boost your self confidence and make you proud of the sarge and what went right...hopefully doing this will make you want to go out and sarge tonight....
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by Guest » Fri Nov 14, 2008 9:36 pm
That is why my motto is fun first, sargin second... that way state is good and no matter what the outcome afterward I know I had a good time. And if ur having fun separate from just doing pick up others will notice that vibe. Remember the girls wanna have fun 1st
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by Guest » Fri Nov 14, 2008 10:01 pm
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That one hottie in red was great. Oh and thanks for occupying all the hot chicks while I talked to the fatties man, I appreciate it >:) Hahahaha
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Haha, no problem. I think we should make it a goal for that to happen everytime we go out. I know deep down inside you really really love those fat chicks. I mean come on, more cushin' for the pushin'!
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Dude that is so negative. You need to get past this limiting belief crap. Women can sense it. I know its hard but if you can do that you are moving forward better than 95% of guys
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Yes, I need to look at the positive aspects of the sarge. It's hard when you have nothing to show for it, but I did make progress from last week and did stuff I wouldn't have done before, so I am making some headway here.
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think of 5 positive things you did on your sarge last night (what did you do right?)...then look in the mirror and repeat them to yourself until it is internalized. this will boost your self confidence and make you proud of the sarge and what went right.
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Alright, I can give that a try. It's hard for me to look at the positive aspects of things, but I guess I should change that. I"ll give that exercise a spin.
Thanks for all the advice guys.
That one hottie in red was great. Oh and thanks for occupying all the hot chicks while I talked to the fatties man, I appreciate it >:) Hahahaha
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Haha, no problem. I think we should make it a goal for that to happen everytime we go out. I know deep down inside you really really love those fat chicks. I mean come on, more cushin' for the pushin'!
[quote1226717759=Welsh_Dragon]
Dude that is so negative. You need to get past this limiting belief crap. Women can sense it. I know its hard but if you can do that you are moving forward better than 95% of guys
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Yes, I need to look at the positive aspects of the sarge. It's hard when you have nothing to show for it, but I did make progress from last week and did stuff I wouldn't have done before, so I am making some headway here.
[quote1226717759=prodigy]
think of 5 positive things you did on your sarge last night (what did you do right?)...then look in the mirror and repeat them to yourself until it is internalized. this will boost your self confidence and make you proud of the sarge and what went right.
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Alright, I can give that a try. It's hard for me to look at the positive aspects of things, but I guess I should change that. I"ll give that exercise a spin.
Thanks for all the advice guys.
- Guest
by Guest » Sat Nov 15, 2008 1:34 pm
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and forget that girl...you can find just as many hot and cool girls with the skills you are acquiring..and if she doesnt want to be with you, thats her loss, not yours. you're a man of value, one with many quality choices.
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prodigy,
Your above statement is spot on. One of the many skills required (and it takes time and practice) is the ability to immediately forget any set / sarge / long or short term interaction with a girl that didn't turn out the way you wanted it to. Same thing with phone numbers in the early stages (if they didn't answer or whatever). Your goal is complete outcome independence (I believe Tyler Durden's phrase). To the point where you laugh about it with your wings when it happens.
Literally there are girls everywhere wanting cool guys to fuck. You are in control really. Girls pretend thats not the case but I call bullshit.
and forget that girl...you can find just as many hot and cool girls with the skills you are acquiring..and if she doesnt want to be with you, thats her loss, not yours. you're a man of value, one with many quality choices.
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prodigy,
Your above statement is spot on. One of the many skills required (and it takes time and practice) is the ability to immediately forget any set / sarge / long or short term interaction with a girl that didn't turn out the way you wanted it to. Same thing with phone numbers in the early stages (if they didn't answer or whatever). Your goal is complete outcome independence (I believe Tyler Durden's phrase). To the point where you laugh about it with your wings when it happens.
Literally there are girls everywhere wanting cool guys to fuck. You are in control really. Girls pretend thats not the case but I call bullshit.
- Guest
by Guest » Sat Nov 15, 2008 4:29 pm
[quote1226784341=Welsh_Dragon]
One of the many skills required (and it takes time and practice) is the ability to immediately forget any set / sarge / long or short term interaction with a girl that didn't turn out the way you wanted it to. Same thing with phone numbers in the early stages (if they didn't answer or whatever). Your goal is complete outcome independence .
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I know, I know that is the attitude to have. Do NOT be outcome dependent, I hear it all the time and I know its true. But it is SO hard when you are starting out and you only have a couple chicks, and those chicks aren't all that special. So when a better one comes your like "oh shit!".
I just gotta remember - Fake it til you make it. I keep telling myself this over and over. If I was a guy with 20 different girls chasing me, how would I act?
One of the many skills required (and it takes time and practice) is the ability to immediately forget any set / sarge / long or short term interaction with a girl that didn't turn out the way you wanted it to. Same thing with phone numbers in the early stages (if they didn't answer or whatever). Your goal is complete outcome independence .
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I know, I know that is the attitude to have. Do NOT be outcome dependent, I hear it all the time and I know its true. But it is SO hard when you are starting out and you only have a couple chicks, and those chicks aren't all that special. So when a better one comes your like "oh shit!".
I just gotta remember - Fake it til you make it. I keep telling myself this over and over. If I was a guy with 20 different girls chasing me, how would I act?
- Guest
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