Attraction fizzles! But why?

[Guest]

Hi guys,

So I'm trying to figure out what I did wrong here. Of if I did, in fact, do anything wrong. Please share your thoughts.

I met up with this girl for a Day2. She was UNBELIEVABLY into me, texting me every few hours, calling, etc... I was undeniably the "prize" or whatever. I played it cool, calling/txting back here and there. I was honestly too busy to really pursue it hard. We scheduled a few day2s but had to flake on each other because of time conflicts.

So I finally meet up with her a bit more than a week later. She remains extremely attracted. We end up not eating and I k-close easily after some banter. We just end up talking and smooching a bunch in the car - yes, I hook up in style. I'm not even trying to play game, which means I'm playing great game. She's ridiculously into me and it shows. I talk about random stuff, tell her story about my first disastrous relationship, tease her here and there, etc... didn't run any routines even though I planned to. Maybe not enough comfort but she was probably comfortable enough. She qualifies herself incessantly. She stole one of my rings and said I could get it back later, and I left an unfinished origami piece that I told her I would finish later. She was dying to find out what it was (it's actually a rose that my first girlfriend taught me how to make). So basically it went really well - she asks me to call her soon to hang out more.

This girl is a promoter for various clubs, is bisexual, and is ridiculously in demand. For instance, during our 2 hour meetup she had no less than 5 phone calls and texts, which she ignored. And she says she hadn't had sex in 1.5 years. Yeah right she's obviously a player. She's a 7 face and 8.5 body. Anyways, there's the background info.

I was very busy after this day2, plus I didn't want to get into the relationship frame. So I don't contact her at all for the next few days. After a few days she texts me and I respond with just normal texts, and I kind of get bored and stop replying to her. After a few more days, I text her again for a meetup today. She answers real abruptly, unlike her previous happy flirty texts, and she tells me maybe. Today I ask her if she's coming, she's like no. My gut's telling me she's no longer interested... but why?

Maybe I'm overanalyzing this but I can't help but feel it may be something obvious. It's like before learning game and not knowing why complimenting girls won't get them to sleep with you: frustrating.

[Guest]

It's definitely possible to piss girls off by doing certain things, and also by not doing certain other things. But usually to piss a girl off so suddenly, you have to do something pretty bad. It sounds like you didn't do anything, which could also frustrate her but much more slowly. Therefore, it's something besides you.

Could be PMS and she's crazy emotional for no reason.

Could be she was with another guy (whom she may or may not like) and had to respond briefly.

Could be she got in a huge fight with her best friend.

Ride it out and see if it reverses.

[Guest]

If you want to stay away from the relationship frame, you need to be clear about it! dont play games with her until she's like"what a dickhead" tell them out front. Im not into relationships, i prefer to keep great friends. simple as that... i actually banged a bi-sexual promoter chick... jus posted her pic in the sarging pics... yikes?

[Guest]

My most likely guess would be someone else scooped her while she was waiting for ya but like vector says w/ women ya never know :) Could be she decided you were playing her or just didn't have time for her too.

[Guest]

Thanks guys. That's the thing, I told her on the very first phone call that I was just looking for fun, AFTER she gave me this big long speech about how she wanted a relationship. Then it was hilarious... she did a complete 180 and said that all she wanted was to have some fun and that she just got out of an abusive relationship... wtf? Haha.

Yeah, I don't know, I'm probably overanalyzing this. I need to go out some more.

[Guest]

Oh yeah and Solace, it wasn't her ;) thank god

[Guest]

sounds like you let her emotions sway ur game... When I tell a chick how its gonna be, I continue game with the mindset that she understands I am not going to be "with her" and she validated herself when she immediately tailored her persuit to fit yours... then you still witheld yourself. you definitely overanalyzed and overacted in the situation... sorry to tell you, but at least you were willing to figure out what it was. I had a sexual friend relationship with that blonde girl and she freakin harrassed me non-stop about bein her boyfriend. I practically had to beat her off with a stick... when they push like that, break rapport and set them straight!" BOOM! Aint no way bitch! go make me a sandwitch" :)

[Guest]

Wait... so what did I do wrong in your opinion? Withheld attention too much when she demonstrated she wanted a sexual relationship? Or played into a relationship-frame via origami while I should have just cavemanned or something similar?

Next girl I'm just going to try playing less comfort, less relationshippy talk. Just more physical escalation, lots of flirting, rough and rumble type of shit. See how that works out.

[Guest]

The onlyyyyyy thing judging by the information you have given that I would of done differently is to stray away from mentioning a disastrous relationship but after all the IOI's you got even after that it doesn't make sense to me.. I suppose i'd need to see exactly what happened... don't worry/think about it too much.. some girls are just weird.

[Guest]

From what I have read this girl is a compulsive liar. Why do I say compulsive when I only picked up one lie? Well because I know liars. Most peple who tell one lie tell a shit load of lies.

She says she hasn't had sex in 18 months? Ohh but wait she just got out of an abusive relationship. Hrmm that sounds fishy to me. I don't know any guy who would stick with a girl without sticking it to her...do you?

The promoter/dancer/gogo/club/etc type girls I know have so much attention from guys. I mean they are literally being hit on every single night of the week by multiple guys. With that said these girls have many options. So yeah if you did one screw up early on in your interactions with her you might get blown out.

Did you do something wrong? Yeah probably. Without the entire interaction between you two it is hard to know where. I certainly wouldn't have made a rose for her. Just sets up too much of a BF/GF type frame.

Also why do you guys talk about relationships? I never bring it up. If they do I just let them know I have no interest in a relationship right now. NOT ONE girl has ever left when I have said this. If anything they try harder to win me over.

Moving forward I would maybe try one more text. Not anything like lets hang out. But more like hey whats up type of text. Then if nothing good comes from it I typically use this line: I will go ahead and delete your number. Take Care.

After using that line over 50% of the girls have opened back up to me.