Relationships with females

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Do you think females in general have a hang up about dating a person that might be above their personal status?
By personal status I mean things like: career, income, intellect, assets, personal skills, etc.

[Guest]

If anything they would be attracted to guys who are higher status/value or equal to theirs. As we all know chicks are not attracted to guys who are lower value than them generally. It is POSSIBLE that a chick might think the guy might be too good or "out of league" for them. If she thinks the guy is too high value or too much of a player, they might have a hang up.

[Guest]

Like they say...in life we dont get what we deserve but what we negotiate...girls who are uncomfortable with high value guys just need a little reassurance and should be a 100% FC

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From what I have seen I will have to say in general NO. I have only seen attraction levels spike when the girl sees that I have my shit together financially.

Now if you were a multi millionaire and flaunted money all over the place in a tacky way then that might be different. I could see girls get turned off by that.

I have also seen girls think nothing one way or the other in terms of my financial success. They would be happy with a guy no matter his income.

[Guest]

Generally no, women will not usually have hang-ups when it comes to higher value guys.

But, sometimes they do wonder, "why are you with me?" And I don't mean they're asking due to insecurity, but rather they're wondering if maybe you're just using them for sex.

As long as they feel you legitimately like them for a good reason (which is simply qualification), they won't mind how high status you are.

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edit: Maybe not "in general" but it happens often enough to be aware of it. I think it's just a matter of making them comfortable with someone who is outside of their norm.

Actually yes [b]sometimes[/b]. I know a girl who was single mother of 5 kids in my hometown with a hs education. Her doctor kept asking her out and didn't charge her anything for her childrens visits. She told my sister that she just couldn't feel comfortable...she felt like she had to worry about using the right fork in fancy restaurants and stuff like that.

I've also had some women seem a little insecure after they find out that I have more education than them...but it's also an attraction switch for most. I had a girlfriend who always made a comment when i would wear my college t shirt. Looking back I think it made her self conscious that she didn't go to college and realize now I probably shouldn't have worn it around her.

I've seen a few girls seem really relaxed and then they come over to my house see all the books on my bookshelves and ask if I've really read them and then they seem a little self conscious and say wow you must be really smart....usually i say well i'm not rich so i can't be too smart.

So yeah in some cases women can feel intimidated or out of place.

[Guest]

I think if you are too high value and just keep spiking attraction the girl may think you are unattainable. You need to let her "win you over." Just like when any of us guys get into negative thought mode and think a girl is too good for us, girls will do this too.

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I've noticed these differences in personal status become more of a concern with the 30-40 age group than the 20 somethings. Definitely seen some of the same things Rembrandt mentioned and have heard the "are you using me for sex" question that Vector touched on.

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i don't think being too high value in and of itself can screw you up with any girl in any circumstance. it just means that you cannot flaunt it not even one bit.

arrogance is not your friend here. be secure in yourself and money/status will only work in your favor. she will feel swept off her feet as if by prince charming, like she's being swept into your world.

yes there are circumstances like what rembrandt is talking about however i'm pretty sure there's more going on here with this doctor than just the facts given. someone who is more sure of themselves with just as much money could probably attain this girl without too much difficulty.

rembrandt next time that happens to you with books i would suggest you just don't address it. change the topic. def don't APOLOGIZE for having books or being smart, THAT is what's making it uncomfortable...

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I don't think being high value is a problem, actually it's what you should strive for.

Grimm has it absolutely right. The best way to project value is to remain humble at all times. You're frame should be that you're high value for YOURSELF, not anyone else. So, why would you ever show someone else how 'valuable' you are in a purposeful manner?