another classroom hunny...very confused(I think)

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sooo im taking Photography in college and we have class once a week for 5 hours...there is girl that is clearly into me with plenty of IOIs....i felt that i gamed her just right the first class and alot better the second, but did not get the number close...that leads me to yesterdays class meeting which went REAL well...we chatted before the class, and she followed me and sat next to me in the classroom...on break she went with me to the vending machine and sat outside talkin and watchin the rain which was pretty cool...she was pretty much my partner throughout the day since she didnt have a camera yet and wanted to see how everything works...after class I did number close her and called her so she can have my number...I then invited her to "smoke somethin" in my car which she was down to do...so we drove around the neighborhood smoking and dropped her off...see this is where I mess up all the time...when a girl leaves my car...I get reaaaall AFC and FUCKING studder alittle bit when i tell her we should hang out but it wasnt that bad i dont think...well anyways i decided to play cocky/funny on the text...by the way, i was cocky/funny throughout our interactions so it wasnt something new
my first text the same day said this "Your such a Dork! ;)" no response
my second text the SAME day said "So did you get your camera yet?" no response
the next day "Hey HB a.k.a Girl That Doesnt Text Back! You comin to our campus today to work on your project?" no response
about 8 hours later "oooo HB, where art thou HB? ;)" (inside joke) no response

soooo then im going fucking crazy, so i called her about an hour ago...nothing WTF GUYSS!!!! I knooooooow i gamed her real well, with the DHVed spiked stories about my military career that i KNEW she digged...whats up guys, im fucking trippin

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Stop texting and calling her right away. 4 texts and a call with no response comes off as way too needy. Just play it cool and lay low for a while.

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Agree with Lion. STOP! No more calls. You'll see her again in class right? So this one is not going to be a smash and dash. Step back and continue to be cocky funny but emphasis on the cocky. I mean, don't become the comfortable, funny, easy-going guy which she damn well will put you into if you let her. It's so much easier for girls to give in if you make it seem like things just happen and not force them to happen. Work seeing her outside the classroom but don't seem pushy or needy. Casually mention you're going to a tailgate this weekend and she should come or a party or coffee, shit whatever, just dont make it seem like a date but walk that line that shows you still are very much attracted her and refuse to be put into the LJBF zone. Good luck, but leave it be for now and DONT mention her not calling/txting you back. seem indifferent to it but ready to start off right were yall left off in class the time before. make sense?

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ok i like what i am hearing...i hope i didnt blow this one, but what yall are saying is that i didnt...lol well not yet ;) its just that my BIGGEST pet pieve is when i dont get responses...not only from girls but from anybody..its something i developed in the Navy sense half my job was communicating to .50 cal gunners aimed at Iranians lol...so yall see where im coming from...i know i gotta work on that and will...so as long as yall think i didnt blow it then its all good...

when we were chatting we talked about hangin out this weekend...should i wait till like friday to hit her up or not even say anything and wait for her or wait till next class to talk to her?

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The worst thing you can do is call or text too much regardless of the situation (but especially when you know you will see her again). If a chick did that to you you would probably think she was psycho or too clingy. Generally I will not call or text someone (that I have already called or texted) until after they call or text back. This requires discipline. It is ok to try to make contact again if you haven't heard from her in a day or two or three but NEVER bring up the fact that she didn't get back to you. She may have meant to get back to you and something came up that distracted her. Things come up, think about how many times you have meant to do something and you get distracted and forgot about it. Bringing up the fact that she has not contacted you is telegraphing too much interest and can come off like you are overly aggressive / putting pressure on her or borderline creepy.

Also, when you call or text a girl over and over you are pretty much saying that you don't have a lot going on. If you did, you would not have time to think about if she had gotten back to you.

Play it cool.

I would wait for her to contact you or you run the risk of scaring her off. If she doesn't you will always see her in class.

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great advise yall! I LOVE THIS FUCKING COMMUNITY! the best advise EVER for men! Anyways, thats the one thing that i lack right now...self-descipline..it was actually at a all time high in the military and when i got out...but when things started to not go my way i started to get impatient...especailly with women, and its something i really need to work on...showing to much interest is something i need to work on...and of course...the game, once i know the game on a partical stand point, i will be a force to be reckoned with...with ego aside...i know i can be good, i just need to change my inner game to a patient, confident, well educated man...and im gunna get there :) thanx guys...

so i decided not to contact her until she contacts me...pray for me that it works out...i know how AFC this sounds but shit...i know yall can relate to when its a time in a mans life where you need to get results so you can prove to your mind that your worth a damn lol

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I like what everyone else has covered, but maybe she doesn't have texts. Next time you see her ask her if she has texts. Itd be pretty humorous if you were making an issue out of this and she didn't even have texts lol.

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well the last thing she said to me is that she will text me when she is gunna know what shes gunna do...so it is still a mystery...jesus women are the most complicated entity in the holy fucking world