Get Out of Town!!!

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Years ago before I ever heard of The Game or PU or the Community or all of this I had a job that required that I travel regularly. I was a Financial Analyst for a homebuilder responsible for coordinating, consolidating, and reporting on the financial performance of 7 divisions: DFW, Houston, San Antonio, Austin, Phoenix, Albuquerque/Santa Fe, and Las Vegas.

My typical work week required that I travel to each division at least 3 days a week, more often 4 days a week.

Many times, my schedule would be structured like this:

Monday and Tuesday - Albuquerque/Santa Fe
Wednesday afternoon through Friday evening - Phoenix
Monday morning through Wednesday - Las Vegas

My company had a great program that actually encouraged people to stay over the weekend in the city they would be required to report in on Monday morning. Basically they paid for your food, rental car, and hotel to keep you in the city as long as the airfare cost was greater than the cost of remaining in the city. If it wasn't, they'd just give you the difference in cash to subsidize your stay.

Being single and having virtually no responsibilities or reason to ever be in Dallas over the weekend I almost always took the company up on the offer, assuming it wasn't too expensive for me.

So, I'd find myself in strange cities over the weekend and, of course, during the week. Hotel rooms are boring. So, I started hitting the town.

First, I started small. I'd simply hit the hotel bar and drink myself into oblivion (on the company of course). The odd thing was that you'd meet the same people in these bars over and over again. I referred to this as the Travel Circus.

The odd thing about the people in the Circus was that they would speak of their lives back home in a fashion that seemed to be incongruent with the personality they showed me. Once they stepped foot in a different city, they literally became a different person.

This got me thinking.

If someone else can literally leave it all behind and craft themselves into another person in a different city, then could I?

If I could pick the person I wanted to be in a new city then who would I become?

Keep in mind that I'm talking about personality traits, not bold faced lies. In other words, I'm not going to go to Phoenix and tell someone that I live in Bora Bora and am retired because I invented silent velcro. Instead, I can become the guy that I've always envisioned myself...the guy in my head that I was too scared to let out.

So, I got to work. I spent an ENTIRE weekend held up in my hotel room in VEGAS, of all places, trying to workout in my head the person that I wanted to become.

After I worked that part out, I spent the next weekend while I was in Phoenix putting it to work. I spent my Saturday buying new clothes, getting a new hair style, even looking at new cars, you get the idea.

Then, I did the unthinkable, to me at least...I hit a local hot, night spot on my own. The night wasn't exactly a 'success' but it wasn't a 'failure' either.

The next weekend, while I was in Houston, I did the same thing.

Over the next few months I continued going through this process. I literally spent 85 days out of 90 out of town, many of those 85 evenings I spent in bars. I had to clean out rotten food from the fridge at least 4 different times as payment for my neglegence on my home.

Eventually I build a large circle of friends throughout my region and for a while had several girl-friends in several different cities. This all before I learned the Game.

Fast forward a year and the homebuilding industry was on the verge of collapse, I was offerred a severance package and took it. My traveling lifestyle would be over.

Fast forward another year and I discovered the Game. I immediately recognized the vision of myself within in the confines of the Game: it was the guy I was in any city but DFW.

My theory regarding getting out of town:

-Your environment has a real impact on you as a person. Your thoughts, your personality, your mental state. It can be poisonous or uplifting, depending on your experiences in said city/environment.
-No one knows you! So, you can be whomever it is that you wish! I interpret this as being the guy that you truly want to be, the guy hiding inside.
-You don't care. You don't live amongst them. You don't know these people, you'll more than likely NEVER see them again. You have zero invested in them. Therefore, they have no real, long-lasting impact on you or your life. You have nothing to lose. As a result, you aren't afraid to play all your cards. To go out on a limb, to be more aggressive. There is no such thing as failing when you feel like you have NOTHING at stake. (This dynamic is my inspiration for: the difference is indifference).

Now that I've been introduced to the Game, I use the knowledge from my days when I regularly travelled to aid me in my Game.

Anytime I feel as if I've hit a wall or have questions about myself and where I'm going I take a weekend trip to leave everything behind. I've limited these trips to simple roadtrips...OKC, Tulsa, Austin, San Antonio, Houston, etc. I've found that once I step out of the car at my destination I've already worked out my 'problems.'

Then, I find out where the locals go and I hit it HARD!

I'm a fucking machine when I'm out of town, more so than normal. Nothing holds me back. And, I've found that when I get back in town I've been energized, reborn. I feed off of the momentum I gathered from learning a little more about myself and fixing where I've gone wrong.

Being out of town reminds me that I can be the man I have envisioned in my head at all times. Fuck it if someone knows me, or if I live with them, or if I see them again. What the hell do I care? I'm just being me, take it or leave it.

Example:

Recently, I went to Lufkin, Texas for a friend's wedding. Up to this point I was SERIOUSLY considering getting out of the Game. Gracefully bowing out.

But, as soon as I was out of the city I felt the energy of being somewhere new and being someone anyomous pulsing through me. Once I got to Lufkin I recaptured the guy that felt I had lost. I was me again. Sure, closing chicks in Lufkin isn't a challenge, I admit this. But, I closed and I closed with amazing success.

The reason this was important was because before I went to Lufkin I was closing but had no intention to actually follow up, to pursue. I simply didn't care. Now, I f-closed the deal. I was me again. I bull dogged my way to SNLs (this will be the subject of a different post).

If you're having trouble with your Game. If you feel like you've hit a plateau. If you feel zero enthusiasm for the Game and women. If you feel like you've lost something or something is holding you back, my suggestion is....

[b]GET OUT OF TOWN!!![/b]

[Guest]

Awesome post man. One of the best I've ever read on here.

[Guest]

So what I take from your post is...

it's easy closing chicks in lufkin so i'm heding there next weekend ;) just kidding lol

great post i've had a similar experiencing moving here to dallas from austin.

Looking forward to the SNL post ;)

[Guest]

Very nice post, man.

I've taken a break from this whole thing for a while, it's time for me to put some more effort in. Great that this is the first post I read upon returning.

[Guest]

Can someone move this to the Tactics section? I posted in the wrong place.

Thanks.

[Guest]

awesome post, dude. you just re-affirmed what I was thinking for a long time. I need to get out of town! I've been wanting to do it, but I dunno about going it alone. seems like you did just fine alone, though...

[Guest]

I travel for my business on a very regular basis and have done so for 10+ years. Major cities like London, San Fran, Seattle, NY, Chicago, etc.. I could write a book about such tactics. There is no better way to sarge.

[Guest]

[quote1215805805=Muk]but I dunno about going it alone. seems like you did just fine alone, though...[/quote1215805805]

I do my best work on my own. I've never really understood why, but when I'm with other PUAs or wings I just seem to feel as if I'm being watched, feel too in my head, not off the cuff like I normally am.

This is why when I sarge with you guys you'll notice that I usually disappear for long periods of time.

Anyway, give it a try on your own. You might find that you're better alone than with wings.

[Guest]

[quote1215807133=Bull Run]
[quote1215805805=Muk]but I dunno about going it alone. seems like you did just fine alone, though...[/quote1215805805]

I do my best work on my own. I've never really understood why, but when I'm with other PUAs or wings I just seem to feel as if I'm being watched, feel too in my head, not off the cuff like I normally am.

This is why when I sarge with you guys you'll notice that I usually disappear for long periods of time.

Anyway, give it a try on your own. You might find that you're better alone than with wings.
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Definitely better to be alone for a lot of reasons - especially if you don't have a great wing who is also a friend (very very hard to find). 90% of my extensive field time has been spent in a foreign city with no more than a few bar names from citysearch and maybe the local lair board.

You have no other agenda than your own. No-one to impress. Nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about. Its all about you vs the world. Any number of random people can be a wing or a pivot. The possibilities are endless. Its also very hard not to talk to people when you are out on your own - you are almost forced to do it. Very good practice for newbies and experts alike.