GF's EX tries to start a fight with me

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But to summarize, The first time i meet my gf, she had a BF. One nite at the club i started making out with her, and she asked me to take her home in her car. While picking up her car, her boyfriend (at them time) tried to confront us in the car. I didn't want to start any confrontation, so i just drove off. He claims i tried to hit him with the car. My gf ended up breaking up with him, and then mwe got together. Their break up was not good at all.

Anyways since that nite at the club i haven't seen him at any clubs or anything . I'm pretty sure that has just been lucky. I know he goes out alot too. Till tonight. THe exbf was approaching my gf's best friends and started talking with them. (2 girls and their bfs). I guess they talked about old times or something,i really don't know. But it happened like 3 or 4 times. It made my gf very uncomfortable and she would just walk away any time he came and started talking to the group.I just tried to avoid him, so i just went around and winged a friend.

Toward closing time, this guy comes up to me and ask why i tried to hit his friend with a car. I didn't have any idea what he was taking about till the exbf started to get in my face too. I told the exbf that, " hey there nothing really i can say to make this any better, Why don't you guys just go and try to have fun." They persisted to get in my face and try and start a fight. The ex's friend told me to apologize for trying to hit him with the car. If you ever watched reality TV show like i love new york, you see a really big guy try to start a fight with a little guy. And the big guy is all in the little guys face. It was just like that, but i was calm and tried not to look like a pussy for not fighting.

So much shit was going through my head at the same time. Should i just knock him out? should i walk away and dlv? should i just say sorry. I felt sorry for the guy, cuz i did steal his gf. And knocking him out, really didn't feel right. He had the right to be pissed. I was hanging out with my gf's group of friend, so i didn't have the usual back up of my friends. SOme of my gf's friend saw what was going on and tried to break it up, and bouncer finally saw and pulled the guys away. while this was happening i just stood around, kinda calm, watching to make sure no one was going to bust a beer bottle over my head. we just ended up leaving.

So what do you guys think i should do. The exbf goes out alot, and i just think its been luck that i haven't run into him till now. Don't know what to do if i ran in to him again :/

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When you go out, take some of your friends with you or you can take some other PUAs out with you (if you are going to club/bars or events that doesn't involve just you and your gf). That way, you won't be out numbered at least. You prolly wouldn't have had much chance fighting exbf and his friend at same time. That is one way to solve it.

The other one is, just confront him reasonably. Tell exbf, "you don't need to involve his big friends to back him up. That is plainly a pussy move." I see so many guys who love to pick on smaller and weaker guys. When their opponent is as big as them or bigger than them, they try to get their friends involve in the fight. It depends on how crazy this guy is. you might actually have to fight him. But I doubt he has guts to start a fight in the club and get his ass kicked by bouncers. What I read from ur description of him, he is a pussy. He used his big friend to do the dirty work. I mean these 2 waited until toward closing time to approach you and threaten you, they really do sound like pussies. I had a big friend who thought he was the shit and came to my jiu-jitsu dojo to show off his strenght. I beat him and his friend on the spot. They couldn't talk shit afterwards. I was pretty happy considering i was smaller back then and they both were jacked with steroids.

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Wow... Good move.. Continue to DHV and keep control.
Don't feel bad for the guy. He lost his gf because of the WAY he is.

Funny thing is... If you did try to run him over with the car, he would be dead. It is oblivious to his friends, the ex would jump out in front of the car.

I don't know you or your physical condition, but I think the ex is a coward. You could probably beat him up... just because you already beat him in the head game. It seems he acts very cowardly and requires support and encouragement from his friends with his lies. Next time neutralize his friends by telling them in his condition he did jump in front of the car and he needs their help to understand the gf doesn't want him. You are now the new bf. It is her choice.

Was the ex an only child?
He seems really hard up about dealing with reality.

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Just to clarify. When i said it was like what happen on I love New York. I wasn't talking about the size part. Both the guys are about my size. Maybe a little bigger. Just the party where you have this really pissed off guy standing up to another calm guy. I knew at any moment this guy could throw a punch and i was really for it. I was mostly sober, and the two guys where either had that rage buzz, or was really drunk. I didn't think it would take much to take out one guy with a cheap shot to the face. I was sizing them up, and wonder which one was drunker to take out first. Iono. How do you think it would look value wise to do that? DID i look like a pussy for just not fighting back? I feel i did the right thing, but i would like others opinion.