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Interrogatory Declaration (ID)

During my presentation on opening at last Sunday’s class, I mentioned a concept I have termed an Interrogatory Declaration (ID). A few people have asked for more information on this concept, so here it is:

An ID is a statement that, while not technically a question, will almost always require a response. The best way to think of an ID is as the opposite of a rhetorical question.

Rhetorical Question: A question that is actually a statement.
Interrogatory Declaration: A statement that is actually a question.

Pretty much any question can be re-phrased as an ID. IDs can be used while texting, in emails, on the phone, or in person.

IDs are powerful because they display, depending on the context, one or more of the following characteristics:

1. They create a stronger frame than asking traditional questions. You are telling, not asking.
2. IDs “assume the sale” because they often have the answer in the ID.
3. IDs do not supplicate to the HB. You seem stronger, more confident, and more “take charge”.
4. IDs are not used by most guys the HB meets. They make you stand out in her mind.
5. IDs have a conversational tone that makes her feel like she's known you longer than she's actually known you. You don’t talk to your friends by asking rapid fire questions. You simply speak your mind and your friends respond. Traditional questions can make an HB feel like she’s being interviewed.

There are probably other benefits that currently slip my mind. I try to eliminate, as much as is practical, the question mark from the end of my sentences when communicating with an HB.

Examples: (Traditional question (TQ) followed by its Interrogatory Declaration (ID) equivalent)

TQ: Do you want to meet for drinks tonight?
ID: Let's meet for drinks tonight.

TQ: How old are you?
ID: I’d say you’re at least 87 (or whatever) years old.

TQ: Where did you grow up?
ID: I bet you grew up in (Chicago, Houston, etc.).

TQ: How many brothers and sisters do you have?
ID: I have (one, two, no) brothers and sisters.

TQ: Want to watch a DVD at my place?
ID: I’ve got some killer DVDs at my place.

Interrogatory Declarations are a powerful, but simple, technique to incorporate into your toolbox.

- Ratio

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This is borderline what are called 'presuppositions' in linguistics.

TQ: Do you want to meet for drinks tonight?
Presup: Let's meet for drinks tonight. The presupposition is that you already WANT to meet for drinks

TQ: Want to watch a DVD at my place?
Presup: Let's go watch a DVD at my place. presuppose that they already want to go watch a DVD.

This shows up in NLP and influence texts, for selling and so forth.

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I'd add one more reason to why IDs are powerful.

Many women are submissive, especially to a man they're attracted to. I can't believe some of the things women will do if you just tell them instead of asking them and do it in the right frame. A woman will tell you no on a lot of things if you ASK her... if you tell her it's surprising what they will do.

I use IDs in my bouncer routine... 'I'm going to NEED to see your drivers license.' It's hard to get a girl to give you personal information, but if you frame it right they're willing to GIVE you their driver's license with all of it?!? I was pretty shocked. IDs can be very powerful with the right frame/approach in my opinion.

I have another routine I use IDs in that I haven't had the chance to actually use yet, but I'm pretty sure that I'll be able to get over 90% of girls to initiate physical contact using it -- because I'm going to TELL them to... not ask.

Never imagined any of this was possible before getting into this stuff.. it's pretty amazing when you think about it.

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This is a great post, you're 100 % correct.

The way I see it it's about value and about leading. When you make a statement you're doing both. a) by not phrasing something as a question she has less 'responsibility' for the outcome of the pickup, and should generally do a better job of not sounding the 'this is a pickup alarm' and b.) questions generally TAKE value because you are requesting information, where statements GIVE value to the interaction to a greater degree

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Questions are average... every guy tries to do the 'interview' with questions... if you're just asking a bunch of questions, even if they're more geared to this, you're still another guy coming to her asking her a bunch of questions. how many guys walk up to a girl and start telling her what to do right off the bat or leading the conversation through statements rather than questions? :)