Fixing a relationship w/ a stripper

[Guest]

OK guys right before I started reading up on all this stuff I met a stripper at a local club who I managed to impress a bit and seemed like she may be interested in more. Got her # the first night and set up a date with her later... she flaked once or twice before we ended up getting together... it went ok but I didn't wow her or anything... after that I started reading up on a lot of this and realized I'd made quite a few mistakes and was pidgeon holing myself into a provider type relationship... we were supposed to go out again but she flaked on me again a couple of times so I just kinda let it go for a while because I don't go down for that crap. We still talked and texted each other occasionally. This was probably about 3 months ago i met her, and probably a couple months since we last went out. anyway went to that club for the first time in a while and saw her the other night... we've been talking/texting more again the last week or two and last night while I was out with a friend watching the UFC fights, I texted her to see what she was up to. She said her cousin was in town and they were getting ready to go out to greenville.... i told her she should take her to the irish pub across the street from where we went out before... then i texted her that we should go out there together which she said sounded like fun...

So my question is... she's seen some of my AFC behaviors from before... what's the best way to get her back to where I want to be, assuming i'm not too far pegged as a provider or friend? i think she really is open to something but i don't think i've impressed her enough to where she feels like 'damn i gotta get with that guy' or anything

[Guest]

I'm working on a stipper myself, still in phone game and I don't have a good feeling about this at all. Honestly, I'm way too much of a nice guy to be fucking around with strippers. I've met her at this place numerous times during the lunch hour over the last 7 months or so. She qualified herself to me and this last time I was in, she sat with me and I got like 3 hours of comfort established. I texted her once that night and she never responded. I don't think I'll pursue her anymore after that. If her game is that elevated that she doesn't even send a "Who is this?" text or any kind of acknowledgement whatsoever, that really telegraphs something, in my opinion.

I've read on the internet how you should NEVER get involved with strippers because they will leave you heart broken every single time. And think about it like this, how often does some random guy walk into a strip bar and get laid? It happens all the time in those places. You don't want to be wondering if your girlfriend would ever succumb to that temptation.

Probably best to stop chasing her and focus your attention elsewhere. If she chases you, so be it. If not, just realize you got a nice ego boost out of it and move on.

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Not trying to make her a girlfriend or wife ;) I have a friend who's a natural who has had stripper girlfriends and know the potential pitfalls. I just want to pursue the options. With this girl I get the vibe that she's kind of there for my taking if i just play my cards right -- i guess i'm looking for advice on that ;) if anything i've gotten too far into the friend/provider type role and i wouldn't mind having her as a friend and have her in my social circle but i want to see how far it can go ;)

[Guest]

ug, ive been ignoring this because i used to be a dj at strip clubs for bout 3 years. I cant stand stripers. Id rather stick my dick in a trash can than even get head from one.

here's the keys to that dirty breed of whore though...

these bitches have guys buy them shit and tell them how hot they are all the time so guess what, do the opposite. no1 neg, neg, neg. i cant possibly stress this enough. careful not to go to far though cuz this type of idiot is lible to cut your ass. pick somthing that isnt perfect and say how much money she cold make if only she tightend up her ass.(or whatever). no2get her to buy you somthing, even a stick of gum and your doing great. If you can trick her with a routine into buying you a beer, thats money.

remember, these girls are USUALLY damaged goods so remember the phrase "Treat em like dirt and they'll stick to you like mud". Happy whore hunting.

[Guest]

i dated a stipper once and am no expert, but my experience was similar to what sterling says. She would be a complete bitch and start yelling at me until I got so pissed that I started yelling back at her and pointing out how stupid the things she was saying were and then she was like a fucking purring kitten to me. I cant tell you how many times I thought to myself what kind of fucked up world am I living in. I had to be mean to her to make her happy. After a few months I couldn't take it anymore.

[Guest]

Do I know you Rembrandt? That sounds like some Brazilian strippers I know. My buddy had the exact same thing happen to him.

Like a lot of girls with "princess on a pedestal" syndrome if you want to get anywhere with them keep your pimp hand real strong. They seem to respond well to neg's.

Stripperville........the place every man wants to visit, but can't wait to leave!!!

Here's my tips:
1. Don't buy dances from them.
2. Don't date a stripper from your favorite club.
3. It won't last very long most likely, don't put too much heart into it.

I think its best to just hang out and party with those girls, that's about all they are good for. But there are a few good ones out there. Good luck, you'll need it.

[Guest]

You know the title of this thread is really amusing if you've ever been in a relatinship with a stripper......errrh I mean "dancer"!