My father is a confidence destroyer

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[quote1211467148=Neuromancer]"Get out of your head and just do it," is common advice. It's like saying to someone with pneumonia "Just stop being sick and get out of bed."[/quote1211467148]

I totally disagree. Comparing a physical issue with an emotional/mental issue is completely ridiculous. And, it's common advice because when you commit to it, it works.

When you have poor thought processes and a poor outlook, the best thing to do is to stop thinking about how bad shit is and to begin interacting with the world. Stop the pity party and turn your shit around. You are the one in control of what you want to do. It truly is that simple. I think back on my life and the things I've wanted:

I wanted to be healthy, so I got of my ass and lost damn near 100lbs

I wanted to a great paying job that I enjoy, so I got off my ass and went to grad school

I wanted to own my own business, so I got my ass and started one

I wanted to be better with women, so I got of my ass and started to figure them out

I could go on and on. IT is that simple. You can change your life by simply changing your thought processes and doing something about it!

Be a man of action, get out of your head, put your excuses aside and just fucking do it!

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you forgot...
" I wanted my own forum, so I got of my ass and started a new Forum."

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[quote1211565678=Imager]you forgot...
" I wanted my own forum, so I got of my ass and started a new Forum."[/quote1211565678]

Nah, I can't take credit for the new forum. I merely supported Vector's move to this forum.

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Ever seen the Seinfeld episode where George Costanza goes on about "Independent George" and "Relationship George" and how if Relationship George ever comes into contact with Independent George, Relationship George will kill Independent George? (Great episode, btw)

Well, it was a funny episode, but it is SO true. It's what's known as a Phsychological Frame. My ex-wife had me in a certain frame, but I was always a completely different person around my friends. Now that I'm divorced, there is still one Frame that I can't overcome, even at 38 years of age, and even though I own my business and make over a quarter million a year...it's my Frame around my parents. I've tried to overcome it, but I just can't get it done. I'm not the same person around my parents that I am in normal everyday life. I just can't overcome this frame. Normally, I'm a foul mouthed, friendly, outgoing person with tons of confidence. Around my parents, I'm always fearful of their judgement of my lifestyle, with their super-Christian beliefs. I just can't be my normal self when I'm around them. And after I drive over and visit the folks for a night or two, when I get back home, my "frame" is still effected for days, sometimes, before I get back to normal.

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Imager, you got it! haha
oh and bull, your myspace link doesn't work =P

and alphagame... yeah i think it is something about it that does not change the frame in that situation with them. It's weird... I guess it's a human nature?

oh and thx to traveler for advice.