so yeah as you all know I just graduated from univ. of tx at austin.
It was an important day for me. Half of me was happy and the other did not know what to do.
I have gotten accepted to few companies before, however, I declined every single one of 'em for some stupid reason.
I guess I thought I wanted something else. Now that I graduated, I don't have a job/things lined up. I am still looking for jobs/business opportunities. I am getting some job offers right now at the moment, but I don't know why I am holding myself back.
The uncertainty of my future... is kind of scary, but at sametime I am trying to think positively by thinking uncertainty is what makes our lives interesting.
At the moment, I am staying with my parents. I have no jobs/ no jobs lined up for me. I am getting some offers, but I seem to hold myself back for whatever reason.
My dad just destroys my confidence every second I am with him. His friends' sons and daughters are some robots who made all straight As in 5 years of their college with only one B. They get into some big ass companies like Goldman Sach, KPMG, and JP Morgan blah blah.
I don't really care if I get to work with huge ass company or not. My dad somehow makes it that he can penetrate my defenses and put me down. He disqualifies me and everything. His comments are always negative towards me.
With all these shit going on right after my graduation, I am struggling to keep my confidence and everything to keep me tight.
There was a girl from 6th street that I number closed when I sarged with Socrates at Cheers. It was the set I and Socrates ran like pros. Come to think of it, I don't even know how I pulled that shit out. Despite the fact that it was a very large mixed group with bout 4-5 guys. I think I gave this girl 8 or 8.5. Now that I am in dallas area, I can meet up wtih her. However I am struggling so hard with myself all of sudden to pick up the phone and do the day 2 with her. I feel like a useless college graduate who graduated wtihout a job lined up and no jobs right now.
I don't know what the hell is gonna happen in the future. I guess I am at my sticking point in my life.
Anybody know someone or cool jobs that I might be able to take on?
All the jobs I am getting offers are like office jobs. I don't really want these. I don't want to sit on the desk all day looking at computers and doing paper work in the building. I want something that is like managing type of jobs. I want to interact and be out there at my job.
It will be cool if anybody can give me some advices on jobs/business opportunities/how to restore my confidence/etc. Thanks for all yall's support always.
-Sleek
Dallas PUA
The Pickup Artist Playground
My father is a confidence destroyer
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by Guest » Wed May 21, 2008 11:21 am
I think you are suffering from an oft overlooked aspect of Game. That is life outside of women. It's a perpetual cycle, the more you achieve outside of your life with women the better you are with women, the better you are with women the more you achieve outside of women. The reverse holds true.
My suggestion is to simply get out of your head and just do it! Sure, the first few seconds will seem like an eternity and you won't feel like you're in your grove. BUT, that will wear off and eventually it'll come back to you. Just like riding a bike, you'll be clumsy initially but you never really forget. Within a matter of seconds you'll feel as if you never stopped riding. Get it?
By the way, my father did the same thing to me. He always played this game that I've come to refer to as smaller. No matter how small he felt, he always had to make me feel smaller. We've all got issues man, we've all got obstacles to overcome. The key is to realize that the only person that ever really makes you feel the way you do is YOU. Others can try to make you feel good/bad/angry/sad/etc, but the fact is that if you don't want to feel that way you don't have to.
I don't know you on a personal level, just as I don't know many of the guys on here on a personal level...I suppose I may never know everyone. BUT, something I have learned from all of the guys I've met is that we're all fucking awesome! We are the shit, hands down. We are capable, smart, and hungry! That combination is dangerous and I see it every time I go sarging with my boys, the damage we inflict on the dating scene is awe inspiring. Imagine what would happen if we unleashed our abilities on the rest of the world?
You've got it in you man. Somewhere, hiding, lurking, waiting to pounce. It's up to you to unleash the beast, to become the man you've always wanted to be, the one you know you are meant to be...
Good luck!!!
My suggestion is to simply get out of your head and just do it! Sure, the first few seconds will seem like an eternity and you won't feel like you're in your grove. BUT, that will wear off and eventually it'll come back to you. Just like riding a bike, you'll be clumsy initially but you never really forget. Within a matter of seconds you'll feel as if you never stopped riding. Get it?
By the way, my father did the same thing to me. He always played this game that I've come to refer to as smaller. No matter how small he felt, he always had to make me feel smaller. We've all got issues man, we've all got obstacles to overcome. The key is to realize that the only person that ever really makes you feel the way you do is YOU. Others can try to make you feel good/bad/angry/sad/etc, but the fact is that if you don't want to feel that way you don't have to.
I don't know you on a personal level, just as I don't know many of the guys on here on a personal level...I suppose I may never know everyone. BUT, something I have learned from all of the guys I've met is that we're all fucking awesome! We are the shit, hands down. We are capable, smart, and hungry! That combination is dangerous and I see it every time I go sarging with my boys, the damage we inflict on the dating scene is awe inspiring. Imagine what would happen if we unleashed our abilities on the rest of the world?
You've got it in you man. Somewhere, hiding, lurking, waiting to pounce. It's up to you to unleash the beast, to become the man you've always wanted to be, the one you know you are meant to be...
Good luck!!!
- Guest
by Guest » Wed May 21, 2008 4:30 pm
That sucks that your dad gives you so much grief.
First Lesson: If you have kids make sure you don't treat them the same way.
I know it sucks to hear this but the first thing I would do is get a job. Even if it is one of those crappy jobs you speak of. The reason being you need to get out of your house. You need to start making some coin so you can get an apartment. The environment you speak of is not condusive to your mental well being. You're in your parents house and they sorta have a certain level of control over you.
Second Lesson: It is ok to not know what you want to do right now. When I was 22 assuming you are of that age I had no freaking clue what I wanted to be when I grew up. You might not know for another X amount of years. Hell you might jump from one career to another your entire life. Get out there and try some different things. Who knows you might find a job/company that you really like and grow with them.
First Lesson: If you have kids make sure you don't treat them the same way.
I know it sucks to hear this but the first thing I would do is get a job. Even if it is one of those crappy jobs you speak of. The reason being you need to get out of your house. You need to start making some coin so you can get an apartment. The environment you speak of is not condusive to your mental well being. You're in your parents house and they sorta have a certain level of control over you.
Second Lesson: It is ok to not know what you want to do right now. When I was 22 assuming you are of that age I had no freaking clue what I wanted to be when I grew up. You might not know for another X amount of years. Hell you might jump from one career to another your entire life. Get out there and try some different things. Who knows you might find a job/company that you really like and grow with them.
- Guest
by Guest » Wed May 21, 2008 6:38 pm
damnit im inspired myself too Bull run!
how come i never met you i wanna kiss your head!!
i am too a drop out
the game cost me my career
lol sike!
i chose it myself
cuz in the end no matter what happen it's what you feel about it thats gonna make you live it's true what bull said
hey! Bill Gates never get to experience the "luxury"
we all in here have.........
how come i never met you i wanna kiss your head!!
i am too a drop out
the game cost me my career
lol sike!
i chose it myself
cuz in the end no matter what happen it's what you feel about it thats gonna make you live it's true what bull said
hey! Bill Gates never get to experience the "luxury"
we all in here have.........
- Guest
by Guest » Wed May 21, 2008 8:34 pm
The first thing you need to learn is people treat you how you allow them to treat you. If your dad mistreats you then tell him that to his face. I've had to tell my dad to backoff before when I was younger and he actually respected me more for it instead of pouting and crying about it.
2ndly I agree with Pictureperfect about taking a starting job. That is the biggest problem I see with college grads... is that they want that dream job that they love that pays 80k a year starting out. Hardly anyone has that fall in to their lap. How do you get that job? By going out and taking it. Don't go turning down jobs because you think they are beneath you if you have nothing to fall back on.
Thirdly sometimes this coddling "it's not all your fault" thing just is an enabling mechanism. Just my thoughts. I know this may not be the most popular viewpoint but damn it.... I would hope fellow UT alums would show a little more backbone.
2ndly I agree with Pictureperfect about taking a starting job. That is the biggest problem I see with college grads... is that they want that dream job that they love that pays 80k a year starting out. Hardly anyone has that fall in to their lap. How do you get that job? By going out and taking it. Don't go turning down jobs because you think they are beneath you if you have nothing to fall back on.
Thirdly sometimes this coddling "it's not all your fault" thing just is an enabling mechanism. Just my thoughts. I know this may not be the most popular viewpoint but damn it.... I would hope fellow UT alums would show a little more backbone.
- Guest
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