LTR issues

[flash07]

Although i have no interest in the topic as of right now i just wanted to ask some questions to the experts. First off i keep running into an issue in LTR's. I hit about 3 months it just goes cold. I have figured its because im making myself too available but i wanted to know how do yall balance between being there but away enough to keep long term interest. I would love to hear back from yall.

thanks,
Flash

[Mojo]

Keep busy. Have a life. Have things you need to do outside the relationship. Everyone loves to travel. Take fun last-minute little trips always add spice to the LTR. Some things I have done this year with my girl (not a LTR though she is vieing for that) is Montreal for New Year's, Big Ben in a couple of weeks, along with Vegas within a couple of months. Also, have variety in where you two go. There are so many things to do in Dallas such as the museum (a favorite of mine since I am an Art buff), Arboretum, Dallas Aquarium, bookstore (I love to read), theme restaurants, the fair (there is one on 635 and Montfort near the Galleria), Scarborough faire (I got season passes), skating rinks, etc. As for tradition dates such as a movie, watch a movie at home with a bottle of win, home cooked meal, a few candles, and it is on! Play board games. Take a scrabble board and go to a pub to play with a good pint of beer (Herbal told me this one). All this is from the top of my head, though there is so much more. All this adventure makes it more enjoyable for her and for you!

Hope this helps,

Mojo

[BluesCluesPUA]

I heard Harmless say something about this last month that really resonated with me. In talking about managing expectations, he said "don't do anything now that you don't want to be doing three months from now." If you are looking to stop seeming so available, the answer might be to show less availability from the start. I see too many relationships go cold like that because the first few months you're constantly together (and when you're not, there are the phone calls that never end), going on dates several times a week, etc. It's hard to keep that up once the relationship loses its new flare, and I think the going-cold you experience could be a combination of the relationship's age and that decline in enthusiasm.

I'm not sure what "going cold" entails in your relationships, but I hope this helps.

[flash07]

yeah i think its being together too much from the start. I'll take both of these into account thanks alot guys

[jast]

BluesClues86 is right one with his advice. Out of all the girls I have been out with and had LTR with the only one still around is the one that I did not try and impress or do thing that I normally don't do.

When you put up the front doing things you normally don't do soon or later you have to let it down. Now things are all missed up because who she thought you were is not who you really are all the time. You have to keep it real with a girl if you want a good LTR.

Also what Mojo says is right on to have a life and do things you enjoy and when you do meet a girl that you want a LTR with make sure you don't make her your life, you should make her part of your life.