Confidence & Social Skills

[Guest]

I have always been pretty insecure when it comes to approaching women. I have no idea why because I haven't had a lot of problems with women.

I just remembered something tonight that happened a few years ago.

I had gone to a bar to see a band play. I got a little bored and even though I wasn't dressed for it I got curious about the club across the street. The club had some great music playing and a long line to get in.

I asked my friend's girlfriend if she would walk over with me to check it out so we got in line. By the way, my friend's girlfriend was not very attractive. I started getting insecure like maybe we would be turned away or not let in because we didn't look the part.

There were two HB10 (hired guns) working the line. One of them seemed very confident like maybe she was part owner or manager (who knows - she painted the frame for me by her confidence level). It was a brand new club. So anyway, this HB10 working the line motions for me to come to her and I'm thinking to myself what the fuck is she going to say to me like maybe I am not dressed right or something. I am thinking my shoes are wrong or something and she feels sorry for me because I am near the back of the line and she doesn't want me to wait an hour only to find out I can't get in.

So I walk by everyone in the line and I get to her and she tells me to go on in. I am thinking, cool, she let me cut the line. I tell her the girl is with me and she says okay, she can go in too. I'm so freaking insecure I am still trying to figure out what is happening. Then I start to pull out my money because I had seen other people paying a cover. She says just go, put your money away. She's almost getting annoyed at me at this point as if I should have known the routine.

I walked in the club on a high but it only lasted about 10 seconds then I thought I was the only one in the club that didn't belong there. I didn't talk to a single person and got so nervous I left less than ten minutes later.

What's the point of this story? We are our own worst enemies. We think other people see us the way we see ourselves or the way the previous person saw us or the previous ex-girlfriend that dumped us. The truth is every time we walk into a place we start fresh. We paint a picture of ourselves with our dress, out attitude, our body language, our actions, our words, but it's a fucking blank canvas every time!

We can control the frame along with our target and everyone else around us in how we interact with them. Let's keep painting a better picture each time we have a blank canvas to work with until we are painting masterpieces.

Think of your clothes, your hair (or shaved head), your facial hair, your rings, your accessories, think of all this as your paints, brushes and tools for your painting.

When you walk into a bar, or whatever, realize at that moment the picture begins to get painted. You can either direct the brush or someone else will. Your body language, your smile (or lack of), where you walk, where you stand, who you talk to, what you drink, everything becomes a part of the picture you are painting and the frame you are in. Be aware of it and direct it. When you open a set the details start to take shape. The target begins to see your painting.

It's starts today. Your canvas is blank. What will you paint?

[Guest]

I'm gonna paint a cheetah. But it is going to have purple spots. I think that will look really neat.

But for real no doubt what you just said. When I am feeling good everything about me is different. And I am not just talking about when I am tipsy. It is just something you emit to the world. You walk past the bouncer without showing your ID because you know he knows you are badass and that it isn't necessary for him to id you. Then you walk into the venue and the same thing happens. You are money.

How is it duplicated though is the question>? I guess it comes down to internalizing that feeling and doing it over and over.

[Guest]

[quote="playercool"]I'm gonna paint a cheetah.[/quote]

You jest, but this may actually work. It's a form of self-hypnosis. So, be a cheetah, cheetahs rock.

Let me ask you, do you find that you're built for brief bursts of speed, but not so much for the long run?

Do you hunt your prey from a distance and then sprint in for the attack?

Do you tend to hang around in groups of other males?

[Guest]

Hahhahahahahahahhahahahahahahhaah

You hit it on the head my friend. That is nuts.

I love going out with a ton of guys. The bigger the group the better.

I escalate to the kclose faster then most I know.

Of course everyone spots their targets from afar. I know it happens plenty of times while out. Unless they sneak up and proximity. Some are ninjas afterall.

[Guest]

On the contrary, I feel that the more guys you have in the group the bigger the dhv. The girls is thinking "Ok 10 guys and not one girl? Next!". Now you can have a lot of fun in an all man cock-squad, but good luck pulling anything quality.