Target asking you to qualify yourself.. - Help!

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Target: solid, solid GF material. She has a BF. And let's just say they don't fit. It's scary how well her and I vibe. Was very obvious last time I saw her she was flirting and qualifying herself. ( I had avoided her for about a month or so)

Shit test or recent qualify yourself test:

In email, she asks me... How work is? How busy I am? And what is the typical day like for me?

Honestly.. I'm sure she knows I think she's hot from a friend. And good chance she knows I'm in between jobs right now. I'm trying to get those things on track... and just left a stop gap job this new year, because it was more of a distraction.

ADVICE: Why/what is she asking? What do I say? Make a difference that she is part Asian? (Mom loves me btw) And how do I answer this shit to other women right now? I had decided I would put my head down and concentrate on getting my shit together. But, I can't leave this one alone.


Big D!

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there's really not enough info here for me to decide on the perfectly right answer, but I will try regardless.
I know that many times girls will give you hints on how to seduce them maybe she is telling you that you actually do need to qualify some to her. She wants a basis of reasons for the way she feels about you. Especially if she was qualifying herself alot before when you were with her. She may be trying to determine whether to break it off with her bf and go with you or not, and she cannot do this without knowing a little more about you.

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Very possibly it could be as simple as just trying to create conversation but it sounds to me like yall know each other fairly well so maybe not. Maybe she is trying to see where your at in life to decide if she should spend any more of her time and energy on you, maybe in the process dumping her BF.

From her questions I would say:

I just left my job last week because it was more of a distraction to you than a career and that you have certain goals that you are trying to meet. Many new prospective jobs have emerged that will allow you to fulfill your soul a little more. Just trying to decide which one I am going to take.

I stay busy because I really have alot going on between searching out the right job, hobbies, bettering yourself in whatever way you might be (working out, jogging, job hunting).

Make her think you have a life and that you are a busy, important person that takes up your own amount of space in this huge world and that will turn her on a little I think.

Typical day for you??? Bring family into it. Your a family oriented guy with values and morals right? You also have your life though and are on your way to the top. Feel that way and maybe she will want to be with you on that journey.

Don't know what type of person she is therefore not sure what types of things she would like to hear. Mirror her values, judgements, and desires SOME. Don't go overboard... Don't know much else to say but GOOD LUCK homeboy.

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From my point of view and keep in mind that I dont know the girl so I might not be dead on. But from my experiences in the girl is just trying to start small talk with you so it can lead into more. I mean think about it this way....

Why do you open girls? -because you want them-

Why would you call a girl after you get her number? -you want more of her-

Same thing she is doing here with you. Dont look at it as a she wants you to qualify to her but as she is trying to spark up some chimistry between the two of you. Skip talking about work in the reply and tell her something fun youve done the last week for so... then start asking her questions to build up some rapore.