The importance of "type" in Denton

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I just joined this forum and have recently become interested in the PUA community. I am a UNT student living in Denton, TX.

Have any of you with experience sarging in Denton noticed the prevalence of a taste for the hipster/emo/indie/tortured artist look in the women up here? I routinely have girls suggest my look is not their type. I know they mean it literally too because its obvious they gravitate towards a particular look and image. It's very common in the girls up here. I could have the fashion houses of Gucci, Versace, and Prada all collaborate to dress me up for a an evening, while I simultaneously hold a PHD in philosophy and music and these girls would still not be into me because I don't possess the "indie look."

I'm a 6'1'' 245 pound powerlifter. I can't pull off the indie look no matter how hard I try.

So my question is, how do you deal with this whole "type" thing. Have any of you run into girls who are hardcore into this type of guy?

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Don't give a shit what anyone else thinks about you. You are a cool guy how you are. Believe this and the women will also.
Girls are only into guys because of the emotional value they give them. For instance a girl says she loves bigger guys. I get this one alot. All I do is reframe it. I am comfortable with who I am, so instead of being reactive like a typical guy I disqualify.

[size=9:326762f60f][b]Her:[/b] I like bigger guys than you.

[b]Me:[/b] [i]*freeze all your body language and look at her expectingly in order for her to expand and qualify her statement.*[/i]

[b]Her:[/b] errr well... you know I just like a guy who can give me a sense of comfort and security while I am around him.

[b]Me:[/b] That's an interesting way of putting it, you give good answers. I like that in a girl. *soi or escalate* I used to install satellites. I would go to these peoples houses, and they would trust me with something so personal and secure to them, their home and sometimes I would really mess their place up. I drilled a hole through woman's favorite teddy bear, I knocked over a dudes fence once also... It's funny how when I talked to people and did these things they really didn't care too much after because of that comfort and security I had built just by talking to them a little bit before these accidents.

[b]Me:[/b] Let's go get some coffee across the street.[/size]

[b]Reward, Relate, Escalate.[/b]
reward her for putting an investment in the conversation. I.E. her giving me a better answer. Then relate. Then escalate.

[Guest]

Zine is right. Be comfortable with who you are and make sure your body language expresses that. Last night (out with Shine, Tracer and some pivots) I # closed a girl that was at least as tall or taller than me. I was comfortable with who I was/am. I know what you mean about Denton but it also depends on where you go to sarge. I like Lucky Lou's because it is open, usually packed around 11:00 pm and there are different types of people there. One example of being comfortable is the fact that Shine, Tracer and myself wear eyeliner (one form of peacocking) when we go out. Some girls love it, some don't, and some say they don't like it but really do. I get weird looks from guys all the time and people comment. Who cares though, the girls like it. If you want to change your look then great but make sure you do it for you first and that you are also comfortable.

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Or...you could just go out in Dallas...
Regards,
Larry

[Guest]

[quote="Smile"]Zine is right. Be comfortable with who you are and make sure your body language expresses that. Last night (out with Shine, Tracer and some pivots) I # closed a girl that was at least as tall or taller than me. I was comfortable with who I was/am. I know what you mean about Denton but it also depends on where you go to sarge. I like Lucky Lou's because it is open, usually packed around 11:00 pm and there are different types of people there. One example of being comfortable is the fact that Shine, Tracer and myself wear eyeliner (one form of peacocking) when we go out. Some girls love it, some don't, and some say they don't like it but really do. I get weird looks from guys all the time and people comment. Who cares though, the girls like it. If you want to change your look then great but make sure you do it for you first and that you are also comfortable.[/quote]

Thanks for the advice. Next time I'm at Lou's and see some guys wearing eyeliner, then I'll know it's you guys. Heh.

[Guest]

smile, or others, you got any Pics of you sporting eyeliner? Ive tried it.. but never could get it to work... always taken it off faster than I put it on. I'm not sure if I'm doing it right though... lol

Ive done the black nails things a few times... mixed reactions, people telling me its not halloween yet and shit... thats fine... it starts a few conversations though.

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[quote="Kalop"]smile, or others, you got any Pics of you sporting eyeliner? Ive tried it.. but never could get it to work... always taken it off faster than I put it on. I'm not sure if I'm doing it right though... lol

Ive done the black nails things a few times... mixed reactions, people telling me its not halloween yet and shit... thats fine... it starts a few conversations though.[/quote]
That's exactly what you want. Have people bust on you and handle it with confidence and congruence. That's the whole point of peacocking the way Mystery does it.

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I never understood why anyone want to dress like mystery. Hes an illusionist and that look only works for him. If the look isnt congruent and fit your everyday life why do it? Getting people to come talk to is all good but why dress like a wierdo? It might be on a different forum but some guy was talking about wearing 2 watches on both hands. What is the point of that? Some people take the idea of peacocking into a whole new ball game. If you dont have a reason for what you wear other than getting people to come talk to u.. then dont do it in my opinion. Your just setting up a scenario for a jackass comparison.

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It's not about what you are wearing, it's the fact that you can handle yourself well, despite social pressure. I'm also wondering if maybe it's not peacocking which is the issue...you should still be able to pull without peacocking. Dressing in an outlandish fashion to garner attention is a tool, a means to an end, but not a requirment. If your hitting every point....open, hook, stack, neg, at that point an attraction should be building, and you should be recieving IOI's from your target. The whole type issue is really all in your head...women don't gravitate towards only one type of guy, if that were so, this system wouldn't work. MM gives you an opportunity with any women. Plus women in general don't know what they want til it's right in front of them. If your are interested in help with Denton or help with peacocking private message me....

-Phoenix[/quote]

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i agree that type is very important. i usually go out only to dance and the reason girls dont dance with me is bcoz they say they dont like my type.

i've been thinking to get an identity like hiphop, indie or the like cuz those are the guys they are dancing with