Inch by Inch: Improving your Inner Game

[method]

Hey,

You'll remember at the Sarge Night event this past Friday we discussed not only the importance of having good inner game, but also the importance of discussing ways to attain it.

To that end, Tyler's RSD blog has a post about thinking positively, and about how small incremental gains are important to your overall improvement and to the goals you will reach. I feel this is a great post, as it touches on some points I feel are really important, such as noting all the positive things that happen to you, either through journaling or discussion, and how that positively will help you in your approaches and interactions. Here's a direct link to the post:

http://realsocialdynamics.blogspot.com/2007/03/inch-by-inch-progress-and-lost-art-of.html

If you get a chance, I recommend checking out the other posts on there. Tyler writes some really great stuff.

Enjoy,
Method

[Mojo]

TD and the RSD guys have their inner game in order. Good article.


Here is a re-post of TD's article:

Inch by Inch: Improving your Inner Game


Your mind has a certain perception of what level of success you should have, and whether you like it or not, your mind will constantly play games with you to keep you at the level of success it thinks you should achieve.

This is one of the freakiest, hard to deal with barriers that you will ever encounter.

To truly transform and experience “deep identity level change” you will have to fight and force and continually manage it the entire way through.

One of the biggest games your mind will play is making you remember and focus mostly on the events in your life it thinks are in alignment with the level of success that you’re accustomed to – therefore allowing itself to be lazy and avoid working through the complexities of adjusting to a new set of beliefs.

So for example, if you don’t think that you’d be able to easily figure out the complexities of gaining massive success, your mind will literally screen out and forget all the good things you’ve done – in order that you don’t get any “big ideas” about what you’re capable of, and submerge yourself into a new reality that would be taxing for your mind to have to think through.

Let’s say that you go out to a club one night with the goal of meeting and talking to every woman in the place (a phenomenal idea – good thinking).

You chat up ten groups of girls that night, six of which are really cool to you and four of which somewhat blow you off.

If your mind doesn’t perceive you as being a guy who could deal with the status that comes with having attention from women, it will cause you to focus on and remember only the girls who blew you off – basically pummelling you with evidence that you can’t do the new things that you’re trying to do.

Your friends will ask you “How did your night go?” and you’ll remember all the approaches that didn’t go your way. They might even remind you – “But didn’t you have a good time with that one girl?” and you’ll say “Oh yeah… Well, whatever…”

You might also hang out with a guy who has the type of skills that you could learn from, and literally not be able to see how well he’s doing or rationalize that his skills are purely because of his looks or something else you don’t have.

It doesn’t matter if this is in direct conflict with your personal desire to get good with women.

Your mind’s agenda is different than your own.

Of course, it’s fundamentally important that you force your mind to continually re-focus on the positive that’s happened (even if it's just ONE INCH of progress) – which can be done by journaling daily, talking about the good things that happened with friends who are supportive, or just regularly taking stock of how far you’ve come.

Did you get a conversation going? Did you get a few laughs? Did you at least get out of your house and actually live life while most people sat at home and watched TV?

Whatever it is, you’ve got to focus on that. No matter how small it might appear.

Once your mind is conditioned to do this on its own then you’ve reached your goal and it’s no longer something you have to do consciously – although if you find yourself falling back into old patterns you’ll have to bring back the fundamentals and re-adjust.

You might say, “Why can’t I just look at my successes and failures realistically and focus on them with equal weight?”

But without a focus on the positive you really have nothing to build on.

You’re not trying to be a scientist here.

You’re just getting into a headspace where you feel like the man and your mind is no longer resisting behaviours that you know are more attractive.

Emotionally and neurologically, you’re trying to force your mind to anticipate a positive response from new behaviours so that they become natural and smooth.

To approach confidently and without constraint your mind has to anticipate a positive response from it, like “This makes more sense than wandering around the club aimlessly or clustering in a group with my friends… This makes more sense than approaching timidly or self-apologetically, like I have some big reputation or self-image that I have to protect…”

You’ve got to force your mind to register it’s “OK” to take on a new set of foreign behaviours (even if they’re in severe in conflict with your social conditioning), and to trust in a fresh set o f bearings for a positive response.

By doing this you scramble your mind’s attempts to self-sabotage you, and then you rewind and reground yourself at a later point once you’ve got the new reality locked down.

[Tribulus1000]

Yeah I've been reading RSD's Blog quite a bit now. That post was awesome and the one about "The Gap between Being You and Getting Girls" is so profound.

Its really inspiring me.

If you have not read the RSD blog, I suggest you do so...NOW!!!

JK.


-Tribulus

[PlayerSupreme]

TD and the RSD guys have their inner game in order. Good article.


Here is a re-post of TD's article:

Inch by Inch: Improving your Inner Game


Your mind has a certain perception of what level of success you should have, and whether you like it or not, your mind will constantly play games with you to keep you at the level of success it thinks you should achieve.
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Hmmm this is what I have done show after show after show on. You attract what level of energy that you are vibrating at.

Basically td is getting into the law of attraction. Good for him. Bout time others took the red pill and woke up.

But now let's see how this community will handle being shaken awake. Then all that stuff about PUA techniques will go out the window.

It will be interesting to watch the drama and hysterics. I work out with a guy who is studying to become a Catholic from a presbyterian. He worships the catholic church and for kicks I talked to him about a program I watched on the tomb of jesus.

Of course guys who put their entire life and energy into a belief will have their very foundations shook when alternative ideas threaten their very existance. His type made good foot soldiers when he was in.

To think Mother Mary wasn't a virgin at death was way too much for him. To think that it was possible for Joseph to stay married to Maria all those years and not touch the pussy like a total AFC during a time period where you were commanded by your own faith to have tons of kids.....yeah.