extremely annoyed

[Dragon]

ok, so i was a Natural and alpha male and had no problems with women. I fell in love, which ultimately lead to my downfall. I went into severe depression and stopped talking to people for a long time and lost my social skills, quick wit, confidence and social intelligence. At this point ,i'm unsatisfied with myself because something such as women who were once something easy for me, are now hard as hell(talking about 8's and 9's). Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Focus your attention on something else for a while. Do you have any other hobbies and interests besides girls? Immerse yourself in that for a while. Find new hobbies and interests. Learn how to have fun again and be happy. Once you do that, then worry about the women. Don't let a positive mental state EVER depend upon women.

Read "Power of Now" by Ekhart Tolle.

My brother is a Mechanical Engineer/Consultant/HypnoTherapist who recently got divorced and dating.
I asked him how did he move on so quick, while I am still stuck mentally still in the old relationship. He told me to read that book. Yes, it got me pass the pain and memories of a 19 YEARS relationship and I am so much better than I was before I started on the book.

Look.. hobbies and interests are great and it will occupy your mind from something else (your mentally unresolved issues) but it will take time, a very long time because this solution is waiting for time to heal. "Power of Now" is about living in the Presents and moving on and not feeding your pain body. Once you know what is a Pain Body and know for what it is... it goes away. I am telling you bro, I HAD a big Pain Body.

[Khaos]

ok, so i was a Natural and alpha male and had no problems with women. I fell in love, which ultimately lead to my downfall. I went into severe depression and stopped talking to people for a long time and lost my social skills, quick wit, confidence and social intelligence. At this point ,i'm unsatisfied with myself because something such as women who were once something easy for me, are now hard as hell(talking about 8's and 9's). Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Focus your attention on something else for a while. Do you have any other hobbies and interests besides girls? Immerse yourself in that for a while. Find new hobbies and interests. Learn how to have fun again and be happy. Once you do that, then worry about the women. Don't let a positive mental state EVER depend upon women.

Yeah, I love cars, shooting range, muay thai, girls, and making money.

[Khaos]

ok, so i was a Natural and alpha male and had no problems with women. I fell in love, which ultimately lead to my downfall. I went into severe depression and stopped talking to people for a long time and lost my social skills, quick wit, confidence and social intelligence. At this point ,i'm unsatisfied with myself because something such as women who were once something easy for me, are now hard as hell(talking about 8's and 9's). Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Focus your attention on something else for a while. Do you have any other hobbies and interests besides girls? Immerse yourself in that for a while. Find new hobbies and interests. Learn how to have fun again and be happy. Once you do that, then worry about the women. Don't let a positive mental state EVER depend upon women.

Read "Power of Now" by Ekhart Tolle.

My brother is a Mechanical Engineer/Consultant/HypnoTherapist who recently got divorced and dating.
I asked him how did he move on so quick, while I am still stuck mentally still in the old relationship. He told me to read that book. Yes, it got me pass the pain and memories of a 19 YEARS relationship and I am so much better than I was before I started on the book.

Look.. hobbies and interests are great and it will occupy your mind from something else (your mentally unresolved issues) but it will take time, a very long time because this solution is waiting for time to heal. "Power of Now" is about living in the Presents and moving on and not feeding your pain body. Once you know what is a Pain Body and know for what it is... it goes away. I am telling you bro, I HAD a big Pain Body.

Tolle is a quack. I'm good with the book i have and i refuse to read tolle.

[red]

"At this point, I am unsatisfied with myself."

That should be why you continue to be a natural.

Please do yourself a favor. Go check out a book.

"Awaken The Giant Within" By Anthony Robbins.

Most of us have been in a position where we were not satisfied with where we were, or who we are in life. At this point, you need direction.

YOU are your own true form of motivation. Concepts are signposts. They get you to a certain state of being. Identity is developed, and improved through state of mind. State of mind is developed by... well redundantly speaking.... State of mind. Train yourself to stop being negative, and become positive. Then you will be natural again.

Best of luck.

[Bull Run]

Once a natural, always a natural.

[Triumvirate]

I have a question for the original poster: do you go out and sarge? If so, how often? Once a day? Once a week? Once amonth? Once a year?

[ninjamatt]

In Maenads defense, I can see where he is coming from.

In January he was frustrated, and he came here to look for answers and maybe vent. But his natural persona won over within a few weeks and now he's giving stellar advice. After all, it really only takes one night.

[Khaos]

Once a natural, always a natural.

Very true!

[Khaos]

I have a question for the original poster: do you go out and sarge? If so, how often? Once a day? Once a week? Once amonth? Once a year?

I go out alot.

[Khaos]

In Maenads defense, I can see where he is coming from.

In January he was frustrated, and he came here to look for answers and maybe vent. But his natural persona won over within a few weeks and now he's giving stellar advice. After all, it really only takes one night.

This is obviously veiled sarcasm. But it's almost right. When I don't think with girls, I do really well. Based on if I'm really down then I can't come up with witty stuff.