Social rejection is real pain

[Tribulus1000]

http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2003/10/ ... 7348.shtml

I'm working out again and I mentioned to a coworker about how much pain I was in and another girl had done this same exercise video and I thought she was lying because I never heard her moan and groan like I do.
Then my coworker said "Well maybe she just has a higher pain threshold. We do birth babies."

Then the wheels started turning....

Social Pain = Real Pain (in the brain its translated to real pain), and women have more pain tolerance or some people have more pain tolerance.
so perhaps....
People experience social rejection as pain at differing levels???

For me years ago, the pain of a bad date was really intense. Now its not so bad. There seems to be a gradual toleration to this "social rejection pain" over time at least for me.

This may account for many guys "giving up on women.".

Any comments?

[the_devil]

I think the idea that anticipated pain is worse than real pain relates to what you are saying. Guys that "give up" usually don't have a long list of negative experiences. Its usually a few isolated failures steming from inexperience or half-hearted attempts and then allowing that to serve as the reference for all future attempts at success. Then going in with poor examples as their only reference they only see the possiblility of negativity or failure.

When a guy gets good experiences and uses those as the reference (which only comes after experience and whole-hearted attempts at success) then rejection seems less painful because its not the only possibility.

I agree totally on people experiencing pain of rejection on different levels. When I had no experience I took rejection as deeply personal and thought it was an indicator of personal flaws. I got severely depressed and even had suicidal thoughts at some points. Now after some experience I'm at the worst momentarily annoyed and more often than not see it as humorous.