Private Forum For Active Members

[Mojo]

DallasPUA.com is being picked up by the search engines like crazy and, as a result, people from everywhere are checking out the resources on this sight including the forum. The more people the better in terms of open discussion and learning. Though, this sight is still geared toward the local community here in the Dallas - Ft. Worth area.

So it maybe a good idea to create a private forum only for us, the active members. This would definitely help keep some of the more sensitive material private, such as:

- private contact information (phone, emails, etc)
- posting pics of local girls in our field reports (without fear of being found out)
- private events just for the locals
- posting WorkShop discounts just for the active members
- posting some of the more powerful techniques
- and whatever that would need to be private...

Again, this would only be open to active members. Still deciding but this is probably what we will surely do in the future.

Any thoughts?

- Mojo

[V]

So what material exactly would be accessible to everyone else? Would you be doing this similar to what MM forums do? You have to register to see the rest of the material?

[Vector]

I've been thinking about this and I don't think I would be very comfortable posting stuff on a private forum. Not any moreso than posting stuff here.

I think the reason is that I don't think I would be automatically comfortable with whoever The Gatekeeper decides to let in. I don't expect The Gatekeeper to let in bad people but I still don't think it would be enough to make me comfortable.

It also sorta says these are the cool people and everyone else is not cool which is a kinda crappy attitude.

I think what may work better is something sorta like how myspace has private profiles. Each person has direct control over who can view the information page and blogs and so forth. I think I may set up a PUA account and make it private for this purpose. The PUA accounts would obviously have to be completely separate from any real accounts people have.

It would be tough to have a forum-like discussion in an environment where there is no single "insider" stamp of approval. For announcements, Mojo you could use a friends list as a list of active members and post bulletins for events.

[H_Raja]

The best way to go about this is to open the active forum only to people who show up for sarging events. Unless people show up, you really don't know who they are and what their intentions are.(ie if they are the real deal)

[Neuromancer]

If you have read my posts, you know I am a pretty open guy. On the one hand I like the open format for the boards, on the other hand, this board is becoming pretty big time. If you google DeuceX you will find my website at the top of the list, if you look 4 or 5 down you will find a post from this board. I post my deep and sometimes painful thoughts openly. I don't mind airing my dirty laundry for the world to see. It's cathartic. I do believe that having a private place to post stuff is good too. Not everyone likes to piss in the park. I think that privacy will allow my brothers to open up in ways that they don't feel comfortable otherwise. A private section would allow those of us who don't want to be googled to stay out of the limelight. Sure It won't stop people from joining the boards to see what we post in there but it will keep it off of google.

As for creating a disparity between the average and involved, i don't see a problem. I think elitism is a positive. It sounds strange on a basic level but, elitism draws the average in. It gives us something to strive for. Anyone can call themselves a PUA, but we all know that it takes work. Hard work. If we don't push our limits, we can't succeed. If exclusivity pushes people to do the work then we have helped. I don't want to exclude anyone but I do like being considered elite.

I am a mod on this board not because I get laid all the time but because I am here. I am interested. I am involved. I have been meeting guys on the board who say "Oh, you're DeuceX!" I want everyone to know that I am not a master, I am not a guru. I, just like everyone else, am working to better myself. that's all. I am not elite. Being a mod does not change that. A private section will not change that. I am proud of being a mod. Not because it makes me look cool but because it shows me I am going in the right direction. It actually makes me a bit self conscious to tell you the truth. I feel like I have something to live up to when I am out at events.

I don't know if you guys realize this but there is something happening here. We are doing something here. Something right. Mojo told me tonight we are in the top 1% of all web sites on the internet. This is something we did together. We make a difference to each other and the community is noticing. The world is noticing. As far as I am concerned, we are elite. We make a difference in each others lives. A private section can't change that. It can only push us to further excel. I don't want to be exclusive. I want to be inclusive. I wan't to see all of my brothers posting in a private section. I want us to be open in a way not all of us feel comfortable with in an open board. It won't keep prying eyes out but it will keep the casual snoops at bay. As my father says about locked doors, "It will keep the honest people honest."

Lets have a place we can post with an added level of security. Of privacy. Lets have a place where we can talk to each other. Just each other, and those that are truly interested. Now why can't I say that in just a few sentences?

[Vector]

Okay, as an experiment I set up an "incognito" myspace account. I've got some pics of some girls I've sarged (most of them I haven't laid.) I may post bulletins for events I plan to go to. We'll see.

http://www.myspace.com/160567139

[Neuromancer]

Okay, as an experiment I set up an "incognito" myspace account. I've got some pics of some girls I've sarged (most of them I haven't laid.) I may post bulletins for events I plan to go to. We'll see.

http://www.myspace.com/160567139

I don't get ya, what's the experiment?

[Vector]

I don't get ya, what's the experiment?

It's my own sorta "private" area where I can post FRs or pictures, or contact information or event announcements or whatever needs to be private. And only "friends" can see it, not all of dallaspua.com. It has to be separate from my regular MySpace because it may be incriminating...

[Mojo]

The majority of threads would still be posted on the open forum.

This forum would only be used for special purposes.

[BluesCluesPUA]

I think it's a good idea, as would be granting access only to people who have been at events. One thing I'm not so sure about is having that be a separate category or forum since it would probably be difficult to keep categorically organized. But if there was a way to set access on a per-post basis that would allow us to author a post in any category and then decide whether we want it accessible to everyone or only that group of people, that seems like it would be ideal.