TMI ruins fantasies

[Tribulus1000]

I was watching the new VH1 show called "Tough Love", episode 2. In that episode, the match maker guy is watching the girls on their "practice dates" and it was interesting to see what his advice was to these women.
I was reminded of a recent girl I dated who talked too much. She also talked alot about her career and was boring to me.

Then I thought a little more about "diarrhea of the mouth" and what it actually might mean, psychologically.

So if you happened to be on a date or you met some girl you like and you end up sitting down and talking, some people (men and women) have a tendency to share with the other person.

If you're in rapport with someone (or seeking it) people tend to want to share things about their lives.

Ok. You share and she shares.

My date talked about her office, gave the names of people she worked with, gave out situations and information on her boss and talked about his sexual preference (he's gay).

That's too much information. TMI as they say.

I really didn't need all of that and she told me too much.

But in terms of psych, I think it also destroyed something needed in relationships and first impressions. That being fantasy.

In NLP, they talk about trance and going "meta". The trance state is a state where things can just be.....

Generalizations. Abstractions. Not concrete things or specifics.

By giving someone too much infomation because we want to get to know them, we push them away because we ruin the fanasy that would otherwise form in their minds.

I don't have anything specific as far as a technique or something like that.

Strippers and Hookers are good at this. If a stripper tells a guy about her kids, her old man and how he won't get a job, do you think that the guy will put down some $$ for a lap dance?

Just observations.

Anyone got any comments?

[Scoundrel]

I'd have pretended to fall asleep when she started going on about her job and such ( I think you've seen me do that with a chick once).

[Stryke]

lol pretend to fall asleep while she's talking about her family classic