Alex just wants peace

[jimr08052]

Alex just wants peace

When I first decided to post this I wanted feedback as to where I went wrong, but on further reflection it bacame pretty obvious to me (or so I think) what went wrong, but I thought it is interesting and worth posting.

I was supposed to go home from Dallas to NJ last night and be at the beach in NJ today, but my flight got cancelled for engine failure and I was forced to fly out this morning.

As luck would have it, I called a friend and she had an extra ticket for the Cowboys opener and asked if I wanted to go, so I partied with her and her friend all night (no really good stories.. just hangin out) and at 5:30 i headed out to catch the 7:30 to Philly.

well on the line to security I saw this *gorgeous* girl and there was a football-looking guy w her so didnt think much about it, but then he just left so he wasnt with her.. so I went on to the gate.. really just needed to catch my flight...

well sure enuf she pops up everywhere. turns out shes at my gate, on my flight, and when i move my seat to an open area, wind up across from her (seriously not planned). so anyway, each time i was too.. hurries / hungry / busy / tired to make the approach..

so when i see her laying across from me, i look at her and right then she looks at me directly in my eyes so i decide if she continues on to Philly, ill talk to her..

long story short.. i say a couple things after we land.. shes somewhat responsive.. but then i go totally AFC.. after they annouce the flight will be full i ask to sit w her and when she says shes moving i say ok and move w her.. (hey guys, this stuff is strong.. im kicking myself as im actually doing it)

so amyway at first her body language is semi-open but then every thing i say she keeps closing it more.. but in the back of my mind is 'you always gotta try' so i back off and when we're about to land ty saying a couple things.. but shes just annoyed and says 'look im not really in the mood to talk at all. I just wanted a little peace' and you can guess where it goes from there..

anyway.. recap.. best thing was to talk to her before we even got on the plane.. i had 2 great opportunities which i completely missed for no good reason..
secondly.. once her body language was closing, should have backe off completely. pressing on is good when a chick is into you but is just testing or there are other obstacles but when her body language is definitely signalling no, pressing on shows lack of ability to read / understand body language and lack of respect for other peoples space. its also needy.

So the lessons I took from this are:
-- pressing on is not always the best course if shes pulling back, not engaging (by tests or flirting)
-- when traveling, initial interaction in the terminal is good bcs if you start on the plane she is a captive, not a willing audience
-- its important to keep in mind other peoples circumstances and understand that your need are not always the highest priority (gentleman)
-- never take any steps too soon or too needy (i.e. 'can i sit with you') better to catch her later w a 3-minute close like 'wanted to but sorry we didnt meet. can i hav ur #'

Well thats about it.. if anybody has any feedback or pointers for me i would love to hear from you.

Thanks!!