Good blog/article on the alpha male

[MagicBalls]

http://roissy.wordpress.com/2007/09/19/defining-the-alpha-male/

The comments are even better:

"It’s fascinating to see this from a male perspective. As a woman who sees the difference immediatly between an alpha and a beta, I have a slightly different explanation.

When I’m with my friends, and we are introduced to a new male, we all individually assess his status. Because we have varied tastes and interests, it is very rare that one man manages to blow all of us away. We are all varied in attractiveness, intellect, cultural background, and income. The alphiest alpha is the guy who can meet and exceed all of our expectations.

Obviously, there have been very few men who have done thsi, but here are several examples:

1) Mr. L: Mr. L is 6′4, very broad, athletic, and rugged looking. He had managed to hook up with at least 4 girls in my immediate circle of friends. Because he had such a great character, none of us had any hard feelings about him not wanting to actually date any of us. We just accepted it, because he was good looking and nice. Mr. L has a very large penis, though I do not know from experience. Mr. L is decently intelligent, and is so confident and kindhearted that even my most intellectually-inclined friends did not mind. Sophomore year of college he fell in love with one of my (very beautiful, kind, and intelligent) good friends, and they have recently gotten married. Overall his alphaness is a sum of the following: natural confidence (not cockiness), him clearly being the most dominant man in the room, good looks, large size, great personality, no hang ups about ever being a beta because he was never one, and amazing heart.

2) Mr. M: Mr. M is also tall, quite handsome in a pretty boy way, and also very kind. He has been my ex boyfriend’s best friend since high school. One night three of my girl friend’s met him at bar, and individually decided that he was above and beyond the alphiest of the guys they’d seen all night. He engages you in a conversation, he pays attention to your every word, and he took great care to make sure we all got home safe. He is a natural- he does not do anything just to get girls, because the girls flock to him regardless of what he does. Again, his alphaness can be summed up: good looks, height, attention to detail, the fact that he is a very good friend, and amazing heart.

3) Mr. D: I have known Mr. D since I was like 15 because he took violin lessons with my little sister. He is tall, dark, and handsome. His parents make him work for his tuition, violin lessons, dorm, etc. Because he wanted to fit in with American boys, he adopted the typical cool/macho attitude of fratty mcdouches. A lot of women find this attitude quite sexy, I do not. However, once a girl sits down and talk to him and discovers how humble and hard-working he is, she is bound to fall for him. His girlfriends are always 9s and 10s. Alphaness: looks, confidence, humility, and an amazing heart. Again, I give him an A- in alpha for the cockiness, but that’s just a personal pet peeve.

Notice what both of these guys have in common- they are kind men, because they never have to act like jerks to get women. I have many other examples if you want me to share, but I think you get the point: most women can totally smell if your confidence is substantial or if it’s a front. To be the alphiest alpha, it has to be genuine and have had to have been that way for his whole life. I’m sure the converted betas do quite well, but not as well."

[parametric_dc]

The alpha thing is a paradox and, IMO, 95% of the PUA community doesn't get it.

I don't consider myself to be an alpha male (more of a rogue who just does his own thing / march to be beat of my own drum), but I've known enough in my life to recognize what this paradox is.


In short, it's being so confident in yourself than you can actually engage in certain behaviors that might be considered beta without losing status. Why? Because the person you are inside isn't threatened by it. Examples:


- you can be friends with a girl who isn't attracted to you without feelings of inferiority.

- you can spend time in public with people who have low social status (morbidly obese women, really dorky guys, etc) and not give a shit about what other people think.

- you don't have to treat girls poorly (this is the dead giveaway behavior that a beta is trying to hide behind an alpha mask).


- you can walk away from a fight or laugh when some tool tries to AMOG you.


- you can put others first.


These are examples I've seen in various alphas I've known throughout my life. Unfortunately, the community has bought into this idea that a genuine alpha is some self-absorbed, tyrannical egomaniac who will defend his "position" at all costs at all times. Lame.

Alpha males aren't badasses, they're just self-actualized.

[greenboy]

wow, great stuff!

[Slick85]

theyre all good looking lol

[Dax]

90% of all interaction with women builds on 3 main factors that a man can choose to ignore or to embrace. These are dominating, straightforward sexuality and the surplus of energy.

Isn't this "just a description" of what you think are the 3 main factors?

[Slick85]

ive been a dick to girls before and that has made them want to fuck me, i know a lot of genuine guys and not all of them get laid consistnetly... being super nice and attentive only works if your very physically attractive, but if your not... even if your above average but not smokin hot being too genuine fucks you

[Dax]

90% of all interaction with women builds on 3 main factors that a man can choose to ignore or to embrace. These are dominating, straightforward sexuality and the surplus of energy.

Isn't this "just a description" of what you think are the 3 main factors?

Well, if you want to grasp the idea of the alpha-male then take it apart and see what it's made out of.

I did and here you go

Thanks George!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I really hope you will continue to provide myself and the rest of the community w/ your groundbreaking epiphanies...

-eager student